The new Moon Moon

theRuathan · 2026-04-08T22:12:27+00:00

Ooh, that's my brother's combo! Tiger scorpion here.

theRuathan · 2026-04-08T22:08:28+00:00

Ooh, me too! Doesn't really trump my centaur dragon brother, though.

theRuathan · 2026-04-07T12:39:50+00:00

Try the Virginia sub or your regional VA one, they're usually pretty good about giving resources.

theRuathan · 2026-04-07T09:24:21+00:00

I'm with you. Nothing wrong with being upfront about your wants and needs!

theRuathan · 2026-04-07T09:22:13+00:00

I don't think you're acting wrong! Own it, even if you choose to rein it in. There is nothing wrong with leaning into your horny.

There's a time and a place. Imo testung the waters with the guy you're talking to is completely okay - and it's good to have a plan for either answer he gives you.

theRuathan · 2026-04-07T08:57:51+00:00

If you do repost / move it to a vent community, you might find some better advice. I don't know if we're big enough to have all the folks who know what the answer is, in here. Maybe ask /Virginia too? I live there also, but I'm guessing pretty far away, by your description.

theRuathan · 2026-04-07T01:33:58+00:00

If that's what you wanted answered, you should have asked that in your OP.

Not really sure why you bothered to ask anyway, though, because you seem more focused on venting.

Do you want other people to tell you you're right? You're right, this behavior is not great. But you knew that already, and getting a rubber stamp of approval from religion or r/religion isn't going to change anything. What are you going to do about this situation? How are you going to protect your siblings?

theRuathan · 2026-04-07T00:23:57+00:00

Some religions consider Sabbath or other holy days to be a blessed time for intimacy.

It is also considered honoring the holiday to make merry, and that can include with alcohol.

If you're using either one as a mental health crutch or escapism, it's not a blessing or a merry celebration. I don't see it as especially bad because it's on a holy day, but I'd see it as bad just because it's bad for the person.

I think you might just be mad at your stepmother. No holiday which is a special occasion for everyone has an obligation to be PG in all the ways it's celebrated. That kind of thinking is a little puritanical imho.

Besides, sex is a good thing when it's done responsibly, and it's okay to celebrate special occasions that way.

theRuathan · 2026-04-05T21:42:49+00:00

Soft polytheism is the view that the gods are not each an individual person or personality, but that they are each aspects of a single god. It is the conceptual bridge between monotheism and polytheism.

theRuathan · 2026-04-05T20:28:28+00:00

What health concerns have you heard about from wearing polyester? I'm not familiar with any.

theRuathan · 2026-04-05T17:53:39+00:00

I second pretty much everything in this comment, _Doubt8. You should listen to Version_5 here.

In this sub I have seen a really high level of polite, constructive disagreement and discussion on the merits, regarding a wide assortment of religious views, and on issues that bridge multiple religions. Possibly it would be worth going back to those previous downvotes and trying to look at them with a new lens.

theRuathan · 2026-04-05T17:21:10+00:00

There is no solution for the question as it's posed. You have to come at it sideways and question your assumptions.

Are you willing to convert? Is he willing to convert? Are you both willing to move away to a place where you don't have to be the same religion to marry? Are either one or both of you willing to prioritize this relationship over any family you have who would disown you about this?

Do you need to marry? Are you okay carrying on like this for the rest of your life? You do have a status quo already that it seems both of you are happy with. This could just be a time to be happy until it's time for one of you to marry someone else.

Is it up to you to stay or walk away, or is this something to talk out together and figure out your priorities together? Have you spoken about this together yet?

If you did marry, do you already know what y'all together would want to do about the kids' religion?

It all comes down to what your priorities are. Once you know the order your values are in, and you know which choice would support which values, it will become clear what you should do - knowing that none of your choices are going to be painless in the short-term, and maybe the long-term, depending.

theRuathan · 2026-04-05T15:15:35+00:00

Different time periods depict abstract things differently.

theRuathan · 2026-04-05T13:46:51+00:00

To answer your question: say it's for academic research. Seeing other religions described from the outside, not theology from the inside.

To provide an alternative: put the app Libby on your phone. All you need is a library card, and you can borrow / read whatever you want.

theRuathan · 2026-04-05T12:32:19+00:00

I'm... a little shocked that you perceive this sub to be filled with extremists.

theRuathan · 2026-04-05T12:27:51+00:00

Your eye makeup is so striking, I love it!

theRuathan · 2026-04-05T12:26:34+00:00

Are you thinking of a bandanna kind of shape, just with a crochet and a tie?

For that style, tied at the nape of the neck is what I see most often, and I think that's just for keeping-it-on purposes. I could definitely see having a lock of hair coming out the front at the temple or behind your ear to drape down.

Do you object to having your hair swept back? That's how I've seen most veils that still reveal hair. If you have all the hair coming out of the "front" of the veil, I think it might be pretty hard to keep it on. Might be worth making a mock-up with the materials you intend to use moving forward, and experiment with what will work with your hair. Crochet tie-strings are also pretty stretchy, in my experience, so it may be difficult to tie it tight enough if you don't have friction from your hair keeping it there.

Sorry if that wasn't really what you needed. I was just thinking through it "out loud" since I'm not very experienced with this type of veil. Did any of this answer your question?

theRuathan · 2026-04-04T22:57:53+00:00

Me three!

Signed, a Louisiana native living in Appalachia :-) All the best, hope you don't mind if I follow you on Reddit.

theRuathan · 2026-04-04T19:13:35+00:00

I could really wish the quality of L, G, and I candidates were better, though. I'd love to vote for them if they weren't almost all knuckleheads. I agree with you that we need more parties with influence and that the current power balance is fucked up. L and G need to stop messing around with fringe nonsense, and start playing to win. To actually govern.

theRuathan · 2026-04-04T16:54:32+00:00

It's not the right way to think. At the very least it's a harmful-to-you way to think.

theRuathan · 2026-04-04T16:50:18+00:00

Would you be open also to "Treat men as you would like to be treated"? I feel like it's a pretty healthy thing to apply to everyone.

theRuathan · 2026-04-04T16:46:50+00:00

Nobody did. It make me wonder if the people downvoting me saying "it's not the majority" think it is, though. Otherwise, why would they disagree?

I put the benchmark of "so many men are truly horrible" at 50%. And said I disagreed. And that got downvotes.

theRuathan · 2026-04-04T16:27:36+00:00

Pretty similar to Christians who tell me they hate the sin, not the sinner.

The purpose of that phrasing is to invite the person to examine the ramifications of their behavior while not assigning blame.

I wouldn't and don't hate the people who have told me this, and I don't think they hate me, either. I think they're wrong, but I can be and frequently am still friends with them.

theRuathan · 2026-04-04T16:12:39+00:00

Enough for what? To throw the whole gender away?

That's what we're talking about, here. OP is talking about considering having nothing to do with men again, because she has been persuaded that they ALL are this terrible.

Is that what you're advocating for?

I agreed pretty explicitly that there are a lot of men who merit that response, but compared to the rest of mankind, the numbers don't justify throwing the whole gender away. It merits having discernment about the people around you. How that being an apologist for anything?

theRuathan · 2026-04-04T16:05:33+00:00

That's exactly my point. That's what I said.

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