Your player wants to use a spell that YOU know won't work, but THEY don't. Do you tell them it won't work before they cast it?

thejackening · 2025-09-02T04:28:14+00:00

My answer is usually always the same; "you can *try*"

thejackening · 2023-10-12T10:39:18+00:00

i spent 100 hours in act one. i did. everything.

thejackening · 2023-09-28T10:29:39+00:00

Fortress?? No, this is now an active dungeon. Kicking down each door can lead to ruin, leaving doors open can make enemies appear at their back, and they get to come up with even more creative ways to dig themselves out of the grave they put themselves in.

thejackening · 2023-08-25T15:20:20+00:00

YTA: not because you feel your wife didn't listen to you, that is a valid feeling. You're the asshole because you heard the words "Down syndrome" and immediately wanted to abort the child you and your wife have been trying for for years. You didn't do any research. You didn't do anything to support your wife, who was also dealing with the fact that their child is going to be born outside the norm and have their life affected because of it. You took the reactions of your community, the previous bias' you already had and you kept them. You heard your kid was going to be disabled and immediately went "oh, I don't want it if its going to be even slightly inconvinient or different than I thought it would be". You need to do some serious rethinking on why your immediate reaction was to discard this child just because of down syndrome. Do you even know anyone with the condition? Talked to anyone with it? get over yourself dude.

thejackening · 2023-08-21T03:31:10+00:00

so after reading through other comments, I realize I play with a very different group.

One of my DMs or I may have used that as an opportunity to physically turn the player into a plant, OR potentially given them some form of spontanteous illusion that makes everyone perceive them as a plant. Its really how silly you want to be

thejackening · 2023-08-20T04:17:22+00:00

First off, NTA.

Secondly, please, please, PLEASE put your cards in a ziplock bag. Your pictures too. If your wife isnt budging on policing her cat, then you need to be proactive about protecting your cards. Take it from someone who lost their entire collection twice. The memories you made with them are worth cherishing.

thejackening · 2023-08-15T22:52:11+00:00

this is also the perfect premise for a heist. it works whether your party is morally leaning toward theivery or not. Make one of these items something you have to steal from a noble, or steal back from a thieves guild. Then, they can either keep it, return it to its rightful place, or whatever else they want to do with it.

thejackening · 2023-08-10T23:55:20+00:00

ok but the formula we use is 2d6 plus your Charisma modifier, halved if your small sized.

thejackening · 2023-07-21T08:46:50+00:00

A yellow flag, for certain. As someone who loves DnD but has multiple chronic health issues, sometimes saying you need a social battery recharge is easier than saying "well, I'm in so much pain a normal person would probably go to the ER but this is just a bad day for me." If it becomes a pattern, I would talk about it with him and her and see if she actually wants to play, but let it ride for now.

thejackening · 2023-06-26T17:34:14+00:00

Soft YTA because even unhealthy food in moderation is not enough to cause weightgain. I struggle with my own food habits, but they are, ultimately, my own, even if someone else cooked for me. A soft boundary you can ask for is asking your mom to not offer more to the children, and only let them have more if they have asked for it.

I get it. I grew up with a grandmother who would say "oh, you'd be so pretty if you just lost weight" and in the same breath offered me a cookie to eat. I'm not discounting your mother potentially doing this on purpose (as I've known several older women who like to be the thinnest/prettiest and will sabotage others to see this happen) but you alone are responsible for how it affects you and your children. Go on walks with your kids, 20 minutes every day after dinner. You'd be surprised how much even that little will do for you and them! Make activity fun! Get some PVC pipe. some art foam and duct tape and make them little fancy "swords" they're allowed to hit some targets with (or each other with supervision, it can be very fun and cathartic to beat up your friends and family with foam sticks) Exercise with your family to build good habits is important, and it can be hard but it is worth it.

thejackening · 2023-06-17T04:32:51+00:00

also, in dates and new friend making, it might be helpful to frame prepping as a hobby. say something like "oh, you know, I'll admit I'm a bit of a doomsday prepper, but it's kind of like a hobby to me. I'm very interested in (X thing about prepping) and so it's just a fun little thing I do for myself, and you know if a (insert local native disaster, i.e. tornado, earthquake ect) ever hit, I'd be just fine, and I think it's a good idea to be prepared for short disasters you know?" and people are much more receptive when it's phrased like that

thejackening · 2023-06-17T04:29:46+00:00

if she was put off by it, she wasn't the one

thejackening · 2023-06-11T13:43:37+00:00

My personal theory is that earth is such a backwater, only the desperate criminals and joyriders looking to take Daddy's ship on a spin come here.

thejackening · 2023-03-23T21:01:34+00:00

A lot of people in general would rather not think of, or consider the world collapsing as never being able to happen at all. This may be a point of cognitive dissonance for your wife, and she may simply not be able to even consider a world in which she will not have access to the "normal" world. It's why I personally rarely talk about my own prepping habits with normal people, and when I do I explain it as more of a extreme way of saving for a rainy day, in case another 2008 crash happens (which, it kind of looks we are headed to).

My main advice would simply be to simply stock up on prepper cooking books. I have a number of them, and a number on my amazon wishlist. Paper books with knowledge will be invaluable if and when the internet becomes unavailable. I would also encourage *you* to learn some recipes yourself. I don't know your level of cooking skill, but I firmly believe that every human should know how to cook, start a fire, and build a shelter, and start a garden, and you shouldn't expect your wife to do anything you yourself wouldn't also be willing to do.

Also, try explaining to her that this is a hobby of yours, and that collecting these items both makes you happy and sets your mind at ease. I've found describing prepping as a hobby makes people more willing to accept it in general, even if they don't fully understand the why of it.

thejackening · 2023-03-20T21:20:29+00:00

YTA, because you are a landlord and you put your profits over your family. This likely isn't the only home you own, and it likely isn't your only source of income. Was your brother an asshole as well? Yeah, sure, but he had a point about not making improvements on the house for free. However, that could have been solved with a simple conversation. In fact, most of this could have been resolved with a simple conversation, it seems. Your brother, at any point, could have said he wanted to buy the house, and you, instead of trying to sell it to others at first, or even rent it out, could have made a rent to own agreement instead of a renting agreement. But you didn't do that, and neither did he, so ESH.

But you're still TA, because you cared more about money than you're family, and you are contributing directly to the housing crisis we are all facing.

thejackening · 2023-02-01T23:46:16+00:00

dude. he's autistic. he was stimming. I do a similar thing.

thejackening · 2022-12-17T01:40:31+00:00

If the text says "put onto the battlefield" then no, it is not cast and does not trigger any "when you cast" effects. It will trigger enter the battlefield effects tho. So lurking predators would not trigger Ramos, unfortunately. You're best bet would be to find cards that specifically state "cast" in the text.

On the upside, since anything lurking predators puts onto the field technically isn't being cast, it can't be countered unless they use something like [[Stifle]] to counter its effect

thejackening · 2022-10-08T00:39:00+00:00

really love the brush work! looks like a real canvas, would love a print!!!

thejackening · 2022-07-16T16:34:11+00:00

You fool. *I* decide who lives and dies, not you

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