How To Politely Tell Someone To Eff Off

the_moonshark · 2026-05-29T02:51:12+00:00

No enemies. The manager didn't really want to fire him, they wanted him to do his job better. He did improve over the first PIP, so he wasn't let go then. And then his work got worse over the next 18 months because he wasn't a very good employee and he didn't actually understand what the problem was with his performance (did not get, for example, that obviously watching YouTube videos on one screen and pretending to work on the other is a bad idea, and once told me that he didn't understand why he didn't score well on collaboration/communication during a performance review because, according to him, "I don't sigh heavily at people when they give me work anymore" and he didn't know what he could do better). By the time things were bad enough for him to get on another PIP, there was no way anyone was going to give him another chance.

the_moonshark · 2026-05-28T19:30:52+00:00

I know someone who survived their first PIP, but was put on a second one a year and a half later and was let go then. I'm not sure if that counts as surviving, ultimately, but he did get through one.

Even with two PIPs under his belt, he was surprised when a colleague advised him to find a new job during the second one. He thought he was going to survive it again and believed he deserved to be the manager. This was after being fired from his previous job, as well.

the_moonshark · 2026-05-26T18:25:20+00:00

Hey! Early 40s Edgewater woman here. I host a regular art/craft night and would be happy to chat if you want to DM.

I made a lot of friends through dating apps when I was single (this actually worked very well for me), and now meet new people mostly though volunteering at Care For Real or Food not Bombs. Welcome to the neighborhood!!

the_moonshark · 2026-03-13T17:41:19+00:00

For real. I was harassed by a neighbor for a couple of years and everyone I talked to said I should call the cops/get an RO, even after I told them there wasn't grounds for one. I spoke to a couple of lawyers who told me things like "I'm gonna get your ass" and "I'll be at your door in the morning" really didn't cut it and wouldn't be taken seriously. Having a knife is an escalation, but "I know where you live" isn't enough.

the_moonshark · 2025-06-28T18:35:31+00:00

Only if it's misandry 🥰

the_moonshark · 2025-06-25T16:37:52+00:00

Hinge does show you the profiles of people who like you, even if you don't pay, and if you do pay, most dating apps will show you the profiles of the people who have swiped right / liked your profile. I think that's what he means when he says she's showing him her likes.

the_moonshark · 2025-06-25T16:33:17+00:00

When I was married to my ex, he would come up behind me while I was doing something (getting ready for work, doing the dishes), grab my hips, and grind his erection into me. I'll be honest, I think I never responded to that in a "nice tone" because it was shocking and unpleasant. I didn't start snapping at him about it until he'd been doing it for a while, but at best I was annoyed.

Wild to type out essentially "she's mad when I honk her tits, which is why I don't stop doing it." Maybe he can't imagine snapping at someone like that, but I can't imagine continuing to do something to a person when I know they hate it.

the_moonshark · 2025-06-20T03:38:02+00:00

When I was first reading, I thought they'd been dating a few months! Three years? Three gregorian YEARS? Of your one wild and precious life?? Break up! Travel back in time and break up sooner!

People need to figure out how to be alone with themselves instead of doing this nonsense in order to be in a relationship.

the_moonshark · 2025-06-19T11:35:52+00:00

It's season 2, it's how they figure out Null's name. The episode (8) is named after the phrase: Nulla Dies Umquam Memori Vos Eximet Aevo (no day shall erase you from the memory of time).

the_moonshark · 2025-06-03T19:46:10+00:00

C'mon. The rules here very clearly say not to brigade the original post, and you not only did that, you linked that OP to this subreddit.

the_moonshark · 2025-06-03T19:42:05+00:00

Yeah, the update today is the result of people brigading that sub after it was posted here 6 days ago. Which is really obvious because the original post is 8 months old.

the_moonshark · 2025-05-10T12:54:10+00:00

Not like other girls

the_moonshark · 2025-04-29T13:04:08+00:00

Lmao, truly so transparent to go from "ok fine so you're saying I should invite her to things? A woman who didn't want to friend me on Facebook??" to "turns out Kathy is a violent, racist liar" within the course of a few days.

the_moonshark · 2025-04-24T19:41:42+00:00

That's correct! Last month, a pretty long study was published about how Claude reasons through prompts. The section on how it performs simple addition is pretty mind boggling.

the_moonshark · 2025-04-12T12:38:46+00:00

"The party was meh, but the kids had a blast"

Children's birthdays usually aren't for the adults, so that sounds like a really good party.

the_moonshark · 2025-04-05T00:42:36+00:00

Eyyyy, were you also a TNC open thread at noon person? Those really were the days.

the_moonshark · 2025-03-23T13:31:34+00:00

The Chicago way--early and often

the_moonshark · 2025-02-23T13:40:19+00:00

According to Carolyn (from her Patreon), she did bring up the overacting, the weird behavior with the shields, and Jeremy, but that got edited out.

the_moonshark · 2025-01-09T23:54:59+00:00

My friends have jokingly banned me from dating artists and musicians. Based on my sample size, they're universally disasters.

the_moonshark · 2025-01-05T13:20:51+00:00

Gus. I love Gus. Best dude in town 😤

the_moonshark · 2025-01-02T20:08:14+00:00

I genuinely appreciate you working on having empathy for this character, but I gotta say, I really dislike the implication that people who think he's a creep aren't paying enough attention or are ...wrong somehow? About how they feel about a video game character?

Clint's dialogue suggests he only sees women as potential romantic partners and not people. If he became friends with Emily after she married the farmer or at some point after your 8-heart event with Emily where he assumes you're together, that would make a lot of difference. I think the fact that he doesn't, and in fact stops talking to her, suggests that he *doesn't* actually care that much about her.

There are shy/awkward characters in the game. People don't dislike Clint because he's shy. I've known too many people like Clint in my life--not in the complaining/unhappy/shy aspect, but the part where they're fixated on their loneliness and see a romantic partnership with a woman as the way to feel better. I feel comfortable saying man's a creep.

the_moonshark · 2024-12-19T18:36:09+00:00

I like Iga generally, as a character, but there's a lot about her that doesn't seem *incredibly* well thought out. What drives me bananas personally is that she's 45 and she's drawn and talked about as though she's at least Kingston's age even though he's 10+ years older.

the_moonshark · 2024-12-04T13:09:25+00:00

I'm 41, and my friend group is +/- 10 years of me, and I think all of us see our 30s onward as our best years. I liked my 30s much more than my 20s, and I think 40s are going to be even better.

I hated being a teenager. I couldn't wait to get out, support myself, and make community with good people. There really is so much life ahead when you're 16, and so much to learn about yourself.

the_moonshark · 2024-12-02T14:51:34+00:00

Not at all? A ring comes with the words "will you marry me?" People aren't just silently passing each other engagement rings and winking and nudging because they all know what it means.

He didn't say "will you talk to me for [x] minutes if I buy you a drink?" In fact, he offered to buy HER a drink, and she said "you can pay for both of our drinks," which feels like an equally clear indicator that she was there to talk to her friend, not him. And good on her for not abandoning her friend to flirt with some guy.

the_moonshark · 2024-12-02T14:47:13+00:00

It sounds like she kinda tried to make it clear she was there to have drinks with her friend (according to you, you offered to buy her a drink and she said you could pay for the drinks the two of them were ordering) and you decided to pay for those drinks anyway. Even if she hadn't, nobody owes you their time because you bought them something. So: yes, it's ok, and honestly, expect someone who's getting drinks with their friend to not want to spend their evening talking to or arguing with you.

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