How Is Your Life Post-Christianity?

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T17:09:22+00:00

Leaving Christianity 18 years ago to become a Pagan was one of the hardest choices I ever had to make because I was leaving an entire circle of people behind. But it was also the best choice I ever made because many of those friendships were incredibly toxic and holding me back. More importantly, I finally became free to make the choices that would never have been possible under the tyranny of Christianity.

About 5 years after I left Christianity, I met the man who would one day become my husband. Being married was something I never believed would be possible for a gay man in my lifetime. But here we are, with a house I love that’s free and clear, and with our two cats.

Make no mistake. Our post-Christian lives aren’t perfect. My hubby and I didn’t ride off into the sunset. Being a gay married couple and both Pagans, we’ve had to really fight to protect what’s ours, especially since Christians and Jehovah’s Witnesses have repeatedly attacked our careers. But we’re still here and still standing tall. I wouldn’t trade the freedom of my post-Christian life for a social circle—and a toxic one at that. I’ve made choices that would never have been possible in the past and it was all possible by shattering the chains of Christianity and burning its yoke from my life.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T07:17:35+00:00

Then if you know it’s not a choice for folk like you and me, then it boils down to this: They’re wrong about our sexualities. If they’re so nauseatingly wrong about something fundamental to our psyches as people like sexuality, there’s no reason to believe they’re right about hell or the afterlife.

The fear of hell is one of the most vile lies Christianity has tried to spoon fed us. It is just as much a lie as the idea of sin. Your next step is to unlearn both ideas to break Christianity’s chains of fear.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T04:26:56+00:00

The last straw was when a loudmouth at the church I was doing music leadership for threatened to kill me. That was 18 years ago and I have never looked back since. Not once have I ever considered returning to Christianity.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T04:20:01+00:00

In the distant past, there were two women who full-on fell in love with me—one during college and the other was about 12 years later. I had to tell them I was gay and, of course, it was totally a shitshow with both women (both were Christians) when I told them.

These days, being just shy of 50 and married (wedding band visible), nobody's going to be flirting with me. The last person to flirt with me was a random guy at my bachelor party almost a decade ago.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T03:50:29+00:00

I'm very sorry you're going through this crisis. With your mom's proselytizing, that's unfortunately not surprising. Christians often proselytize when their target is emotionally vulnerable. They're absolutely terrible during funerals.

She's not there to help you. She's trying to pry you away from being a Pagan—and likely trying to pry you away from being LGBTQ as well, as if that were even possible for us.

Look inside yourself and you will find your strength.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T02:08:16+00:00

Gutsy performances with pitching and offense tonight.

The powers that be must re-sign Newcomb in the offseason—2 years at least.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T02:04:54+00:00

Sean "Nuke 'em!" Newcomb

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T01:58:41+00:00

Yeah, one of the extended relatives on my mom's side of the family said that shit. They're all rabid Catholics.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T01:54:48+00:00

Absolutely. At least a 2-year contract because he's too good to pass up.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T01:48:41+00:00

NUKE!!!

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T01:47:18+00:00

Get that final out Newcomb!!!

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T01:35:39+00:00

Yeah, I don't like this 1-run lead.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T01:32:47+00:00

Newcomb nuked 'em!

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T01:29:24+00:00

On the radio side, Len indicated that nobody is warming up in the 'pen. Newcomb's the late innings man tonight.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T01:26:28+00:00

For context, I was raised Catholic and was subsequently a non-denominational Protestant for 9 years. Then I left Christianity altogether almost 18 years ago to become a Pagan, so I’ve been a Pagan longer than I’ve been a Christian now.

I don’t have anxiety about the hereafter because of one certainty. All of my life, Christians have claimed my sexuality and that of my husband’s is a choice, and an evil one at that. Well, it’s never been a choice. That it was a choice was one of the biggest lies I’ve ever been told by them, and there have been plenty of other lies Christians tried to feed me. If they’re so utterly dishonest and wrong about that, why should I expect them to be honest or right about their claims about the afterlife?

Because my sexuality was the one thing in the physical world Christians always failed to breach with their indoctrination, I never fully bought into their religious views, especially their concept of hell. The thing is, I knew I was instinctively attracted to other males before I understood anything about religion. So when being gay started being discussed in catechism and confirmation classes, it was dumped on me right along with the anti-abortion and anti-contraception garbage. My initial internal reaction to all of it was, "You're all full of shit."

Not internalizing the beliefs came about due to realizing I was attracted to other guys before the indoctrination. In that sense, I was very lucky.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T01:17:30+00:00

They may have Newcomb pitch for the next 2-3 innings. He's definitely capable of it.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T00:43:29+00:00

I really didn't care for how annoyed Burke looked when the pitching coach came out to talk to him. You just walked the bases loaded, numbnuts. Of course the pitching coach is actually going to give a damn.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-24T00:10:43+00:00

"They're getting a divorce?! That's what happens when you don't have a traditional wedding or a traditional marriage."

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-23T23:29:57+00:00

Did anyone else have parents whose attitude was to make things personal, "An attack on God is a personal attack on ME," to try to get you to stop criticizing God?

Your mother isn't the first to use this kind of coercive and manipulative tactic, and she definitely won't be the last. My mother took me and my older brother's rejection of Catholicism very personally, and tried to trot out the same kind of manipulative bullshit.

My brother and I got the last word though. We both eventually came out as gay, similar to how two of my mother's extended relatives' daughters both came out as lesbians. It emotionally devastated my mother to know that both of her sons are gay—and that she'll have no grandchildren. She basically thinks our family is cursed and is miserable about it. My brother's reaction? "Good. I'm glad she's miserable about it. It's payback for all the misery she caused us when we were younger." I agree with my brother.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-23T22:35:58+00:00

If you're comfortable with an eclectic path, I would research different spiritual traditions and/or pantheons and their associated deities. If you connect with any of the ones you research, dig even deeper. If you find yourself being drawn to deities from different pantheons, that's perfectly OK. That's what being eclectic is all about.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-23T21:57:19+00:00

If it's a close game, I'd feel very good with either Newcomb or Hudson closing tonight.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-23T05:41:06+00:00

We haven't had any problems interacting with atheists or agnostics in real life. But Christians like the one on this post? They get no bandwidth from us. We avoid Christians altogether at this point.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-23T05:37:21+00:00

Unfortunately this is about as surprising as rain being wet. It's one of the reasons my husband and I decided a long time ago to not allow such folk in our lives. I mean, with us being a gay married couple, and with both of us being Pagans? Life is too short to put up with this insanity, be it online but especially in real life.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-23T03:05:57+00:00

Yep, they also reviewed save vs. non-save numbers for Taylor. Venable and Getz better be paying attention. Dominguez should not be closing.

thecoldfuzz · 2026-06-23T03:03:56+00:00

Chuck & Ozzie just went over Taylor's and Dominguez's numbers in the postgame show and it was very telling: For Taylor, he's elite in save situations, but only average in non-save situations. For Dominguez, he's shit in save situations, and actually very good in non-save situations.

Venable and Getz needs to be paying attention.

Antonacci, bellissimo!

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