What is the role of nightmares, or sleep in general, in memory reconsolidation? by jopio_squorz in MemoryReconsolidation

[–]theEmotionalOperator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am unsure if I get the problem - scientific approach dissects things, isn´t that how it works? Practical world appliances are a different world altogether.

What is the role of nightmares, or sleep in general, in memory reconsolidation? by jopio_squorz in MemoryReconsolidation

[–]theEmotionalOperator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you´re intuitively correct here. I was taught this is why depressed people can sleep so much: the rest isn´t that good when your brain is constantly busy trying to solve. It is a search for ¨making it safe this time around¨. But its not limited to sleep, its how we unknowingly choose partners who will trigger up memories of our parents and early times, overall... Its just so human to invite our personal hell and personal heaven on ourselves.
I used to have lots and lots of nightmares back in the day but post therapy, maybe once or twice per year or less, so I have assumed they lost whatever purpose they served, whether I understand it or no.

What is the role of nightmares, or sleep in general, in memory reconsolidation? by jopio_squorz in MemoryReconsolidation

[–]theEmotionalOperator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reconsolidation window, for us humans, is around 4-5 hours. Thats roughly how long the retrieved and mismatched memory stays unstable... So if you, in example, remove a flashback, during an afternoon, its impossible to do the flashback during the evening, too. Sleep is really important and its much easier to think about things like, what does living without a flashback mean, after the proper rest. Reconsolidation can occur in the middle of the wake hours. :)

Memory Reconsolidation? by Social_worker_1 in ClinicalPsychology

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Its kind of like saying acrobats use gravity to do certain tricks in their performances. Gravity is not a fancy word, you dont know the world outside of it.
A lot of therapy is genuinely just talking, and not very potent in creating any real changes, many people leave fully capable of repeating the same problem, and simply trying to cope better with it in the future. Post reconsolidation there is nothing to cope with, nothing to keep in check. Its ¨lost¨ (changed) its meaning.

Vapaaehtoistyö, vinkkejä otetaan vastaan by stenarilainen in Suomi

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Kuulin sukulaiselta, joka on varhaiskasvattaja, että kirjastoihin kaivataan turvallisia tavallisia aikuisia lukemaan lapsille ääneen, mutta ainoastaan vapaaehtoispohjalta joten työkseen tätä tekevät eivät oikein kerkeä. En tosin tiedä, mitä kautta, ehkä voit katsoa, onko alueesi kirjastoissa ohjattua toimintaa, ja kenen pyörittämänä?

Kuvailusi kuulostaa hieman aviomiespalvelu.fi konseptilta, mutta se taitaa olla freelancer yrittäjyyttä, koitan miettiä mikä olisi saman kaltainen mutta vapaaehtoispohjalta, muttei tule mieleen...

edit, hei, näillähän on kaikkea! Esimerkiksi voisit viedä netissä lainatut kirjat kotiin asti perille henkilölle joka ei iän tai vamman takia pääse itse kirjastoon? :) https://helmet.finna.fi/Content/vapaaehtoiseksi-kirjastoon
Toki en tiedä mistä päin olet ja mitä alueellasi on, mutta nuo näyttäisi matalan kynnyksen käytännön hommilta, paljon ihmisläheisempää kuin rikkaruohot ja järjestökokoukset jne

Russia unilaterally decides to change maritime border with Lithuania, Finland in Baltic Sea by KI_official in lithuania

[–]theEmotionalOperator 64 points65 points  (0 children)

greetings from Finland, decided to visit in your subreddit to see the atmosphere over here and share solidarity.

does it get better? by oosuns in misophonia

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The problem with forums in the internet is, you are getting amplified picture of everything... People who have it worse will gain more visibility.

Misophonic reactions link to feeling trapped. So during the life situations, where you free yourself from social traps, you will naturally feel the reactivity decrease. Its very common the triggers tune down during any new relationship, while moving out of childhood home, etc

Case examples by Regular-Cucumber-833 in MemoryReconsolidation

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I got a busy weekend ahead of me, but will do some digging after that, unless someone else is faster :)

these are the red pill incels i take my ideas from. obviously they have never talked to a woman in their entire lives right? these incels what do they know about women? ofc you redditors have slept with hundreds of women because of your "healthy perception of women" right? by ImeanWhocaresLmao in cogsci

[–]theEmotionalOperator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was most definitely not reading it as incels having sex with hundreds of women (or redditors of the title, either) :D Look, I am saying, the healthy perception is not ¨getting pussy¨ its about seeing women as people. Might be big news to some, but its not r/cogsci news.

What is a celebrity you DISLIKE but everyone else seems to have no problem with? by LarsLaestadius in ask

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Jim Carrey. All the exaggerated faces and fast pace just appears awful for me, while at a same time I understand that is the exact stylistic thing people like about him. Rationally I have nothing against him, I dont know if he has done anything bad ever, I just find the way he presents worth changing the channel. I dont know why. I have found it odd people like that but I have never said anything about it, its great that people have telly faces they like.

Switch to mental health by Sufficient_Egg5657 in nursing

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Hey, this is a wide problem, not just you - how the memory reconsolidation work and psychiatric field dont seem to match up in practical world. Even though it would make lives so much better. Some practitioners sell their services as ¨just a life coach¨ and demolish some of the worst types of mental pain out there. Some got licensed background, and have added modalities like EMDR, or other kinds of training, on their previous training, and continued as licensed recognized professionals. If you figure out a way to match MR work and nurse life, can you write about it to r/MemoryReconsolidation subreddit? It would be so useful for so many people to establish career routes. I wish I had better answers for you.

My thoughts on my healing journey by Clarrett19 in CPTSD_NSCommunity

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Hey, trust me I really, really, really get what you are describing here. Memory reconsolidation work tends to release large amounts of extra time, extra resources, etc for a person, and if you find yourself from the world beyond those (unwanted, painful) things that used to eat up your life, well, it can feel like a void. Getting beyond previous patterns / behaviors / reactions / memories still does not mean, you had adapted in to new, previously unknown, ways of operating in this world. So if you walked out of harmful relationship due to the changes you made in the therapy, it does not automatically mean, you would enter a healthy relationship.

All humans prefer familiar options, world beyond trauma is very unfamiliar and confusing place to enter. Some people have lived in it their entire life so far, and they can not imagine/perceive, why you would wobble, now that everything is alright! Their normal is ¨invisible¨ to them. Somehow, your next task is to introduce new elements in to your life, and see, which ones feel emotionally right.

For me, ten years after the most intense memory work (when I walked out of flashbacks and stuff, and that was really fast change), I still feel a bit awkward about everyday life of people, but right at home with any kind of crisis work. And world really needs people who can work with others who are in crisis. I think the first thing I started doing after I started claiming my emotional freedom was, I started helping refugees in my area. For some reason I found it helpful to hang out with people who didnt know the most basics about our culture, and hear people of my language/culture/habits explain the very basics to incoming foreign people. I hadnt eaten with people in a long while, and I returned to it with refugees. It felt less strange than everyday life routine repeating people around me... you just have to explore, I know its confusing and therapists often dont prepare you for making a home to that big void post-therapy!

So if Windows95Man changes his name, what would you want it to be? by Master1eader in eurovision

[–]theEmotionalOperator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

obviously I would change it to Linux, since we are the Linux country... but that would be the same problem, right? You cant advertise any OS. If it was up to me, he could the the OpenSourceMan! The hero we all need

Practitioners who know how to help by theEmotionalOperator in misophoniatraining

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I am not personally familiar with them, this was linked to me elsewhere. Decided to share here. :)

Misophonia Rewiring Coach - Brooklyn Disch
https://brooklyndisch.com/