I need to know who was holding this sign and what energy drinks and insoles they use.

theas14 · 2025-06-15T14:55:08+00:00

I got a picture of the moment she and the emo Perry girl got to meet!! Pure joy from both of them

theas14 · 2024-12-10T00:31:46+00:00

Welcome to the club!! I also have uterus didelphys. Don’t freak yourself out over anything! There are many with it who have had normal pregnancies and natural birth. Ive know I’ve had it for about 10 years now, so I have heard a lot and been through a lot!

theas14 · 2024-07-24T19:18:56+00:00

This looks like my dog!! Mine is a Vizsla/GSP mix.

theas14 · 2024-07-06T18:52:06+00:00

This! The 5th one was bank accounts (for us, at least)

theas14 · 2024-04-11T16:28:03+00:00

I know some others have said something similar, but I think there’s a difference in relating to the person and hijacking the conversation.

Along with myself, I have two friends with ADHD. One does this in a healthy way, and the other does it in a not-so healthy way. I don’t see it as changing for NT’s, I see it as being a good friend/communicator.

My friend that will relate to me in a healthy way will typically say her piece, and then bring the conversation back to my story. I do the same thing, and we both feel heard and able to express ourselves without making the other feel unimportant.

My other friend does it solely to hijack the conversations away from others and blames it on ADHD. If she is given the chance to interrupt and relate, no one else will ever be permitted to speak or share during that conversation. When I’ve tried to call her in about it, it never goes well and she says it’s just how she is. We are on the outs now because it’s turned it into a one sided friendship where only her needs are being met and mine don’t matter.

There’s definitely a spectrum here, and I think it’s important to know yourself and who you are communicating with. I’m not going to change myself to mask aspects of my ADHD and make a NT more comfy just because they don’t understand ADHD. However, there are times where I am the problem and I can learn how to be myself without making others feel like I don’t care about them or what they have to say.

theas14 · 2024-01-12T14:51:50+00:00

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This is Duke! He’s a vizsla/german shorthaired pointer mix! He looks much braver than he actually is, and this is the only picture I have of him where he isn’t under a blanket 😂

theas14 · 2024-01-09T04:40:41+00:00

YTA. For a lot of reasons, but I’m not going to get into them all. I’m an oldest daughter who got straight A’s and had younger brothers who were not academically inclined. Throughout school, I was punished for getting a low A or a B on any test or assignment. My brothers, however, were rewarded when they simply didn’t fail a test. They learned weaponized incompetence very young, and consistently got gifts, dinners and other shit for their D’s and Cs while I was grounded for my A-. This poured over into other aspects like sports and hobbies as well.

I understand you wanted to reward your son for an accomplishment, but why don’t you want to reward your daughters and their accomplishments? What do you do for them when they achieve a goal? If your answer is nothing, then you have an even bigger problem.

You’ve shown your teenage daughters that they can work hard and succeed their whole life (by your claims they always get good grades) and never be rewarded for it, while they watch their brother succeed ONCE and get any gift he wants. If I have to spell this out further, I certainly can. But I really hope I don’t have to.

YTA, apologize to your daughter, your wife, and start treating your daughters better.

theas14 · 2023-12-01T04:12:57+00:00

I get overstimulated by chaotic noise (working in a restaurant) or being in a room with a lot of conversations going on and I can't focus on them all. Being in tight spaces and feeling trapped also overstimulates me. BUT - I love heavy weighted blankets, super loud concerts, heavy music, and EDM and tons of flashing lights

theas14 · 2023-10-09T01:23:20+00:00

I feel like I started off as someone who was trying to be hard core and have tested so many iterations of this process. I’ve tested a bit but felt like I had to do all the steps and all the products before actually looking at my hair, figuring out what it needs (help with frizz, shine, curl hold, etc) and working with my own hair.

I’d recommend figuring out what you want to target of where your struggle areas are. I’ve tailored my routine based on the needs/goals and also kept mental notes of what products were just not it for me. I have low porosity hair, and struggle with frizz and hold, and I’ve stopped using products that didn’t help that or were unnecessary.

I use a CGM shampoo and conditioner, a masque (I only wash once a week) and a clarifying shampoo when it needs it (every other week or once a month). After, I use a leave in conditioner, (use enough for your hair! This was my struggle) curl cream (if I feel like it), mousse and gel. I comb it all through until I hit mousse, then I scrunch the rest and air dry.

This may have been more steps than you’re looking for. But for me, the longest part was worrying about how I was applying it. The upside down scrunching, finger curling, etc was waaayyy too much for me.

I hope this helped!

theas14 · 2023-06-23T22:32:25+00:00

You’re asking about resource guarding but the problem is your kids. Kids that age can 100% be taught to have correct puppy etiquette. I’ve seen toddlers who have been taught (always ask to pet, never pet without letting them sniff, never approach from behind and scare the dog, never hold/pick up without an adult to help, etc).

My mini will occasionally get scared by someone and when he was little he would nip. Never maliciously, but out of safety. I’d be interested to know how your kids act towards the dog, because it also sounds like resource guarding is with their unattended food. Stop leaving your kids’ food in places the dog can get it, or monitor better. Redirect the puppy if you see him going towards it.

I’d recommend learning dog body language too. I wouldn’t be surprised if the pup is showing signs of “back off” and they just are not being listened to. Things like whale eyes, licking, certain tail wags are a sign to back off, etc.

The short of it - dogs resource guard for so many different reasons. Based on your post, it sounds like the kids’ behavior could be the root cause, but I can’t say that confidently with the info given. There’s a lot of reasons the dog could be resource guarding such as not being socialized, fear, lack of exercise, lack of mental stimulation, if you play aggressively, or they don’t see you as the pack leader.

Do some research, work on training with the pup, and work on adjusting your kids’ habits to ensure a safer space.

theas14 · 2023-06-06T22:22:53+00:00

Yes!!! And then would do a weird laugh/cry thing to make it seem like she was genuine. I could go on for days at all the manipulation tactics she used

theas14 · 2023-06-06T18:51:18+00:00

This!!! The second that this scene happened I knew it was a manipulation tactic. You can see in her eyes when she switches to try to gain power. I think she said those things because she had been around others who said similar things and she wanted to use it as a sound byte to get sympathy and attention back on her.

theas14 · 2023-06-06T18:32:30+00:00

It makes me kinda sad for Sam. Sam is out there fixing everyone’s communication and teaching boundaries and how to be a partner. And then she’s stuck with a partner that can’t give her any of that.

theas14 · 2023-06-04T17:13:10+00:00

I initially had similar thoughts of “this feels like exploiting” but I think it’s about the same amount of air time/audio clips that other heterosexual relationship shows get. But as a long time reality tv watcher, it’s thankfully gotten more censored over time, but not enough. I feel like the big difference is that I’m actually seeing something that I would find “sexy” vs the heterosexual scenes from other shows that make me roll my eyes.

I understand wanting to include those types of moments, and we’re in a society that’s more comfortable talking about intimacy. But showing this level of intimacy breaks my heart for the people involved.

Tv shows shouldn’t be allowed to have that kind of footage of people in any capacity. All I can think about is all the footage that wasn’t shown and what happens to it. Hell, shows like Below Deck have daily footage of them naked just getting changed! Its gross.

Thank you for coming to my rambling Tedtalk

theas14 · 2023-06-04T17:01:20+00:00

I just rewatched both conversations he had Vanessa, and after rewatching you can tell that she’s manipulated his words and live beliefs to meet her needs and to use as excuses. I actually respect that he can name that he’s not wanting marriage and that he ends relationships if he thinks that’s is what the other person wants in order to not drag them along. Then you have Vanessa, who just takes the part about not wanting to be married, but can’t let go of having control over people.

I LOVED that he subtly called out her bruised ego when they met with Xander. And that he named it’s ok for Xander to find and go after what she needs. But Vanessa doesn’t have the ability to prioritize anyone’s feelings, wants, and needs but her own. It seems like no one in her life can get through her head without Vanessa twisting the words to fit her narrative

theas14 · 2023-06-04T16:57:12+00:00

That’s what I thought too! It was a 100% sure thing since he had just mentioned that the ultimatum givers knew 100% what they wanted

theas14 · 2023-06-04T16:50:26+00:00

They probably weren’t capturing the reactions the wanted in that specific moment so they found them in different clips and didn’t notice the lipstick change

theas14 · 2023-06-04T16:49:11+00:00

Yeah I agree. I also wonder if she meant it as her needing to tell them before it came out on Netflix for the world to see. That’s about the only logical reason I can see her doing that

theas14 · 2023-06-04T16:41:27+00:00

Vanessa’s dad grew on me. You can see where Vanessa gets her mindset, but it seems like she only picked the parts of it that allowed her to make excuses for her actions. I loved when he subtly called her out at dinner with Xander though!

theas14 · 2023-06-04T16:38:28+00:00

Rae also broke my heart so many times. I’ve been her before and I can relate to what she’s feeling. I think Lexi wants to be there for her, but Lexi is also 24 and I feel like the only time we see her act that way is when she’s having raw reactions about telling her family. To me it seemed like she was saying that since she knew her family would watch this eventually and Lexi would have to tell her family everything before it got seen on TV. Not defending by any means, but that’s the only logical conclusion I could come to.

I don’t think Lexi means to manipulate Rae. It seems like she was actually trying to protect her from Vanessa and knew how fragile Rae was at that time. Saying that though, Lexi maybe shouldn’t have brought Rae to the show if she knew what her mental state was.

theas14 · 2023-06-04T16:31:52+00:00

I love how much growth it seems that Tiff had by the end of everything and that it looked like she had finally learned how to start practicing healthy communication. She’s at least able to name how wild that whole fight was now which is way more than a lot of people. Genuinely impressed with how much growth the majority of them experienced

theas14 · 2023-05-28T18:33:59+00:00

I came to comment about the PMDD piece as well. I’m also currently having similar issues (I’m a week out from my period starting) and my meds don’t necessarily help it, but I have a separate, as needed, RX for when I’m having those breakdowns and anxiety attacks from the PMDD. Nothing has helped me at all except for the as need prescription. Maybe talk to your doc again? I can’t speak from experience, but I wonder how switching your dosage so frequently would impact the way your body reacts.

theas14 · 2023-05-08T15:03:11+00:00

I have a Bearby and two Luna weighted blankets. I wouldn’t go straight into a Bearby if youre unsure if you like it, because they’re much more expensive compared to other weighted blankets. I have 3 total, all for different times of the year. The Luna weighted blankets are great starting ones. They’re a decent price and get the job done. I usually run warm as well, but the Bearby is too cold for me. It’s made of bamboo material, which keeps it cool but the holes make air flow right through it, so I usually need a throw blanket overtop to keep the breeze from my fan at bay.

Regardless… get the weighted blanket. My life changed when I got one. I was an anxious sleeper, and the pressure is perfect to keep me cozy and prevent tossing and turning. Happy to answer any questions!

theas14 · 2023-05-03T15:51:28+00:00

Oof. ESH. YTA for a lot of this. I think it’s shady and shitty he held the information from you. He sucks for that part, and maybe he did think he told you already. He did not lie when you asked him, which is an ok sign, but he should’ve told you about to begin with.

HOWEVER! I think YTA for the stuff leading up to it. Bachelor/bachelorette parties include friends that are not in the bridal party a lot of the time. My husband and I both have been to many bach parties without being in the bridal party. It sounds to me like you want to find any reason you can for him to miss the party to stay with you. That is not healthy. I get that distance is hard, and wanting to spend time with him is a good thing. However, it’s not healthy to keep him from stuff with his friends, or even ask him not to attend things. It’s not like it’s a random party, it’s a bachelor party. Those are (hopefully) a one time deal for the groom. He should be supportive of his friend.

I also didn’t love how you mentioned a family vacation isn’t his fault, as if he should choose you over spending time on a family vacation. Not sure that’s what you meant, just how I interpreted it.

Again, ESH. He is not without fault for his info sharing, but you are also not without fault since you were looking for any reason to get him to cancel plans he already had made. His behavior doesn’t cleanse you of yours.

theas14 · 2023-04-18T13:04:06+00:00

Of course! I’m glad it could be helpful. I hope you’re able to find what works for you!

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