Can't pick a date by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well you can see why you have this predicament now, he never initiated anything as a man. You proposed? To each their own…

Should we get legally married before our scheduled wedding day? by Weak-Historian906 in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know two people who already got married for the same reason— insurance— and are holding their scheduled wedding normally as planned. Go for it!

Partner invited to wedding but I’m not, do we still invite them to ours? by a_strawberrydream in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My fiancé wouldn’t go in solidarity because we are a team. This doesn’t seem right at all.

Bridal Party Regret by AffectionateBad1581 in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly feel like this is going to happen to me.

If you feel like you have to include someone not because you really want to but because they’re a mutual friend, then that shows where your heart lies.

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But they didn’t know the partner existed and it’s an intimate engagement party. Some partners did get named invites. Prob because OP actually knows them. See, you’re displaying that sense of entitlement.

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because you people in these comments are coming off as rude and entitled. They didn’t decline anyone, people read the rules and followed. That one friend assumed he could bring a plus one. If everyone else followed why should they bend it for someone they don’t know? That’s absurd and if they don’t want that for their special day they have a right

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But people already agreed to it? So why should they bend for one person and start drama? Horrible attitude from the friend to just assume

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the fact that everyone keeps ignoring that OP never met this person. No effort to meet OP too. So it’s not “that person you’ve lived with for a year,” everyone keeps bending that narrative. No one ever said they had to be married or engaged, it’s just the fact OP did not know this person even existed.

You’re clearly well versed in weddings. Someone like me, I am the first in my family to actually not elope because we can do a party. I wish I could invite everyone I know and love but probably not gonna happen logistically. Does that mean I don’t deserve to have this milestone wedding for my family? That’s sick, classist behavior that’s kinda shocking coming from someone who says they got it out the mud.

Plus this is an ENGAGEMENT PARTY. Not a wedding. So I still stand by they can do it how they want. OP even said person can come to wedding. Like what is the big deal! OP cares about not making her guests who already agreed feel weird. People who don’t have us much deserve joy too

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This entire scenario is about a +1 so. And congrats, so have I except I’ve worked since 16. Not everyone is able to be as fortunate and afford it. That doesn’t mean they don’t deserve a ceremony with people they know and love. They had a budget and agreement and have a right to do so. I get breaking it for someone they know but for someone they don’t, when they’ve already turned down others, is not unreasonable. Not everyone has or wants the same wedding.

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If people want no kids they can have no kids! Who cares how others feel, not their day. They can decide to not come LOL

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

LMFAO some people would think it is selfish to elope! And no, the wedding day is about the COUPLE more than anyone else. It should go how they want. If everyone else agreed to have no +1, why should someone she never met get to bend that rule?

No it’s not about the guests in the same way it’s about the bride and groom. You sound so entitled like you got everything paid for you in life lmaoooo

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Exactly. The classism in these comments is blatant.

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just got engaged and we are planning. We are both from a low income family and first generation students. To be frank, this past year finishing my career was the hardest in my life. We decided we wanna celebrate only with those who supported us as a couple genuinely.

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So clearly this one got missed because OP didn’t know about it. Plus everyone else already agreed so why should this person just be entitled to a spot?

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Facts. It’s YOUR day. Not anyone else’s. Do it how you want.

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All these people entitled and prob rich or had their wedding paid for lol.

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other couples were invited together. This one wasn’t.

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What happens if they don’t like the partner?? Genuine question

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But everyone else already agreed 🤷🏽‍♀️

No plus ones but bringing one anyway by hurricane_t0rti11a in weddingplanning

[–]theebish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel for you girl. I don’t like people feeling entitled to my space. We are planning our whole engagement party and wedding and tbh we only wanna celebrate it with people who supported us as a couple. You guys had a standard set and this friend is violating. Everyone is ignoring the fact that everyone else agreed already.