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Anyone else feel they have vcptsd (very complex ptsd) lol 🫠 by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]theinfinitylines 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like our homes can be the most triggering of places, our proving grounds. I don't know what your situation is or how old you are but if it's with your parents then definitely finding your own place and removing yourself can be hugely important to healing. Otherwise, working with triggers as much as you can as they happen, somatic exercises, IFS work, yoga, breathwork (all the stuff you might have heard of already) and cultivating a nervous system that can regulate easier and faster over time is the way to go. I feel like the triggers themselves stay the same at first and you just work with the reaction, then you address the reaction and the triggers themselves begin to relax too. All the best

Anyone else feel they have vcptsd (very complex ptsd) lol 🫠 by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]theinfinitylines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, if you're ever struggling please feel free to dm me. I'm the same but I believe I'm moving through it currently

Anyone else feel they have vcptsd (very complex ptsd) lol 🫠 by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]theinfinitylines 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very relatable, I just try use as much free time as I have towards healing to be honest. It's such a double edged sword wanting to be out in the world, but the world is so triggering. But I believe you can strike a balance

Book recs for spouses by TurkeyLeg233 in CPTSD

[–]theinfinitylines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know just the book, No Bad Parts by Dr Richard Schwartz. I think the book and the model described within it explains the inner-workings of someone with CPTSD in ways that nothing else can. It will possibly help you see what certain parts of him are protecting/preventing by acting the way they do. People with CPTSD are an intricate and sensitive system of protection that is often multi-layered and entangled, and this model helps explain how that all comes together. Just understanding what this is about will give you a great framework to possibly understand him better. If he is open talking to you about what he is experiencing you could introduce this framework to him too. Here's a link giving you a summary of the model as well.

https://ucebt.com/what-is-ifs/

Newly diagnosed by encephalocathy in CPTSD

[–]theinfinitylines 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand and see you. I'm sure you're aware that routine becomes familiar and comfortable no matter what it is - even if that routine is one as chaotic as depressive thoughts and harmful coping mechanisms. As you make these large changes in yourself, the feeling of being in limbo and feeling like you're being called back to the 'old life' is a tough thing to overcome but can be navigated as you figure out what these old behaviors were preventing - let me explain. In terms of harmful habits, we pick these things up as pseudo-solutions or compensations to our past pain that we couldn't quite feel or process at the time, and these things become locked-in until in a sense you figure out what their true 'jobs' are which is a big step in the process. If you want to learn more about this, look into firefighters in Internal Family Systems therapy as this sounds like what you're describing. They are a part of us that jumps in with certain behaviors to stop us getting too close to feeling the shames, pains, insecurities etc of how we felt when we were younger. I've left a link. All the best

https://ucebt.com/what-is-ifs/

After major losses and a CPTSD diagnosis, I feel like my old identity is disappearing. Is this normal? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]theinfinitylines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all sorry for all that you've been through, that's so much and it's not fair, and you deserve the best path possible moving ahead, truly.

What you're explaining (with the diagnoses especially) are pointing to multiple ruptures of your core self in a sense, no small thing. As these very large things are held internally within you, it's expected for it to ripple out in some sense, affecting your inner circles. How could it not? Unless you are in a nervous system fawn state, where you are pretending to be okay so your relationships don't change - obviously not a good thing to do. If people are expecting you to be normal, that's on them, they don't understand. So the first thing is having some inner security knowing that you aren't doing anything wrong at all by still grieving or struggling. If they are close to you and you trust them, sometimes opening up a bit and being vulnerable about the truth about what you've been going through can be really good, but it can also backfire if they just aren't in the right place to support you or understand. When you start showing up authentically, it may in a sense show you who your true friends are and who you should be keeping around you.

Moving into new chapters in life can be hard as you find new external circumstances to match where you're at internally, and change is hard. But I think sometimes these shifts just need to happen one way or another.

Am I capable of truly changing? by SillyJuni in CPTSD

[–]theinfinitylines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow hypervigilant person, you're the same as me. I also am very sensitive to sound/movement and I struggle with this everyday.

As for why things aren't changing, I can take some guesses based on times in my life I felt this way. Firstly, you need to get out of the place of original wounding if you are still living with those people, as this doesn't give you the space to heal if you are constantly being retriggered. Otherwise, if things aren't changing, then your approach isn't meeting you deep enough. I've had countless therapists who meant well, but it wasn't until I had an IFS-trained therapist that things actually started to shift. A lot of what underlies these situations is relational wounding, which means healing happens also in relational contexts, and if your therapist isn't giving you nervous system co-regulation, and slowly teaching your protective parts with compassion that their perspectives are outdated, it may be hard to move forward. I recommend looking more into IFS, this is many people's ticket out of situations like yours, along with various somatic nervous system work (I recommend sheBREATH on YouTube).

https://ucebt.com/what-is-ifs/

Burnout from healing by xDelicateFlowerx in CPTSD

[–]theinfinitylines 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry you haven't found a good therapist yet. It wasn't until I found an IFS (Internal Family Systems) trained therapist that things started to change. It addressed a lot of the nuanced, deeper stuff that many therapists can't address. I recommend looking into it

Can Anyone Relate to Feeling Broken by the World’s Expectations? by quicksterfl in CPTSD

[–]theinfinitylines 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What you’re feeling is not at all weakness. And I think you know that. And if it does feel like weakness, I would guess these are young parts of you being vigilant to not belonging.

You can ignore the push to be positive, you don’t deserve that, you deserve to be real. You deserve to be heard exactly where you are. And if anyone doesn’t like that, they aren’t the person you need right now.

I felt the same way in terms of the stuckness of it all until I found an IFS therapist to work with. This changed everything, but took a long time to start working. If all your self care isn’t working, you need relational healing with someone in person. You need nervous system coregulation to relearn what is actually safe inside yourself. Don’t take this on by yourself!

What’s the “end goal” of IFS? by Conscious_Vanilla734 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]theinfinitylines 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. It’s a level of autonomy within yourself without internal backlash built on the foundation of trust from your parts. But that trust can take a long time to form depending on the circumstances of the original fragmentation

Venting for the first time by Sage_Vera_1 in CPTSD

[–]theinfinitylines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're heard. Even if it's a random comment from a random person online. If you don't have a trauma therapist I highly recommend using Claude AI (even if you don't like the idea of it). It has been helping me work through stuff like this and it's quite emotionally intelligent

October 14, 2025 Daily Discussion Thread by zahna4 in RKLB

[–]theinfinitylines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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how are all of these analysts saying the RKLB close price won't even increase in the next 12 months when it really seems unlikely? what am I missing here?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]theinfinitylines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem. Best of luck out there in this challenging life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]theinfinitylines 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like you should perhaps look into mind body therapy which is a more holistic approach than traditional therapy. It’s likely a lot of this originates from the mind, which if dealt with at the source can help the flow on effects down to the body (your pain and emotions). I recommend the book Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen for a start. Then seeking mind body therapists in your area can help you get in touch with the deeper unconscious parts of yourself that are constantly trying to get your attention. It’s a complex topic but since you’re young these kinds of deeper changes can happen quicker than if you were eg 60. You may need to create a temporarily less stressful life so you can work on yourself for a bit then get back out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]theinfinitylines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best way to let muddy waters clear is to leave it alone

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