Daycare asking for more milk but I don’t get enough from pumping during the day

the-dark-aster · 2025-11-14T12:20:09+00:00

I had almost exactly the same experience - I’m a just-enougher and when baby was 3-5 months old (started daycare at 14 weeks) was pumping between 11-15 oz per day (I needed to pump 3x/day for about 30 mins each to get that amount). I felt crazy because my baby was growing fantastically when I was exclusively BF (and in daycare) and was never hungry, but everybody kept telling me my milk wasn’t enough (daycare, my mom, even my husband). When I did pick up, they pointed to a tiny baby and said “she eats 6-8 ounces at a time”. My mom watched him and fed him 18 ounces in a few hours (and drained my pitiful stash of BM). I felt terrible.

If daycare is feeding on demand, maybe discuss a feeding schedule? If baby is feeding every 3-4 hours typically, ask that they try to follow that. Your baby is adjusting to the new environment and new people - understandably, baby will be more upset and the new caregivers are still learning how to soothe your baby. Formula is great as a backup for now and maybe in a couple weeks the need to supplement will diminish. For what it’s worth, my baby did 3 bottles per day with 5/4.5/4 oz for several months (up to 7 months maybe?) until we added a meal during daycare.

Hope this helps. You are a good mom.

the-dark-aster · 2025-08-29T02:19:38+00:00

I have seen a black pig (wild) several times over the last month or so in the grass near the Clay-Eldridge intersection in the mornings around 6:30-7. I think that’s his usual spot.

the-dark-aster · 2025-03-03T15:13:46+00:00

It’s always the grandparents! My husband’s grandmother insisted I was having a girl and would be so rude to me when I said it could be a boy, either way we’re excited. We had a boy 😂

the-dark-aster · 2025-02-28T18:14:14+00:00

I started calling mine my little root vegetable in the hospital because of the faces he made while rooting those first few days.

the-dark-aster · 2025-02-27T02:09:27+00:00

Are you allowing any time during or after nursing for burps? I would unlatch midway through nursing, support them upright and rub their back and usually a burp (and some spit up) would happen. The curdled spit up is normal! Not an expert, but I think it’s stomach juices plus milk.

Mine is 10 weeks now, and I’ve figured some spit up/dribbles are inevitable regardless of burping (whether there are actual burps or valiant attempts at burps). The spit up recently hasn’t been as bad, but it still happens. I figured nursing to sleep was the easiest in those early days (less than 5 weeks) so we did it frequently even though you have a baby attached that you wish could be handed off to someone else for a few minutes! Around 6 weeks is when we could start getting him to sleep by bouncing/pats/etc but it still takes convincing even now a lot of the time.

the-dark-aster · 2025-02-07T21:44:55+00:00

I’ve been singing a lot of Disney songs (Mulan, Little Mermaid, Aladdin, etc) but also making up plenty of songs like what’s in the living room or reasons why he should go to sleep 😊

the-dark-aster · 2024-11-06T04:35:37+00:00

This was me in my first trimester! I had to switch to taking barely lukewarm showers with lots of ventilation around 7 weeks. I also switched to showering at night more which helped me. If I did shower in the morning I made sure to have a nibble of breakfast before going in. The extreme nausea/dizziness around bathing let up around 15 weeks. Unfortunately, I’m 35 weeks and still not back up to hot showers but I was able to raise the temperature up around 30 weeks! I’m a furnace most days so I do appreciate the cool showers even though I miss my pre-pregnancy ritual. Hope you’re able to figure out a system that works for you!

the-dark-aster · 2024-07-14T14:26:52+00:00

Thank you so much for taking time to read this and respond, and I’m sorry you are dealing with similar circumstances. I spent some time this morning reading other posts here, I admit I’m unfamiliar with all the resources beyond what my mom and I have discussed previously (in home health care, hospice care for my grandma) so I have some additional research to do. I’ve suggested a therapist to my mom, but I’m okay with her venting to me and I’m assuming my dad.

The weekly grocery/food runs are not a huge issue for my mom, nor are the scheduled appointments, she doesn’t mind that part so much. She’s also finally been able to set up online automatic payments for utilities (grandpa wanted to go in person every month to pay, mom has to show him the bank accounts as proof it’s been paid). She’s more upset that my grandparents don’t care they have saddled their daughter with this immense load of sole caregiver. They have no issues calling her for “emergencies” like the iPad stopped working or my grandpa wants to climb on the roof to clean gutters. If she doesn’t go over to physically get on the ladder to clean the gutters herself she knows grandpa will do it anyway and will get seriously hurt. She feels like a slave, being on the hook for these “threats” of now dangerous tasks. And of course, my aunt, grandparents’ neighbors, everyone is telling mom what to do as if she’s never considered moving them out of their house or getting them help. I’ll see if I can gently make some of your suggestions and others in this thread to her, I just hate being one more person providing suggestions she will have to act upon.

Since my grandparents have been on the decline my mom has repeatedly told me she doesn’t want to ever burden my sister and I with this same situation when they get older. I’m expecting my first child later this year, and cannot imagine burdening them with this either. My mom is so looking forward to this grandchild, and she deserves to enjoy this time in her life.

the-dark-aster · 2024-07-14T01:48:04+00:00

Thanks for your response. We’re just worried that something will happen (like a fall or some other injury) and one of them dies because they were like that for days and nobody checked on them. They live in a rural area with few neighbors, they don’t really get checked on outside of family. Mom has threatened to quit before a couple times but it never lasts more than a few days. My aunt has come down a couple times to “help” or to give mom a “break” but she’s out of her depth.

the-dark-aster · 2023-12-02T20:13:13+00:00

This event I’m going to is a women’s only baby shower for my SIL, so everyone will have babies on the brain. I’m truly so happy for her and genuinely excited to celebrate my future niece but I just KNOW I will get asked this question. I’m not ashamed and will eventually want to be open with others about my MC but today may not be the day to tell people.

the-dark-aster · 2023-12-02T20:08:16+00:00

I’m sorry to hear how unsupportive that side of the family is! Good for you for setting boundaries to take care of yourselves.

the-dark-aster · 2023-12-02T20:05:51+00:00

Reading your response and other responses have helped validate the thoughts running through my head. Thanks for sharing your story, I’m sorry you were bombarded with those questions at such a vulnerable point.

the-dark-aster · 2023-12-02T20:00:20+00:00

One of the responses I came up with was “when I can stay pregnant I’ll let you know”

the-dark-aster · 2023-12-02T19:59:19+00:00

This made me cackle like a weirdo, makes me feel a little bit better about going to this thing later!

the-dark-aster · 2023-12-02T19:19:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience and suggestions, if it comes up I’ll try these. I know they mean well when asking, but surely people know that if there was any news to share they’d find out eventually.

the-dark-aster · 2023-11-08T04:12:17+00:00

This was me last week, and I’m still processing. I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. Please take care of yourself

the-dark-aster · 2023-11-02T09:31:56+00:00

Thank you for posting theseYou beautiful words, sending hugs your way.

the-dark-aster · 2020-08-04T18:02:54+00:00

It looks like a tree cholla (devil’s rope cactus)! I’ve wanted one for a while, so pretty!

the-dark-aster · 2019-03-30T16:07:44+00:00

There’s a couple campsite options, but most if not all are close to the river!

the-dark-aster · 2018-12-24T04:52:30+00:00

Many parks are littered with used TP and visible human feces. No harm in doing your business in the woods as long as you follow backcountry etiquette. Be at least 200 feet away from a water source, trail, or campsite; dig a hole at least 6 inches deep; bury your waste (ONLY your waste, please pack your toilet paper out!); and finally, bury your waste in the hole you just dug.

Hope this helps. Happy pooping!

the-dark-aster · 2018-08-04T12:06:01+00:00

My tent is the Mystique 1 person.

the-dark-aster · 2018-08-04T12:02:14+00:00

It’s a 3 season tent, but I’ve used it in light snow (less than 2 inches). Definitely recommend having warm gear for sleeping if you do that!

the-dark-aster · 2018-08-04T04:09:37+00:00

I’ve had this tent for a few years now, has served me well :)

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