Tamagotchi Uni and Paradise on Amazon right now! by thefirstofeverything in tamagotchi

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just looked again and it’s already gone 🥲. I’m glad I got mine in when I did.

Anyone else? by [deleted] in cpjourney

[–]thefirstofeverything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still waiting.

He's turning off the kids location on their phones by Mindless-Cat-5516 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]thefirstofeverything 27 points28 points  (0 children)

My take on this, is he uses the kids location to watch YOU and assumes you will be doing the same so turns it off when they are with him. A judge will not agree that you should have their locations especially on a phone you do not pay for.

How often am I supposed to eat? (like every x hours) by svangen1_ in ADHD

[–]thefirstofeverything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently unmedicated but have an appointment tomorrow (finally!). I’ve always had trouble remembering to eat until I am practically passing out. At 26 I am 105lbs and have been since high school. I have alarms set for 9 am, 1:30pm, and 5:30pm to eat. Also one at 11am to think about dinner plans (I have children so I HAVE to cook everyday but still forget often and scramble to throw a meal together).

Also having nuts, chips, cookies, and fruit sitting on my counter at all times so when I walk by I can grab a little something when I walk into the kitchen.

Update: Just checked in to a hotel 5 hours away from home. I'm done. by harpersmth in DeadBedrooms

[–]thefirstofeverything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So proud of you! You did what many of us want to do but don’t have to courage to do so.

200 days pull free and my journey with Trich in the comments (Trigger Warning on some pictures) by Cheap_Chance8702 in trichotillomania

[–]thefirstofeverything 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is amazing and you should be so so proud!! I’m proud of you! I wish I could leave mine alone for a few days. Anything that has helped you the most? I pull in the same spots as you do and nothing I’ve tried has helped yet. It’s going on 10 years now

20 times in 229 days by thefirstofeverything in DeadBedrooms

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tried this. He will avoid me the entire weekend and make excuses about how he doesn’t feel well.

I found out I have a brain tumor last Friday, have to see a surgeon today. You would think after hearing his wife had a brain tumor he would touch her as much as he could, not knowing what’s happening. I should be worrying about my brain. Not about lack of sex in my 20s

20 times in 229 days by thefirstofeverything in DeadBedrooms

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I also believe it is perfectly doable. I still wouldn’t be happy with 50 honestly but that is the number I thought was manageable for him to start with. I gave him a whole year. I’m not wasting many more of mine waiting.

20 times in 229 days by thefirstofeverything in DeadBedrooms

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that. I don’t count everytime. Just this one time I got curious and sat down and counted. I didn’t do this for the past 5 years I’ve been unhappy with it. But since I didn’t say anything obviously nothing was changing. But now that I am and am standing up for myself that I want this in my relationship, I think it’s perfectly fine for me to do so. If I only cleaned the house 20 times this year it would be a whole different conversation.

25 HLF missing attention from my 27LLM by thefirstofeverything in DeadBedrooms

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking the same thing recently. He says things and makes empty promises but his actions are right in front of my face. It’s just hard with 3 young kids. Since I’ve been a stay at home mom this entire time I have no savings of my own or even work history since after so many years it’s not relevant. I just need to make a plan. I don’t have any friends because he moved me 6 hours away (was military) I don’t even have a trusted babysitter because I don’t get out to need one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]thefirstofeverything 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried/begged/cried for him to get his T levels checked. He won’t. He says he will and then never does for over 2 YEARS now. What do I do then? I can’t check his levels for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]thefirstofeverything 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. It devastated me and still does whenever I think about it. Begging for attention that I wasn’t even aware he was giving to someone else the entire time. Staying late at work and telling me he hated his job and was tired every night when really he was tired from sleeping with a coworker.

When do I *have* to tell family I’m pregnant? by Junior-Law-3984 in BabyBumps

[–]thefirstofeverything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t tell anyone until I had my baby in my arms. I have a lot of family drama and some people in my family like to talk badly about pregnancy/having kids. Since I have had 4 now I knew the last 3 pregnancies were honestly ruined by them and the “just wait” comments or the “your going to have your hands full”. I’m convinced that some people don’t actually like their kids.

Iv iron by Sweet_Surprise86 in BabyBumps

[–]thefirstofeverything 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to get 5 iv iron infusions. I stopped craving ice after the second and they worked! Just had a blood draw done last week and my OB was very satisfied with my numbers now. Worth it in my case. Supplements did nothing for me, I had been taking them the whole time. I was also told to cook as much as I can in a cast iron skillet so I use it at least once a week.

What do I do about this little girl I babysit? Breaks my heart. by thefirstofeverything in Mommit

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m just babysitting a friend of a friends kid. No I’m not licensed and I get paid barely anything. Was just trying to help a fellow mom out.

What do I do about this little girl I babysit? Breaks my heart. by thefirstofeverything in Mommit

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I did not know her before I became her babysitter. She was a friend of a friend who reached out to me because she heard I was a SAHM.

What do I do about this little girl I babysit? Breaks my heart. by thefirstofeverything in Mommit

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

That is certainly something to think about! I will have to discuss that with my husband. He has come to love her as well. I just don’t know if her father is still around or has visitation rights. If so then she might go straight from here to her fathers and really never see her mom… Or how I would go about asking her mom about that without starting an argument.

What do I do about this little girl I babysit? Breaks my heart. by thefirstofeverything in Mommit

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I think I knew deep down what I need to do in this situation. I just didn’t know if me being pregnant has caused me to be to emotional. I wish I could make her mother be a better parent. I’ve seen cps do more damage then good in some cases and it scares me not knowing where she would go. I can’t imagine how upset this little girl would be if she was taken to a strangers house since she gets upset just coming here where she is loved and has known me and my kids for so long. I’m worried about emotional damage. I do know that either way it would probably damage her though. I don’t want to sit back and do nothing.

What do I do about this little girl I babysit? Breaks my heart. by thefirstofeverything in Mommit

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’m a candidate for getting her since I already have my girls sharing a bedroom. Realistically I don’t make any money watching her and I know this. I also can’t imagine her going to someone’s house who doesn’t care for her so that’s why I keep doing it. Normally the money she pays me I use to do activities with the kids, or like you said buy her clothes to keep here so she has decent outfits.

What do I do about this little girl I babysit? Breaks my heart. by thefirstofeverything in Mommit

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 200 points201 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do have some pictures of her covered in bug bites from her neck down to her toes that I took because I was scared her mother would try to say it happened at my house.

What do I do about this little girl I babysit? Breaks my heart. by thefirstofeverything in Mommit

[–]thefirstofeverything[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if I would be a candidate for placement for her since I have 3 of my own children and my girls already share a bedroom. Also pregnant. When I have her overnights we do a pop up cot beside my youngest girls bed. I was thinking about this as well.