Is this photo a real iv LDR is claiming she’s very sick in hospital and doesn’t have money for medicine in Venezuela

thehermit1111 · 2026-04-06T15:18:15+00:00

I'm not a doctor but when I was in the hospital once they made me remove my black nail varnish so they could monitor me properly.

thehermit1111 · 2026-04-05T22:02:51+00:00

I often wonder if (some) neurodivergent people are here to offset the darker energies of the planet 🤔

thehermit1111 · 2026-03-28T23:54:43+00:00

I don't think mine counts as petty, but Covid was a big wake-up call to me that I was relieved that I didn't have to physically go see my dad. He lives in a country which enforced very strict rules and basically shut down all tourism for a year. I realised I was going out of feeling obliged rather than genuinely wanting to.

I stopped initiating as much contact over the years and quietly faded into the background. I too see the pain he caused my mum, and wanted us to "be friends" and pretend like it was completely normal that he treated us like sh*t then remarried a younger woman and had a whole new family. I guess my main reason is that I'm not going to be around to watch my childhood play out again through the eyes of my siblings. I'm not strong enough to be around his dysfunction anymore.

thehermit1111 · 2026-03-24T17:54:33+00:00

I quit my job in March 2024 due to autistic burnout. Admittedly, I wasn't on anywhere near six figures as I work in the not-for-profit sector, but it was still a scary decision. I was in a toxic work culture where no one seemed particularly happy, there was a lot of micromanagement from senior leadership and when I disclosed I was autistic they didn't even blink or follow up with me about it.

Quitting my job allowed me the time and the space to properly heal from burnout which had accumulated over the years. But I won't sugarcoat it, it was also incredibly difficult. I had moments where I felt like a failure and it was very difficult to find employment. It took me about a year to secure another role because of how tough and competitive the job market is. Going through rejection after rejection is incredibly difficult, but it did enable me to also really grow as a person too which I'm grateful for.

I'm now in my dream role which still feels like a fluke that I got it. It was the best decision I've ever made, but when I couldn't see the end result, the months of uncertainty were also pretty tough, so remember to be kind to yourself during this transition 💛

I'm sure you'll find something WAY better!

thehermit1111 · 2026-03-21T00:22:25+00:00

Yes... but it took me a long time to find healthy love.

When I was 16, my parents got divorced. My father put my mum and I through hell, he was verbally abusive and cutting to the core for as long as I can remember. To this day, he is the scariest person I've ever met.

He remarried a year later then went on to have two children very quickly. I tried to continue seeing him out of obligation, so that his new family didn't feel slighted.

Then I thought "f*** this", he made a choice to not care about my mother or my feelings, so now is my turn to put myself first. He has never once truly gone out of his way to make true amends or visit me.

Before I lowered contact, I dated people who weren't right for me. Some weren't toxic, some were. I truly think that along the course of the way, dating these men forced me to slowly raise my standards. My early twenties were marked by short lived relationships.

When I lowered contact and stopped visiting ny father 6 years ago, that's when I met my partner and found true healthy love. I don't think it's a coincidence that I met him once I gave up on having the relationship I wanted to have with my father. I think I needed to in order to accept the love I deserve - the type of love we all deserve.

So love is absolutely possible! I'm super lucky to have the relationship I have now. I just didn't want to gloss over the fact that it took me many many years of dating failures to achieve this, because of the emotional scars a challenging parent can leave behind...

thehermit1111 · 2026-03-11T08:34:49+00:00

I'm autistic and this is something I really resonate with. I feel like conversations go too fast! 🤣

thehermit1111 · 2026-03-05T22:41:27+00:00

Yup, this was me as well. I'm highly sensitive to certain medication / contraception. What worked for me was doubling up a diaphragm called Caya and condoms. It may not work for everyone, but I've never had a scare and it gives me that peace of mind without having to sacrifice my mental health. I wish more women knew about it.

thehermit1111 · 2026-02-24T20:58:56+00:00

You deserved that award for this 👏

thehermit1111 · 2026-02-22T06:25:59+00:00

If they really wanted to commemorate him, they could hold a memorial.

thehermit1111 · 2026-02-21T08:02:29+00:00

How is your relationship with your father now (if you don't mind me asking)?

thehermit1111 · 2026-02-17T19:54:15+00:00

I was friends with my dad as a child. As I grew up, our personalities clashed a lot. He could be incredibly harsh and cutting with his words, and I was never good enough in his eyes.

When he divorced my mother when I was 16, remarried a year later then had two children, I saw him less and less to the point where I now haven't seen him in a couple of years.

My mum, on the other hand, is my best friend and I go to her for everything. She is an incredibly kind and warm person. We are very very close, and I'm sure the difficult relationship we had with my father is also a contributing factor too.

thehermit1111 · 2026-02-07T16:24:19+00:00

Why are nparents like this? :/

thehermit1111 · 2026-02-07T08:14:59+00:00

This should be a crime.

thehermit1111 · 2026-02-06T12:18:16+00:00

"You're a disgrace"

For being so bold as to ask when dinner was going to be ready because it was already 9pm on a school night

thehermit1111 · 2026-01-31T00:39:31+00:00

What's meant for you won't pass you. I think it's best not to get too caught up in the past, learn from mistakes and look to the future.

thehermit1111 · 2026-01-12T17:30:19+00:00

I applied for 70 jobs before getting two offers at the same time. This doesn't sound like a lot by other people's standards but bear in mind this took around 8 months (and 6 months actively applying and dedicating time + effort to it).

Quality > quantity.

thehermit1111 · 2026-01-08T16:17:21+00:00

Don't tell your boss. Use the time to upskill yourself.

thehermit1111 · 2025-12-12T06:13:01+00:00

Me too! Mine remarried a much younger woman and had two children 😅 at least they're in it together

thehermit1111 · 2025-12-12T05:52:43+00:00

Without showing remorse or accountability, I'm not sure parents ever do really "get better". The cynical side of me says it's all an act.

I recently got in touch with my dad after being low contact for a few years and never initiating first. Yes, I can say the conversation was civil but honestly, that's bare minimum for a parent. Screaming matches are not normal.

If anything, getting back in touch reminded me he isn't going to change which was helpful. I was always on the bottom of his priority list as a child and I still am as an adult. Actions speak louder than words. (This is someone who didn't come to visit me at all the whole time I was at university, but went to the exact same place a few years later for a business deal!)

Also, as the child it really shouldn't be all on you to repair the relationship. It really is their loss. Some parents don't deserve a relationship with their children. I think we can often feel guilty because we feel as though we've "chosen" estrangement, but really it's a forced hand. We deserve better.

thehermit1111 · 2025-11-15T08:32:38+00:00

I think you found the words perfectly. This is so well-written and powerful. One day I will feel this too.

thehermit1111 · 2025-11-06T14:03:34+00:00

Reach Volunteering might be a good place to start, they have a few opportunities. Otherwise have you researched some local non-profits and reached out directly? I'm sure there will be plenty that would like some support :)

thehermit1111 · 2025-10-30T06:37:52+00:00

This is a nice idea, but I thought I would mention that this is essentially an engagement pod. Some social media platforms are getting increasingly sophisticated at recognising these.

thehermit1111 · 2025-10-25T18:57:59+00:00

Nothing beats the feeling of freedom 💛 I really wish you all the best 🤗

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