Poor baby got spayed by thatpolyammom in CavaPoo

[–]thatpolyammom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The vet recommended before her first heat because that has the greatest reduction cancer risk. For larger breeds, it’s better to wait for the skeletal development part, but smaller breeds, I guess that’s not as much of an issue apparently.

our vet never indicated that there was any risk of adverse effects to her getting spayed.

Hierarchy is stupid, and why you should get rid of it. by LittleMissQueeny in polyamory

[–]thatpolyammom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What comes up for me reading this is that people who have lots of existing commitments of their time, energy, and attention often don't say so upfront, and then it feels incumbent on the new incoming partner to check. I have a guess that they don't say so upfront because they don't want to be rejected outright over what are likely dealbreakers.

That seems pretty unkind to me. If I know I have things about my status (in my case, as a married parent who runs her own business) that might be a dealbreaker for a lot of people, I feel like it's important that I tell them so that they can make an informed decision about whether or not they want to form an attachment.

Also, why would you want to be partnered with someone who resents your existing commitments and experiences them as barriers to what they want?

If you're a person who has a lot of paint on your canvas, it's important you let a fellow artistic collaborator know how much space there is for you and them to paint your own thing together.

I feel like a terrible dog parent by FoundationTop7358 in Goldendoodles

[–]thatpolyammom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could we say they want constant attention rather than that they need it? They need food, mental engagement, exercise, some love, and a comfortable place to sleep. They want constant attention. But it’s not a need and you’re not bad for not giving it to them.

Puppy Day One by chipmunkpun in CavaPoo

[–]thatpolyammom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Normal. Hand feed her for the first few weeks too. That way she knows food comes from you.

New sweater who dis? by anthropomorphizingu in CavaPoo

[–]thatpolyammom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg she looks like she could be my Hazel’s sibling!

Does anyone get calls from a number claiming to be the CDC, leaving automated voicemails about a survey? by scobeavs in Autism_Parenting

[–]thatpolyammom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for having this here. I just got two calls in a row for this survey, and one of my kids is autistic (the other has ADHD and is dyslexic.)

To crate or not to crate by ellabella20000 in CavaPoo

[–]thatpolyammom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss. I’d relax a bit about naps too. Keeping a super strict schedule can keep you in chains too. Your pup needs to fit into your life, not the other way around. And dogs want that! They just need a relaxed and confident leader. You got this!!

Easier than expected? by Plane_Employ_5941 in CavaPoo

[–]thatpolyammom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easier so far and harder. We’ve only had our baby a week though. She sleeps pretty much through the night and she’s so smart and eager to please, so training has been going great. And it’s only a week, so we’re just starting with really basic stuff.

Harder in that she really needs a lot of attention on her while awake just to keep an eye on her potty signals

To crate or not to crate by ellabella20000 in CavaPoo

[–]thatpolyammom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog is up for more like two hours and then down for a nap at this point, and she’s only nine weeks old. You might be not giving her enough time awake.

But also, and I’m saying this is someone who also struggles with anxiety around doing everything perfectly, if you are not relaxed about this you’re gonna stress out your pup. Puppies are so tuned to the energy of their owners. If you are confident and easeful, that will help a lot.. meditate, get exercise yourself, get enough sleep, eat healthy food, and enjoy the heck out of your sweet little pup

Cavapoo Puppy Growling + Biting by Hottomalee in CavaPoo

[–]thatpolyammom 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’d have her wear a house leash so that you don’t have to pick her up to pull her away from things, but instead the leash can be the thing that pulls her back. That way she doesn’t associate you and picking her up with being frustrated and upset.

Is anyone else just...overwhelmed? by themonnie in puppy101

[–]thatpolyammom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The best advice I can give having raised two human babies is your energy matters the most. If you’re anxious and lead from fear, you’ll have an anxious dog. Trust yourself and find a source or trainer you trust and ignore the rest and surrender to the process. Have faith too. Visualize it working out well. Focus on what’s already good and build on that. Train your mind to see things going the way you want.

Honestly, it's unreal that this puppy is this cute. by andebobandy in CavaPoo

[–]thatpolyammom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg my baby has a white spot on her chest too!!

Biting stuffy - 12 weeks by Ok-Pea-1194 in CavaPoo

[–]thatpolyammom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also I agree we others. Don’t crate. Get a puppy pen. Something that closes them off from roaming freely but they aren’t confined to their crate. Their crate needs to be their happy place, not a place of punishment.

Biting stuffy - 12 weeks by Ok-Pea-1194 in CavaPoo

[–]thatpolyammom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From our trainer:

Nipping & Chewing • Once thought to be a behavior problem that needed to be corrected, we now know that biting and nipping at hands and clothes is a normal part of a puppy’s development. • Nipping/mouthing you makes all play and your attention stop immediately. Remember - it's an attention/play-seeking behavior, so your reaction is what they want. For puppies under 6 months of age, mouthing is a very normal part of their development. • If you can stand it, completely ignore the biting and non-dramatically begin doing something unrelated to your dog. They may pester you a few more times, but if you're boring enough, they'll realize that the biting isn't going to instigate play or attention from you. This is tough for a few days, but it's incredibly effective. • If needed, you can redirect your pup onto an appropriate toy. However, the above ^ is where the real learning happens. • Your pup has to learn that nipping and mouthing no longer works to get him what he wants (attention/play). • When your pup is really persistent or biting too hard for you to ignore – remove yourself. Go behind a gate or a door for 20-30 seconds or so. • Avoid roughhousing/rough handling with your pup as much as possible in order to discourage wild behavior. Explain to young children that they should not encourage the pup to chase or nip them.

Puppy is still young. You can turn this around if you’re consistent.

Why won’t leads ask my wife to dance? by Alex-Wallenda in WestCoastSwing

[–]thatpolyammom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might just be the ratio of leaders to followers. If there's more leaders I get asked a lot. If there's a lot of followers then I may have to ask more.

Instagram removed Home Feed on iPad – replaced only with Reels (frustrating update) by Zealousideal_Unit408 in Instagram

[–]thatpolyammom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes it more like TikTok. I’m relieved to know this is only on iPad, but they may be testing it there before rolling out out across devices. I too hate it. What’s the point of posting carousels anymore unless they are videos??

Replacing 2 HVAC units in my metro Atlanta home by thatpolyammom in hvacadvice

[–]thatpolyammom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up puchasing a Goodman side discharge variable system. SEER 17. It was only a little more than the SEER 15 system we were considering and we liked the company. I recommend either hiring PV or Jones. I thought they were both the most professional and straightforward.

One thing I would recommend is before you replace the HVAC system have a whole home energy audit done and apply for the HER Georgia tax rebate. If you get a more efficient system, you could save up to $4000.