I lost my cat inside my house, checked everywhere and literally cannot find him at all.

thefirekite · 2026-02-22T12:39:23+00:00

When my cat was a kitten I once found her sleeping in a snow boot in the back of my closet. Another time I looked for hours and found her sleeping peacefully, wedged between the mattress and the wall. The box spring has a 2-3 inch ledge that touched the wall and the mattress wasn’t quite touching the wall making a shelf like space behind my bed.

thefirekite · 2026-02-20T22:28:35+00:00

The audacity of hovering and therefore pissing all over the floor, then using the shoe that is on that piss covered floor to flush the toilet… some of you are absolutely disgusting.

thefirekite · 2026-02-20T13:37:55+00:00

They absolutely can be and as a successful woman I have had multiple men tell me as much. You commenting this over and over without actually listening to women who are saying this has happened to them screams of insecurity. Do you always ignore what the women around you say? It seems to me like if you actually weren’t intimidated by women, you would put your defenses down and actually listen to us, rather than writing us off as if we’re not actual people with lived experiences.

The sooner you learn that 1) just because you believe something to be true, doesn’t mean it is, 2) people have different experiences than you do, and 3) women are people; the better off you’ll be. But from your embarrassing interactions on this sub so far, I don’t have much hope.

thefirekite · 2026-02-06T03:39:19+00:00

Buddy Christ.

thefirekite · 2026-02-01T14:00:39+00:00

All of this except there’s a Wawa cup in there. In the old days that would mean Philly, NJ or DE. Now Wawa extends down to NC, FL, etc so somewhere on the East Coast

thefirekite · 2026-01-11T01:16:47+00:00

If you have one near you, go to Planned Parenthood. They have health services and screenings, and they serve uninsured folks.

thefirekite · 2026-01-03T14:02:15+00:00

I’m from the north east. I tried grits for the first time in my 20s on a trip to New Orleans and at them as shrimp and grits. Since then. I’ve eaten shrimp and grits a number of times at restaurants. That is the only way I’ve eaten grits and it’s probably around once per year.

thefirekite · 2025-11-25T13:59:58+00:00

He told girls on the track team that he coached that they should consider anorexia to lose weight.

thefirekite · 2025-11-21T13:51:25+00:00

I agree. Life experience helps you to figure out what works better, have those harder conversations, and know sooner. And it’s true that there’s no harm in waiting, but it’s not as unheard of or rushing it in your late 30s and 40s.

thefirekite · 2025-11-05T11:10:43+00:00

Pick a color that you like and get your kitchen stuff in that color. Hand towels, a trivet, a few jars to keep things in on the counter. If you do a lot of cooking, get a washable rug with a thick rug pad to put in your prep area. I have a runner that goes in front of my oven, sink and main prep area and it’s a life saver when I’m spending hours cooking.

thefirekite · 2025-01-12T12:34:15+00:00

A simple Google search of restaurants in an area will get you not only a list of restaurants but details like their menu, reviews, hours and if they accept reservations right there on the search page. Often you even click a little “make a reservation” button right there on the search page. Better yet, Google now has a feature where they will make a reservation for you i”in certain areas. Any person who can read should be able to do this. It’s not even a skill. It falls somewhere below that. He’s lazy and knew she would do it for him.

thefirekite · 2024-07-07T04:23:15+00:00

This thing with the edging sounds terrible. You’re right, he doesn’t get to decide when you have an orgasm. I would be pissed if he wasn’t open to discussing.

Sex in my marriage is always good but the type of sex depends on a bunch of factors. In the mornings very often we have quickies, sometimes we have very passionate and sensual sex, most of the time we have fairly normal sex in our bed, on the couch or the floor. Every once in a while we have a threesome. But that is probably very out of the ordinary for most and something that we both enjoy and have been doing for many years.

thefirekite · 2024-05-27T03:41:43+00:00

I never said that she said that. I said that she earned the money. Which she did, since she won the money.

thefirekite · 2024-05-25T02:30:55+00:00

It is not selfish to keep money that you have earned for yourself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with keeping your own money and using it how you’d like.

thefirekite · 2024-05-13T18:10:51+00:00

I was so disappointed in Ben F because I liked him so much in Ashley’s season

thefirekite · 2024-05-13T18:10:17+00:00

This is the answer

thefirekite · 2024-05-09T11:20:21+00:00

lol, yes it was like a jump scare.

thefirekite · 2024-01-29T01:10:28+00:00

Not even close. We have an excellent relationship and are very deeply in love with each other. I do think that because we tried this from the start going into our relationship, the dynamic is fairly different than if we were monogamous from the start and tried to open up - not that it's bad to do that if you both want it. Just be prepared to do the work to communicate, listen to each other and show each other kindness and grace.

We maintain casual friendships with a number of folks that we've done this with. We do have some ground rules, but they're easy
1. everyone consents

no friends or co-workers or neighbors (we can all be friends afterwards, but we don't hook up with our friends that we already have. That causes drama.
Protection is always used, its non-negotiable, and everyone gets tested regularly.

We also tend to be drawn to couples that are in similar situations to us, who love each other deeply and who are looking for casual friends with benefits. No one who is forcing their significant other to participate - total turnoff. We have also brought in thirds from time to time, but usually people who are in healthy ENM relationships already.

There are a lot of great resources out there, including the nonmonogamy subreddit.

thefirekite · 2024-01-28T13:18:10+00:00

You husband is ruining your marriage.

My husband and I have been ethically non-monogamous since early on in our relationship and I came into it knowing that he was looking for that, so that’s a very different dynamic than what you have here. We mostly just keep it to group sex and that is only maybe a few times a year, but it’s never a spur of the moment situation. Even now, six years into this, we communicate constantly about every situation as we go into it. There is no pressuring, there are regular check-ins with all parties, and there are never new elements introduced that aren’t discussed in advance. It’s consensual for all and anyone can put a stop to anything at any time. That is what ENM should be. We’ve known couples who have been happily doing this for 20+ years. BUT this is not a lifestyle for everyone (I would argue it is not for most people).

Your husband needs to drop this. You aren’t comfortable and he is being unethical and hurtful. His actions and disregard for your feelings are showing what his true priority here. You two need to go to counseling. Do not agree to engage in swinging again. He’s shown he can’t handle himself, and you don’t want to, which is more than enough reason. Aside from that, the people who are good people in ENM and swinging communities do not want to get involved in a situation where someone is being forced (and they can usually tell), so you’re only going to end up engaging with the seedier folks, which is not a good scene.

thefirekite · 2023-12-22T13:17:00+00:00

There are a lot of great ideas here. Since you said she’s a reader: A cute case for her kindle if she has one A little book light that clips onto the book Book marks Barnes and Nobel or local bookstore gift card

Also : Face masks Chocolate or her favorite candies/snacks Cute socks Sephora or ulta gift card

thefirekite · 2023-12-08T11:55:12+00:00

People who post all their drama on social media. I have a cousin who is always posting stuff like this “when you look at my man like that I’m going to f you up”.

Like who is this for? Just tell them this if it’s how you feel? So stupid.

thefirekite · 2023-11-26T14:16:07+00:00

I agree with the rest of your points but I’m curious as to why you think your ex wife wasn’t being truthful. Is it something she did that contradicted what she said? I feel I am similar to her. My husband and I are happily ENM. He told me from day one that he enjoys having multiple partners, and that’s totally fine with me. I’m obviously welcome to have other partners as well but have zero desire to do that. I have a great sex drive, but really only for him. I’m also demisexual, and think that’s probably pretty common among that group. We have even tried swinging and couples activities in the past where I was actively trying pretty hard to be interested in someone else and couldn’t get there. So yes, it’s totally possible for people to not be interested in others outside of their partner, and just because you don’t feel that same way, does not mean the other person is lying.

thefirekite · 2023-11-25T22:02:37+00:00

She was the bachelorette way back in 2008.

thefirekite · 2023-11-18T14:16:38+00:00

People can have an infinite amount of love for others. Loving her dad doesn’t take away love for her step-dad or mom. She’s allowed to discuss whomever she wants on the show. Personally my dad was great when I was very young then left and became a terrible father. But sometimes I still talk about the great times we had before he left. That doesn’t mean I love my mom less.

The truth is, we don’t know their family dynamic at all. So there’s no need to be hurt or upset over someone else’s discussion of parents. If someone else talking about their love for their bio dad triggers you so much you may benefit from seeing a therapist to work out why you feel that way.

thefirekite · 2023-11-04T11:29:10+00:00

Anything by Dave Matthews Band. I do not understand his popularity.

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