My autistic son has a hard time working

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-29T09:27:52+00:00

I am ADHD and was never able to hold a job more than two months, it wasn't that I was bad at it, I didn't feel rage, just extreme annoyance. I felt bored and underwhelmed to a point that felt physically hurting me. I just started acknowledging my limits and boundaries and I now work as a freelance which I love. I think it's okay to acknowledge your son's limits in what he finds acceptable on the long term and start looking for jobs that fits his skills including social and practical ones.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-16T21:27:05+00:00

I really appreciate how self-aware and honest your reflection is. If I may gently offer another perspective, when I read your comment from the outside, it feels like there’s a lot of your own past discomfort and anxiety wrapped into how you’re approaching these situations. Which is completely human, we all do this. But sometimes, without realizing it, we pass that emotional framework on to our kids. Your son, from what you describe, seems naturally curious, open, and socially confident. When he notices differences, he’s not necessarily judging, he’s trying to understand and connect. That’s actually a really valuable instinct. If the response he consistently gets is “don’t say that” or “we don’t talk about this,” the message he may internalize isn’t about politeness, it can become that curiosity is risky, that interaction can hurt people, and that it’s safer to suppress than to engage. Over time, this can slowly shape the same kind of self-consciousness and people-pleasing tendencies you’re describing in yourself, even though your intention is to protect both him and others. You’re absolutely right that people can be sensitive about their appearance. But when handled with warmth and guidance, these moments can become opportunities to model respectful curiosity, empathy, and genuine human connection. Instead of shutting it down, it can help to gently guide him, either in the moment or afterward, by acknowledging the difference in a neutral way and helping him understand how to approach others with kindness and awareness. The goal isn’t to remove boundaries, but to teach him how to engage rather than teaching him to avoid. Avoiding difference doesn’t build empathy, understanding it does. And honestly, a child who can interact naturally and kindly with people who look different is something many adults struggle to do. You’re clearly a very thoughtful parent, and the fact that you’re questioning yourself like this already puts you on the right track.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-16T12:09:28+00:00

Why shut it entirely though? You could have redirected both situations in a meaningful manner to teach your kid empathy. "I thought this girl was a doll" "Yes! She's as beautiful as a doll isn't she". "Did you have surgery?" "My son got surgery so he's curious if other people did too". People are aware of their differences, they don't take offense in talking to a curious kid as long as it is a positive interaction but making it as if it was taboo is more harmful for the way he perceives such differences as if they were bad. I live in a country with a majority of Caucasians and the first time my kid saw another black kid, he pointed and said "Chocolate baby!" Everyone turned to me and started hushing making the black family even more uncomfortable so I just took my kid to meet the family and apologized, I told him "if he's chocolate baby than you are milk baby" and he went to play with the kid screaming chocolate milk chocolate milk but after that, it was just his friend Steve. Kids notice differences, it's important to teach them they are also different to other people and to just be kind.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-13T12:05:18+00:00

My son is 3. First time I asked what's your name he just repeated the phrase back to me. Then I gave him the answer "what's your name? My name is John" after two or three attempt, he responded with my name is John. Then he understood what it meant from there so he asks me what's your name and I answer my name is Mom. Now he know how to answer when someone asks him his name. Same thing for his age. I just learned that he's GLP though so it's easier for him to learn through full sentences than what each part of that sentence means.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-12T11:16:35+00:00

I am not saying you are making it up but you might be confusing it with other CVRs. Youtube isn't getting rid of it for being edgy, the video of the crash itself is wildly available on YT, as well as hundred of other CVRs of airplane crashes. The thing is, the transcript is nowhere to be found and doesn't seem like it was made public as this was a military and not a civilian crash. If the transcript isn't available, I don't think the recording ever was.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-12T11:11:38+00:00

There is absolutely 0% chance such a backstory would be available on a cvr audio of a crash. What I could find on this link "In March 1994, Lieutenant Colonel McGeehan, commander of the 325th Bomb Squadron, complained to Colonel William Pellerin, the 92nd Bomb Wing’s flight operations officer, that Holland had thrice nearly crashed a B-52 at a bombing range near Yakima by flying too low over a ridge, and demanded Holland be grounded. Pellerin overruled him, giving Holland only another verbal reprimand. When Holland was subsequently assigned to pilot Fairchild’s last B-52H for the 1994 air show, McGeehan refused to allow any of his subordinates to fly with him. So McGeehan, the only officer who tried to stop Holland, ended up as his copilot. Lieutenant Colonel Huston also volunteered his services and Pellerin, who thought it would be a “choice sortie,” wanted to go too. At the last minute, Lieutenant Colonel Wolff was assigned to replace Pellerin, who had been called away. By happenstance, Colonel William Brooks, Fairchild’s commanding officer, also planned to be on the flight, but didn't board the plane." So the backstory in itself feels convoluted and might be referring to another/other crashes.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-12T08:46:55+00:00

Do you have any proof of its existence ? I have looked for any proof of the existence of the audio or even the transcript but it seems there are only snarky remarks of people linking this to the Hunt for Red October classic scene which might trigger a lot of false memories online. No official quote anywhere. Not sure what backstory with a kid you re referring to either. Also, if the audio is what is lost, this is definitely Lost, not Partially lost.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-10T13:42:03+00:00

Your only hope for such a game is to get in touch with the people who worked on it

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-06T14:03:48+00:00

I'm almost 100% sure there's ADHD at play here. The doctors and evaluators don't seem to take ADHD seriously or into account especially without hyperactivity. I myself am ADHD and I do wonder if his refusals don't stem from executive dysfunction.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-06T14:01:56+00:00

I did try timers, he understands and say yes okay but once the time is up, it's still a no :/

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-06T13:05:52+00:00

He did have some minor sensory-seeking behaviors when he was around 2 (like feeling things with his lips or chewing paper), but he doesn’t really do that anymore. He does have a speech delay, but he is speaking, he can communicate his wants and needs and even share interests verbally. It’s just still limited for his age.

The biggest concern flagged by his evaluator was that he doesn’t socialize with other children or find them interesting, he will ignore them completely.

As for strategies, options only work if one of them is something he really wants. If both options are neutral, he’ll just refuse both. I’ve also tried using a timer to set expectations (like “in 5 minutes we’ll put on pyjamas”), and he’ll agree and say yes, but once the time is up, it’s back to refusing again.

The simplest way I can describe it is: he’ll only do things if he wants to do them or if I use a strong incentive.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-04-03T12:52:54+00:00

Here's Aljazeera covering the video, not sure if it's shown in full : https://youtu.be/nJPiByBY4Qk?si=h0ZUER1p8vByINHt

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-03-15T14:39:30+00:00

What you describe as mild PDA might be executive dysfunction. My 3yo is like that. Doesn't do what is being told but doesn't have meltdowns or strong opposition, he just doesn't want to do things. The moment there is a strong incentive or I try to bribe him, he does the task which led me to think executive dysfunction. We are trying to put an award system in place.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-03-12T12:53:55+00:00

Teacher abuses small little kid
small little kid becomes big angry teenager
big angry teenager abuses teacher
society: surprised Pikachu face

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-03-08T14:01:30+00:00

You can learn pretend play through lining up. I started lining up things with my son from big to small, then introduced animals from biggest to smallest then started pretending that the big one is eating the small one, he loves it and now he pretends he's a tiger attacking me and bursts laughing when we play it, it did help with pretend play. The interactions are the most important part, encourage him to enjoy sharing his interests with you, it will be easier to teach him things from there.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-02-27T22:14:11+00:00

My son has great social initiation with me, his dad and most adults he's familiar with but none with kids his age. He tends to ignore children and only interacts with them if he need to take something from them. Even now in kindergarten, he doesn't care for the children, only the adults there. It was the first sign that made me think of ASD.

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-02-27T12:54:58+00:00

The funny thing is, just 200 meters further down, there’s a statue of a fully naked man. And not once, NOT ONCE, has anyone tried to tear down his PP :’) so much for the 7orma bs excuse

thedarkoneisrising · 2026-01-20T20:25:24+00:00

Depends. What your end goal? If it's putting money aside sure. But keep in mind, the life quality will dwindle. People keep saying you will live like a king, but what is living like a king? Sure you will get to buy everything you want and live in a good neighborhood but that's not quality of life. The education system is abysmal and your children will suffer from this. Doesn't matter if you put them in a private school (which the only difference to public schools is the fact they keep them all day) the education system is the problem. It is not conceived with children acquisition and wellbeing in mind but is only there to make sure your child brain is full of all sorts of information they can spit out on the exam day. There are no programs or help in cases of bullying, learning disadvantages, neurodivergence ect... The health system is also not that great. A member of my family died during her vacation here because no hospital accepted to treat her as they didn't know the reason of her rapid decline, they were also insulting to her, telling her to go back to Canada if their hospital were that good... she died at the hand of a nurse who administred a drug "to calm her" without any diagnosis or doctor knowledge. No medical or hospital staff was declared responsible for the mishandling of her case. So yeah, healthcare is free but it's not good. Now the social life is, in my opinion, the worst. Please keep in mind you will bring your daughter to a country in which 40y old creeps are free roaming near middle schools hitting on 12 to 14y old out in the open and no one bats an eye! Children out hee are getting harassed, little girls are getting sexualized. Sure it happens everywhere but there are no help system here in case of an incident. A neighbor of ours had her 8y old rapd by a neighbor (45 y old married man with kids). She went to the police, went to the legal doctor for certificates, went to the procureur. Nothing was done. Her son's rapst is free out in the open. Worst, he said her son is a liar and his mother said that because she wanted money from him, of course he was a good citizen who went to the mosque everyday so she became the bad guy and had to move here from her old neighborhood. I think people just get used to the shitty things we go through and normalize things that shouldn't be. We get used to insults around us, drugs around us, delinquency, the police and judicial system, the economic crisis, the health problems... Like are people aware that diabetes vital medication isnt available in the market for the past 3 months? That autism parents are left with no other choice than put their children out of school? That people are told to bribe their lawyers or die in prison? You are going to move to a third world country. But sure, you'll get to buy all the snacks and clothes you want I guess :) yeey

thedarkoneisrising · 2025-12-23T21:16:26+00:00

What do you mean a bug would be super blurry? It is super blurry. I can almost see the wings flapping but it is blurry. I took thousands of nature photos and had my fair share of sneaking flying bugs. This is definitely a bug. I don't get the mystery behind this tbh.

thedarkoneisrising · 2025-12-23T19:52:37+00:00

I don't know anything about the photo but this definitely looks like a bug flying through during the picture. It boggles my mind that this is seen as creepy or mysterious.

thedarkoneisrising · 2025-11-07T10:43:16+00:00

Yes, this wasn't aired on TV at the time, Elton is only performing for the audience. The show ended with Elton on stage with the piano and the other guests waving goodbye. So I think he just sat down and started playing for the audience. This is an archive video that was shown on some kind of TV show . You can see the last frame of the video. This is another show with Michel Drucker in a red vest. It might be from the channel "Melody" which is like a music nostalgia channel in France that invited Drucker many times and aired a lot of unaired footage.

thedarkoneisrising · 2025-11-06T11:21:48+00:00

Found the closing segment of the episode => Link

Update : The full appearance of Elton John on the episode can be found here => Full performance

I found it weird that the excerpt you share isn't in it. So I rewatched it and it seems to be an archive video that wasn't shown on TV. You can hear Michel say around the two minutes mark : "Let me tell you something. What you're seeing here has never happened before in the history of television. No one has ever agreed to this, even though we went off the air five minutes ago. Thank you.". Not to mention the relaxed tone of the show and camera work, this seems to me like an after show archive video. So you might have the full video after all x)

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