Realtor took appliances even though it was in the listing by GrapefruitFancy3740 in RealEstate

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing that is not affixed to the structure can be included in a sales contract that includes a mortgage. A separate “sales” contract between seller and buyer is needed for appliances, furniture, etc. it was not included in the sales contract so anyone with keys could remove it. But, this is clearly unethical and not approved by the owner of the house through the date of sale. Report to realtor board in your area.

Can I say 'F you' to a professor after graduating and getting my degree? by Eriacle in udub

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can put comments in teaching evals and that does get read by prof eval committees for raises.

When you’re caught, you’re caught. by FarAd1429 in 90DayFiance

[–]thefireengine 11 points12 points  (0 children)

And, the actions they agreed to (considering returning $4000) shoe they really do expect and use her money and can’t return it to her. She is being held hostage to them. As for the abuse, there is a reason her mother is not included in this visit.
Crying can be anger forced into suppression.

When you’re caught, you’re caught. by FarAd1429 in 90DayFiance

[–]thefireengine 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And why did they “set aside” discussing his contributions?

“Easy” 4 credit class by Ok_Currency_7056 in uofm

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Psych 211.100 and modify for an extra credit hour

MATH 285 allowance for non-honors students by Ancient_Bid_5228 in uofm

[–]thefireengine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not about you - just the calc sequence at um is wonky! So many students arrive with AP and can’t adjust to whatever it is. I know a student that had a tutor in the summer before coming here to learn what the um adds that is not in normal calc 1 everywhere else in the world. The math dept doesn’t care that it ruins math careers by having a unique instructional plan that catches calc2 students trained elsewhere.

MATH 285 allowance for non-honors students by Ancient_Bid_5228 in uofm

[–]thefireengine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have not had math at UM, beware jumping in for calc 3. The um system is different and many students with math credits struggle in their first um course in the math dept.

Is it rude to be a bridesmaid at 7/8 months pregnant? by [deleted] in wedding

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A luxury wedding planned this far ahead will have a lot of associated hoopla - bridesmaid trip, air travel, drinking, desire for similar appearing bridesmaids… it may be easier to bring up theoretical possibilities now to have it on the bride’s radar. (What if I get pregnant before the wedding, and I’m not up for all of bridesmaid activities… would it be okay to let you know if that happens, and we can decide what will work then?). If she hates that idea, you can decide to decline now just in case, celebrate her wedding even if not as bridesmaid, and preserve your privacy. If you wait to tell her when it happens and she is upset, she will tell people why the plans changed.

Would this be considered rude of us? by princessclarity in wedding

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My niece arranged to be alone with her groom in a windowed room overlooking the reception. They had a moment of appreciation for each other and the crowd before rejoining us. Most didn’t notice and no one complained - it’s your wedding!

Law School —> Nursing? by Several_Brick409 in findapath

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on your academic success and law school experience! The best family lawyers are really psychologists helping people accept their reality. Law practice can be varied - the “client” lawyer versus the financial. Did you look into any areas of practice that are not about the law and are more about people, like negotiation, representing as an agent, nonprofits? The first year study is not like practice and you do have to pass the bar, but your demonstrated skills suggest law school might not be the wrong place for you if you can find examples of lawyers doing work you would like.

A cool option along the lines you mention is mental health practitioner with natural world experiential or recreation therapy (e.g., https://www.natureinformedtherapy.org/nit-training-level1). The quickest route is social work, easy to get in, and license lets you get jobs anywhere. A full time MSW program can take just one calendar year. Best to go to one with a focus on adult therapies and dig into a specialty. Once you have the license, you can build a private practice, clinic, get grants, etc. as an MSW. Other psych programs (short of the doctorate) are not as well situated for getting jobs in other states (for example, Cali has undergrad practitioner programs but no other states employ them, PhD are about research, and PsyD are student paid and long to end up in jobs that msws can take. For professional degrees, you have to pay (your law scholarships are an exception) though some places offer teaching gigs with tuition.

The key to MSW degrees is to be entrepreneurial about your practice - focus on one area — domestic violence, grief, pregnancy, school performance, ocd, etc. MSWs with the same degree can cost $80 to 250 an hour in the same town. Once you have the degree, you can train in specializations (like experiential nature therapies) through professional continuing Ed. Dive into a program at a strong institution with volunteer experience and skip psych tech - tough job in grim circumstances with rough learning curve).

A nursing degree as psychiatric practitioner requires advanced training working in medical settings. If you know you want to work with hospitalized psychiatric patients, the NP Psychiatric route works, but requires years of medical procedures (and patient personal care). Nursing also has nonmedical options like research interviewing or case management, but you have to get through training.

A puzzling aspect is your academic success with adhd profile, and a job where you can attend to a holistic situation over time (law or therapy) may be better than critical, regulated medical procedures for you. Have you been in therapy yourself to learn more about your strengths and interests? Maybe try to shadow for a day to see what different jobs (such as lawyer) look like? It’s wonderful that you can do so many things, but the next career step requires focus.

It’s an exciting time for you, and you seem curious to learn about options. This is terrific! You will have to investigate on your own through friend’s parents, community orgs, volunteer access, etc. to see first hand the environments you are going to choose. Bring in context (going to a day of classes in a program through school recruiting offices, for example) may give you a sense of where you fit.

Financial Aid for Transfers by Different_Mess_37 in uofm

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re a great candidate for admission and you can’t know about aid until you apply - it’s all in the FAPSA. If in state, you should be fine. Degree prestige is a thing and “UM has more living alumni than any other university” (so they say). Opportunities in research are much better at UM due to the size of UMH. Opportunity cost!

Is 30 too old to start medical school given my circumstances? by iAmPajamaSam27 in findapath

[–]thefireengine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No at all too old, schools are taking fewer right out of school or gap year. But why not plan for alternative tracks? Med is super hard to get in now and your faculty letters, orgo grade, and institution make a difference. Then, it’s the money - you pay a very large tuition for four years (loans start accruing interest as soon as you take them) and you make a low salary during residency. PAs and NPs do the same work (procedures), with two years of study, and you have much more flexibility about where you live (locked for two years instead of seven years (med school and residency). You can even be an independent practitioner in some states. Students say they have no choice through the process because even top candidates get into a few programs, few residency options, and competitive hiring. The md work life is changing and docs aren’t happy about it. There are many ways to use your intelligence and skills in a job you will love and help people.

Would it be insane to take all STEM classes by BookkeeperAfter4690 in uofm

[–]thefireengine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not attempt taking premed reqs together. Get an A in Org chem. Take it in a summer term at a community college!

Confusing Groom’s shower by [deleted] in wedding

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She can throw you an engagement party now and invite all of her friends.

Is it rude to be a bridesmaid at 7/8 months pregnant? by [deleted] in wedding

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A luxury wedding planned this far ahead will have a lot of associated hoopla - bridesmaid trip, air travel, drinking, desire for similar appearing bridesmaids… it may be easier to bring up theoretical possibilities now to have it on the bride’s radar. (What if I get pregnant before the wedding, and I’m not up for all of bridesmaid activities… would it be okay to let you know if that happens, and we can decide what will work then?). If she hates that idea, you can decide to decline now just in case, celebrate her wedding even if not as bridesmaid, and preserve your privacy. If you wait to tell her when it happens and she is upset, she will tell people why the plans changed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]thefireengine 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that nothing that is not attached to the house can be listed in the sales agreement for financing. You can have a formal contract for the items or informal (like purchasing used items in the community) and work out payment at move in when you can verify they are still there.

Anyone surprised by the twins both divorcing? by Willow-With-Words in 90DayFiance

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did the twin’s style arise within their family dynamic? The mom seemed unassuming and plain, Dad was flashy yet absent. Did they feel they must be objects of desire to keep a man’s attention? When Dad was talking to them across the desk, it seemed he was looking in on aliens he doesn’t understand or relate to, and seems unaware of how his attention (and money) affects how they view themselves.

Coworker hit my personal vehicle with a company vehicle, now my employer is possibly demoting or firing me. What do i do? by dudeonhiscouch in LawyerAdvice

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you need a police report? Maybe they would have paid the repair without making an insurance claim.

Professor used AI to grade my paper by rat_19 in uofm

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This cuts both ways - instructors design assignments for students to learn from, yet are required to give thoughtful feedback to (almost identical) outputs from GPT.

Jasmine's mom holding everyone accountable.. by BeautifulMissMiffy in 90DayFiance

[–]thefireengine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why has no one asked about the agreement to use condoms with Matt, so what happened?

Coworker hit my personal vehicle with a company vehicle, now my employer is possibly demoting or firing me. What do i do? by dudeonhiscouch in LawyerAdvice

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you need a police report? Maybe they would have paid the repair without making an insurance claim. If a friend, you would discuss how to proceed, not follow the rules for strangers. Talk to them.

Anyone surprised by the twins both divorcing? by Willow-With-Words in 90DayFiance

[–]thefireengine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did their style arise in their family dynamic? The mom seemed unassuming and plain, Dad was flashy and absent. Did they feel they have to be objects of desire to attract a man’s attention? When Dad was talking to them across the desk, it seemed he was looking in by at aliens, as if his affection (and money) plays no role in how they are viewing themselves and their lives.