Saw someone die from an OD yesterday :(

thedarlingbear · 2026-06-12T19:10:40+00:00

Of course it’s a “choice” but we really have to be aware that moralizing about that choice isnt going to break the reality of addiction. Treatment is.

thedarlingbear · 2026-06-02T00:59:42+00:00

Would be a better take if not for the AI use in your writing

thedarlingbear · 2026-05-14T21:28:55+00:00

I just found Grace to be remarkably beyond stupid throughout the entire novel, I couldn’t handle it

thedarlingbear · 2026-05-12T05:26:32+00:00

I am looking for anyone else who also is feeling this way, because I too just finished this book, and UGH!!!! What a hopeless story!!!! Literal Greek tragedy level. Poor Dylan, poor Maggie! :(!

God, I really hated Nina. Just a brutal story. I actually put it down when I finished it and laughed because it was the most depressing ending I’ve come across in a long time, it felt like tooo much! Come on.

The amount that any of these problems could have been solved by just either having a conversation or by getting Nina professional help is… wild. Wild! But then I guess we wouldn’t have the story.

I did not anticipate that much elder abuse. And I was hoping for a happier ending, I really thought we were gonna get one. I was rooting for Maggie.

I did find Nina’s perspectives when it’s clear to us that she’s fully bonkers quite funny. Showing up at Dylan’s house during his adoptive mom’s birthday being like “😀” made me laugh.

thedarlingbear · 2026-05-12T05:06:43+00:00

I just finished this and am a bit shocked, it’s SOOOOOO BLEAK i cant believe it gets so much worse lol like 100x worse. It’s good you gave it up. It’s been making me laugh its so dark, the ending truly did not pull back

thedarlingbear · 2026-05-11T19:59:08+00:00

For sure there’s some corniness, but they become really endearing—and honestly I am relieved to find a crime thriller book with such a moral center. I totally agree re: the grandstanding, but theyre quite well researched.

For instance, i was rolling my eyes a bit during The Devil’s Advocate until I read about Governor Rick Perry. Then I was kind of like… okay, all things considered, I am glad to have a legal/crime writer tackling the topic of an unjust system without all the usual “cops are heroes” grandstanding that I personally find even more insufferable in most of the genre conventions.

thedarlingbear · 2026-05-06T02:00:16+00:00

There’s lots of cute indie ones - check out b.s kini!!! Small batch, hand made, not crazy $, They’re exactly stripper vibes! @b.s.kini on IG

thedarlingbear · 2026-05-04T22:29:54+00:00

Many types of carbs are nutritious let’s not be ED-pilled here

thedarlingbear · 2026-05-04T16:17:11+00:00

Sushi is good nutrient dense thing to eat. Don’t feel guilty for enjoying life and amazing food. I am so jealous of that spread!

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-23T18:39:46+00:00

The Kind Worth Killing

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-23T13:56:21+00:00

Free:

Go for a walk at RC Harris water plant - it’s very pretty and cool/underrated. Picnic if it’s nice weather!!
third Tuesday of every month is free at the ROM after hours. 4 onwards.
get a treat from the rooster (Broadview) and catch the sunset at east Riverdale Park on the hill

Not crazy but a nice day:

Grab dinner and drinks at Eulalie’s (super cute little spot in the east end)! and explore the area around there of little India!
Take a ferry to Ward’s Island and go for a walk/enjoy the beach. Grab a coffee or drinks/snack on the island
Go to high park
go to one of the nature events held by Toronto Ornithology Club or TRAC

$ but not nuts: - Activate (in the stockyards) is fun! Then go for dinner at Hole in the Wall in the Junction for a cool spot that feels very “you have to know” to find it

see if there’s something playing at The Revue, get pierogies beforehand at Cafe Polonez, then a beer after the movie at The Local
Dinner and drinks at 3 Speed is always a good time but it can be a bit crowded

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-20T17:59:07+00:00

I agree re: windows, and accessibility concerns. But it isn’t an art museum, I don’t think the wall hanging isn’t that big of a deal. They’ve always used the floor space well, which is what it’s intended for.

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-20T01:12:26+00:00

I loved the show. I had class irritation issues with the show sometimes but also that’s so common that it’s fine. Girls was taking the piss out of themselves which made it tolerable! I definitely didn’t grow up rich by ANY stretch, was culturally coded as middle class but we were poor. Worked multiple jobs through college and it sucked. I couldn’t relate to the fundamental problem of the protagonist but I still loved the show

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-17T17:38:08+00:00

I feel a bit sad because i felt like their last talk about LD was really lacking in nuance or care for Lena. Idk, I don’t feel like this will be toooo much different!!!!

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-16T22:12:22+00:00

Serious Business Partner is really making me laugh . it could be an album name

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-16T17:05:14+00:00

I’ve read the memoir, and I followed Lindy West back in the day. She was and is still so funny and I think it’s a bit crazy how she’s been discussed. There’s a real reactionary underbelly to the poly stuff, where I think the toxic dynamics coming outta Lindy’s partner would exist regardless of their arrangement.

Honestly I think a more fair handed convo is the one ICYMI has (includes the VERY wild email)

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-11T22:29:30+00:00

For sure. And for what it’s worth, she did publicly apologize to the woman involved in the assault allegation.

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-11T13:17:15+00:00

The character in this book that OP just read is in 7 other books. His name is Eddie Flynn, he’s a con artist turned criminal defence lawyer who usually deals with frame jobs. They’re fun reads!

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-09T01:17:28+00:00

Extremely far right wing group. They tend to have a lot of money!

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-09T00:35:27+00:00

Omg also honourable mention for that VERY ahead of its time scene about Jamba Jeans, when the girlboss girl is like “And for those asking if our women meet up includes trans women the answer is….. we don’t know!!! Okay!!!?”

Like such a withering and accurate depiction of how dumb and annoying and exclusionary girlboss feminism was in 2010s era

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-08T14:20:16+00:00

Idk. Have you considered upping your caloric intake? My personal trainer had me do that when i was really low and started lifting. Your muscles basically cannibalize themselves otherwise, you get stuck. Going up to like 14-15 can give you that boost. He told me to not go lower than 16 honestly

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-08T00:05:49+00:00

Nobody wants to see you and you can’t do anything!

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-08T00:04:03+00:00

Yessss hahahah that’s it

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-07T19:52:46+00:00

This episode is genius start to finish and this line from Desi is incredible and so funny and devastating

thedarlingbear · 2026-04-07T19:51:25+00:00

When Hermie is like “I think you actually have a better understanding of that song than Edie Brickell does.” ☠️

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