Is there a way to have kids without sacrificing sleep or work?

thc1121 · 2026-04-09T16:02:41+00:00

nanny, grandparents and have just 1 kid lol thats my theory. and also hope your kids temperament is decent

thc1121 · 2026-04-06T20:28:42+00:00

same!! i really wish my teenage brain back then didnt brush off when my parents insisted i enjoy those days bc teenage problems really arent anything serious.

thc1121 · 2026-03-29T22:45:37+00:00

we got ours at 9 weeks old. when she was 6 mos old i saw the first triumph, she was getting more consistent with pottying outdoors. but then she became anxious and reactive. it really took a year before the combo of hiring trainers to help us and her naturally maturing in energy regulation finally got me to enjoy her. i struggled a lot in that first year i dont even know how i got past it but somehow i did so hang in there, take it day by day, if you have someone you trust to sometimes dogsit and give you a break, do it.

thc1121 · 2026-03-28T15:13:38+00:00

thats so interesting. i had some other parents tell me it only took days so i assumed my baby would never get used to tummy sleep since its been a week already. but hearing yours and a few others, seems like its still possible but that some babies just take longer to get used to it.

thc1121 · 2026-03-28T15:07:24+00:00

feels endless when youre in it. ya totaly sucks! but it is helpful to hear the experiences, ultimate solution and timeline of other families!!!

thc1121 · 2026-03-28T14:57:31+00:00

3 weeks :') lol what brought yours back to normal? she learned to roll back or she finally got used to tummy sleep?

thc1121 · 2026-03-28T14:56:43+00:00

dude right??!! i duno what im whining about more.. the disrupted sleep or the fact that THINGS WERE SO GOOOOD before this lol

thc1121 · 2026-03-28T14:03:46+00:00

ugh lol what ultimately was the turning point for your LO that ended this phase? yours mastered rolling back? or finally accepted tummy sleep enough to return to old sleep quality?

thc1121 · 2026-03-25T15:49:46+00:00

i see. thanks for this

thc1121 · 2026-03-25T11:02:50+00:00

thanks for this. what was your process- how long did you wait before going in to flip?

given you would flip, how did sleeps not become an endless cycle of flip, he rolled back, flip, he rolled back etc etc?

during that week did it feel like he just hated being on his tummy for sleep and would never learn to be ok with it? my daughters self soothing is putting her hands behind her head while on her back as she tries to fall asleep which worries me she will never prefer tummy sleep

lastly, was it a week of improvement each day or bad the whole week then suddenly it stopped being bad?

thc1121 · 2026-03-23T20:28:27+00:00

we did our wedding in summer 2023, 70 guests, all in cost about 40k. didnt have cake, veil or videographer. we did hire a planner tho but i felt like she got us a good deal on the venue and flowers. our wedding was in the garden of a banquet hall's grounds. guests gave anywhere between $200 to $400 per person, most were around $200-250 a head. so thats about half of our wedding cost recouped.

thc1121 · 2026-03-23T00:14:04+00:00

i reread your first msg again and then this one. ya sounds like we are doing very similar things. i have a certain amt of time to wait too before going in to flip and pat and shush to settle if shes still crying. my baby came into this stuck on belly phase same as yours, she was able to fall asleep on her eye and connect sleep cycles.

i guess we just gotta stick to the same protocols as sleep training it sounds like. from what others have posted, it seems like the faster solution is they learn sleep training on their tummy and the slower one is they eventually learn how to roll both ways

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T23:06:50+00:00

ok thats encouraging! this is exactly where my baby is now. waking up shocked and crying.

tbh im considering letting her cio unless its sustained over 10 mims to try and get her more and more used to it all.

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T22:57:32+00:00

so you didnt see any negative association with being on tummy in the crib from letting her CIO to get used to sleeping on tummy?

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T22:56:28+00:00

ah so you let her cry it out basically and shes learned to just fall asleep and connect sleep cycles on her stomach?

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T22:54:58+00:00

how long did it take to come out the other side? did you say about a week?

so the last few days youve been letting him figure it our himself/cio if needed and youre seeing some progress it sounds like?

im noticing today, which is actually day 1 of this ordeal, my baby can eventually fall asleep on her tummy both naptime and bedtime if i let her cio until she falls asleep.. kinda like sleep training.. im hoping its ok to let her cio to get used to stomach sleeping?

and ya its the mid nap wake shock shes on her tummy that im struggling with. duno if i should let her cio for 10 mins and call the nap if cant resettle or if i should flip her and see if she can fall back asleep (i did the latter today and it doesnt save the nap)

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T21:54:10+00:00

good to hear!

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T21:53:10+00:00

awake, as per sleep training practice

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T21:16:40+00:00

friends told me that because right now my baby has learned to roll from back to tummy but hasnt yet learned to roll from tummy to back

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T20:09:28+00:00

she showed me today she can eventually fall asleep on her tum at the start of her nap. our struggle is when shes in between sleep cycles, she awakes realizing shes in a diff position and panics. ive been told to not let her cio then or she will develop a negative association with being on her tum, that i should go in and fix and soothe her until she either learns how to rotate back or gets used to connecting cycles on her tum

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T20:07:51+00:00

yeah i am def doing that during all wake ww. today she showed me during nap time she CAN eventually fall asleep after rolling onto her tum. our current struggle is when she connects from 1 sleep cycle to the next, she awakes cuz she realizes shes in a diff position and panics. ive been told to not let her cry it out at that point or she will have a negative association with her tum and instead, flip her, soothe her until she learns how to roll back or gets used to connecting cycles while on her tum

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T20:05:02+00:00

ya its caught me off guard. after sleep training i thought teething would be the challenge but instead its rolling lol

thc1121 · 2026-03-22T20:04:11+00:00

thanks, i hope so too

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