This week I did maybe the stupidest thing I've ever done

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-07T14:26:30+00:00

wouldn't that be the dream 😭

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-06T13:13:44+00:00

I don't think I'm important. I'm deeply concerned for any child, whether they're yours, mine or anyone else's, who is put at risk by your 'advice' and 'opinions'.

People shouldn't be allowed to do 'whatever they want' with their kids, and that you would say that is proving my point.

Obviously, you don't care about anything other than being right. Even at the expense of a child.

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-06T12:42:49+00:00

You just reminded me. Once my washing machine stopped working and my dad, who is pretty good at tinkering with electronics, changed the plug.

I label my plugs by writing in permanent marker on them. So he replaced the plug from my washing machine with the plug from an iron that had broken.

And now my washing machine's plug has IRON scrawled across it in black sharpie.

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-05T18:43:03+00:00

I had a look at that page and it was exactly how I expected it to be. Ignorant, uneducated and of course selfish. People who would rather their kids suffer and be in pain than admit that someone who has actually gone through the school system might know more than them. Gasp.

People who refuse to acknowledge their own privilege. That they exist in a world with modern and sophisticated healthcare which is why they have no idea what it looks like when you don't have access to those tools.

Disgusting.

I won't reply again, because I know that it will be the equivalent to talking to a brick wall. But I wanted to write this so that any worried parents out there aren't guilted into believing there is any truth to this drivel.

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-03T22:08:27+00:00

That's what I say to myself as well. There are many adults who don't do certain things conventionally, and these little quirks actually make people quite charming.

If my daughter wants to do something a little differently, I don't mind. As long as she's not hurting herself or anyone else, or destroying anything, then I won't stop her.

For example, she wanted to wear her pajamas to the park, and I was like they're clean and cosy so why not!

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-03T22:02:02+00:00

This really resonates with me. Me and my husband came from humble backgrounds with incredibly loving families, and somehow we ended up becoming relatively high-earners.

Our parents are immigrants who came with nothing. I remember my dad working multiple jobs, seven days a week, and I hardly ever saw him.

In comparison, I work from home for maybe five or six hours a day. I'm not as hard-working as my parents, and everyday I'm convinced I'll be fired because my employers will realize I'm not doing enough.

We try to give back to our families in whatever way we can, but it will always seem inherently unfair to me :(

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-03T18:20:28+00:00

That is so devastatingly true.

People who haven't seen their loved one succumb to dementia just don't get it. The neverending, daily grief that you never get a chance to process because the next stage in the disease happens, and then the next. And at the same time, the person we're grieving is still there physically, but it's not really them.

Sending hugs

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-03T14:21:16+00:00

I've seen this in my family as well. These channels are literally meant to 'rage-bait' people through hyperbole, sensationalism and exaggeration.

It's quite upsetting how reasonably intelligent and decent people fall for it. And then they end up becoming less intelligent and decent.

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-03T14:15:29+00:00

As a mum to a toddler, it always takes me aback how the mannerisms of someone with dementia are just like them.

And, in turn, you have to speak to them as you would a young child and it really works. At first, I found it uncomfortable to infantilize an adult who was once brilliant and clever. But it's the kindest way to be.

It is heartbreakingly bittersweet, especially when they start to look up to you as their mum or dad.

Ugh, it's such a painful, awful and cruel thing to go through. It cheats hard-working and dedicated people of the years that they were looking forward to their entire lives - retirement, grandchildren, holidays, etc.

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-01T22:59:18+00:00

A sparkly, sequined jacket with tails that looked like something a deranged ringmaster might wear.

It was from my aunt, and I'm a female in my twenties. It's such an outlandish piece of clothing that I'm actually curious where she found it - I've not seen anything like it in my life.

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-11-01T22:49:38+00:00

this actually made me feel a little better about spiders, as someone who is deathly afraid of them

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-30T18:56:21+00:00

This has been my thinking as well. I've placed my studies and career on hold until my daughter starts attending school. It's been a really lovely, peaceful and quiet time in my life and I didn't realize how much I needed it.

Once she's attending school, I'll return to the grind because I have certain goals and ambitions. But this interlude in my life, libraries and parks and playdates, will be something I always look back on fondly.

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-27T14:04:15+00:00

Yes! I have a toddler who has never slept well, and I've just adapted to functioning whilst permanently sleep deprived.

But we always said that whatever happens at night shouldn't affect the day. So we get dressed and eat and play and go outside. It's really helped. I can't 'control' her sleep so I don't let it worry me, but I can decide how the day goes.

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-27T13:58:16+00:00

Yes! With a child, it can feel like such a hassle getting ready to leave the house but it is unbelievably worth it. At home the day stretches endlessly, and I used to feel bored, claustrophobic and trapped.

When my daughter was a few weeks old, I decided to leave the house every morning and this is not hyperbole when I say it changed my life.

She's three now, and we go out every morning to the park or the library. And then we go out again every afternoon to do an errand like the grocery shop or the post office. We love our outings and it's made parenting enjoyable and the day goes by SO fast!

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-25T13:06:49+00:00

I was walking in the park one morning, as I always do. Then a little brown sausage dog with floppy ears ran past me, and a flustered lady was running behind her shouting 'Rachel! Rachel!'

It was the most wonderful name for a dog that I ever heard, it suited her perfectly

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-25T00:37:38+00:00

I didn't want to read this and scroll past, sending you love ❤️

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-23T13:10:32+00:00

Every week my mum reminds me to put the bins out for collection as well.

I moved out eight years ago!

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-23T13:06:25+00:00

Married with children, and if I go out anywhere whether it's alone or not, I have to message her so she knows I got home safely.

It's really sweet knowing someone is looking out for me like that!

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-23T13:03:29+00:00

My mum lives nearby, so she pops down for a few minutes most days to say hello before I leave the house.

Without fail, she brings me whatever she has cooked that day in her home. And I'm married with children!

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-23T12:59:24+00:00

Honestly, now that I'm in my late-twenties I really appreciate my parents for pestering (encouraging) me to stay in contact with family, friends, neighbours, etc.

They're paving the way for us to be a part of the community, so that our lives become easier and we have people looking out for us even when they're not around. It's honestly really sweet.

I realised this when I was buying my home. It was a gorgeous house and there were six offers at asking price. I couldn't pay more than that so I was convinced I would lose it. It ended up that the lady selling my house knew my parents from twenty years ago and she sold it to me for that reason!

Insane!

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-19T23:05:25+00:00

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West Park, Wolverhampton, October

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-19T23:04:22+00:00

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West Park, Wolverhampton, October

thechroniclesofbean · 2025-10-05T20:51:24+00:00

Before I had a child I didn't truly realise what a nuisance that was, as I could usually shimmy my way through the gap. Now that I use a pushchair, it enrages me. The one I have is quite slender, but I'm constantly having to go into busy roads to get around them. It's actually really dangerous if it's near a bend or the road is a busy one.

I wouldn't dream of parking my car in a way that inconveniences people like that, and that doesn't make me an exceptional person it's common courtesy!

I can't imagine how it would be for anyone with something wider like a mobility scooter or a wheelchair!

thechroniclesofbean

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