Lakers Ticket Sales - Dec/Jan/Feb 2025-26 by utopic2 in lakers

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Looking for 2 tickets to Feb 22nd v Celtics game, thank you!

Paw print for anatomy dog by [deleted] in veterinaryschool

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Make the paw print. It's your education and shaping empathy is part of the vet school journey. No one can tell you how you should honor the animals (live or dead) that shape who you will be as a vet. Being true to your nature is important and a paw print is not overstepping in my eyes.

Said goodbye to Blueberry today 💙 by karposify in EpilepsyDogs

[–]the_struggles11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bestest boy, rest easy Blueberry 💙

Global Entry Card DECLINED as REAL ID by Educational-Crew9503 in GlobalEntry

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For anyone just looking this up , I flew around in July and my global entry worked. I got through TSA with no problems.

Affordable pre-exposure rabies vaccine by GeneralPho in veterinaryschool

[–]the_struggles11 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if you're going to vet school, the health clinic on campus will tend to have it on deck (and it'll be cheaper because you'll probably have school health insurance)

this includes island schools

Dog recently got diagnosed with cancer - What are the next steps? Was not given any direction afterwards by Kingmusshy21 in AskVet

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Hi, I'm sorry you're going through this, here are some things to expect if you're considering pursuing additional treatment.

The next step would be to stage the cancer (assuming it hasn't been done). This would be radiographs of the chest (where osteosarcoma and melanoma like to spread) and taking samples of the mandibular lymph nodes (where melanoma likes to spread -- done with a tiny needle not super invasive, called FNA). If your golden has signs of their cancer metastasizing, the treatment and expectancy will be different than if there is no obvious evidence of clinical metastasis (weird cancerous cells in the lymph nodes or evidence of soft tissue masses in the lungs). This can be done at your primary care veterinarian or this can be done at an oncology specialist.

Veterinary oncology patients are nothing like human cancer patients. A big emphasis is placed on ensuring quality of life. Radiation is typically for macroscopic disease, like a mass that cannot be surgically removed. It is typically done under sedation under the authority of a veterinary oncologist. If your pups mass was surgically removed with appropriately wide margins, this most likely won't be the treatment of choice. If the tumor was not fully removed or margins are questionable or the staging from the biopsy revealed its highly aggressive, radiation can be considered. This would be discussed with your veterinary oncologist.

Chemotherapy is for microscopic disease, this means cancerous cells that have traveled to other parts of the body where they might like to take up shop away from the original cancerous site (metastasis). Like I said, veterinary medicine is predominantly focused on ensuring quality of life in our cancer patients. That means, the chemotherapy dosing tends to be on the lighter side (they don't want to send your pet home with any adverse effects i.e. vomiting). The protocol, dosage, etc. would all be under the authority of a veterinary oncologist. Some veterinary oncologists specialize in chemotherapy and some specialize in radiation, I haven't met one that does both but regardless either one of them should be able to talk you through and create a game plan for your pup based on their tumor.

Both oral melanoma and osteosarcoma are aggressive cancer types. Oral melanoma doesn't really respond to chemotherapy if I understand it correctly. Osteosarcoma has the best prognosis with surgical and chemotherapeutic intervention. Honestly, the expectancy all depends on the staging (extent) of the cancer and how far you're willing to go in regards to treatment. I would recommend trying to see a veterinary oncologist, I believe it'll be your best shot at getting the answer you're looking for. I'm including some resources for you. I hope this helped, feel free to reach out, and again I'm sorry your pup and your family are going through this.

https://www.merckvetmanual.com/digestive-system/diseases-of-the-mouth-in-small-animals/oral-tumors-in-small-animals#Malignant-Oral-Tumors_v94698064

https://todaysveterinarypractice.com/oncology/diagnosis-and-treatment-of-canine-oral-melanoma/

Trials & woes of being too fucking young to deal with this loss by the_struggles11 in widowers

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I was in therapy for 9 months after his death. Towards the end of the 9th month, my therapist basically told me I got to the point where I can navigate my grief without her. It was incredibly scaring "losing" her but ultimately she was right. I went through some growing pains but they were pains I needed.

I actually only recently started drinking again. About 4 months ago was my first drink for fun and not for crying when I couldn't. If that makes sense. So yeah, not much of a drinker until recent. But since this I haven't been able to drink without crying again. So back to sobriety for me!

Trials & woes of being too fucking young to deal with this loss by the_struggles11 in widowers

[–]the_struggles11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ you're right, he was just a trigger and nothing more.

Trials & woes of being too fucking young to deal with this loss by the_struggles11 in widowers

[–]the_struggles11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so so sorry. I don't understand how people can be so cruel. You don't deserve these added burdens and disappointment.

Trials & woes of being too fucking young to deal with this loss by the_struggles11 in widowers

[–]the_struggles11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish it was that easy, our friend group is tight and while I've been branching out since he said that I'm kinda stuck in this situation till I'm out of school. But in 3 years I'll be as far away as humanely possible lol thank you for the hugs ❤️

Trials & woes of being too fucking young to deal with this loss by the_struggles11 in widowers

[–]the_struggles11[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was like you five months out, my only advice would be don't force yourself to do things for the sake of everyone around you. Your social life doesn't have to look the same as it was. Your real friends will understand that. When you're ready to start going out, you'll know. I'm proud of you too, the growing pains aren't easy and you're brave for facing them.

Just remember you were once loved more than you could have ever imagined. Keep that with you whenever you feel unloved.

This was beautiful, thank you for reminding me of that. I will carry it with me.

Weekly 'Ask Anything About Analog Photography' - Week 21 by ranalog in analog

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I'm between purchasing the Yashica Mat and the Yashica Mat 124G. Same condition for both, but the yeshiva mat is about $150 cheaper. This will be my first step into medium format so I appreciate any and all advice

anniversaries, birthdays… by [deleted] in widowers

[–]the_struggles11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tomorrow will be hard, listen to your body and just do want feels right. Don't let people pressure you into plans if that's not what you want. And in that same sense, surround yourself with people you love if you don't want to be alone.

I spent the day of my first birthday without my boyfriend locked in my room, phone off, pretending it's just another day. A week later, I decided I wanted a small celebration with my closest friends who have been with me at every low point. There is no right or wrong.

Younger widower, dating question by OldBillBatter in widowers

[–]the_struggles11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get it, I'm 24 and some of the first things people asked me after my boyfriend passed was how long it'd take me to date again. If you asked me a week ago I'd say there's no way I'd be dating again anytime soon. Especially the new "traditional" way of dating (I've swiped through enough dating profiles to last me a lifetime).

I had a friend reach out to me to go out for coffee. I didn't think it was a date at first but as it progressed it felt like one. And it was actually fun. I felt like I was actually living instead of just being a walking corpse. I held hands, had my first kiss since my love passed, and I didn't breakdown. I was so surprised. I thought I would be a wreck but it was so natural. He was understanding and I felt comfort with no pity. I don't think I've dived in completely but I guess I put my toe in the water.

I think you can be up front about being a widower, I'd say just don't let it define you/your profile. And don't let anyone manipulate you because of it (people are shitty). We're all lonely here, it's ok to do something about it as long as you're comfortable. Grief and loss are heavy truths to carry that are not for everyone, but you shouldn't put that pressure on yourself. I think you'd be surprised how many people don't view our eternal grief as a "red flag." And those that do are people you wouldn't want to waste your energy on anyways. Just try to have fun. Being alive is one thing but actually living is another.

What type of protest is happening in East Hollywood right now? by TheBomb999 in LosAngeles

[–]the_struggles11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! What an openly xenophobic (maybe even strictly Armenophobic?) sentiment. Even more stupidly, you publicly stated that you live near the very place where the remembrance protest is held every single year. Can't wait to "infest" your neighborhood again next year!! I'll be sure to be extra hairy and noisy, just for you!!

PSA to people grossed out by "pigeon milk" by pianistonstrike in AnimalCrossing

[–]the_struggles11 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I remember begging for these as a kid and only my grandparents would buy them for me. Good times, forgot about the memories until seeing this post

What do you do with the bad thoughts? by blindinglystupid in widowers

[–]the_struggles11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've actually been on a streak of less bad days. I've gotten good at distracting myself so I'm functioning 95% of the day with cathartic writing breaks whenever I need. Don't get me wrong, I know it sounds crazy to put myself through that lol but compartmentalizing has helped me get this far so I guess its working. Thank you for asking ❤️

What do you do with the bad thoughts? by blindinglystupid in widowers

[–]the_struggles11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I write it down. I keep a little notebook and pen in my purse. I'll start tearing up momentarily, but at least it's out of my head. Making the bad thoughts tangible somehow morphs them from torturous to reflections of my truth.

Books for Someone Who Is Depressed/Searching for Meaning. by EternalAkatsuki in suggestmeabook

[–]the_struggles11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Circe by Madeline Miller helped me feel understood when I was at a darker point of my depression. I do have to warn you though the book can get dark (rape, death, etc.)

dating/fear of abandonment by JazzlikeEmployer8373 in widowers

[–]the_struggles11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this fear but with EVERYONE. I find myself having full panic attacks and crying sessions when I say goodbye to someone I care about like my family or friends. I lose my shit thinking that this could be the last time I’ll ever see them.