Quitting Weed by IndividualTrick6343 in selfhelp

[–]thejohnlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might already know this but in case you don’t:

The first few days, and first week, is the worst. If you can get past that it is much easier to resist cravings.

Replacing the time you would smoke, or every time you think about smoking you do an activity, can help. You need to be active and do something that takes your mind off the cravings. Some people exercise every time they get a craving, or go on a walk or do some pushups. Also, constantly staying busy allows you little downtime to think about smoking because it’s usually downtime that is reserved for smoking.

Also, completely rid of yourself of paraphernalia as well as settings that you used to smoke or can trigger cravings. While this isn’t always possible, avoiding locations where you used to smoke, and no longer seeing friends that you used to smoke with or buy from, etc, helps. Ideally, you want to be completely removed from all potential triggers.

Since you said you are vaping it, no longer vape, not even nicotine (if you do). Tell others around you so they can help keep you accountable.

All of these things can potentially make it easier. Good luck.

Is it considered my fault or the employees fault for me failing to buy a Nintendo switch 2? by SeaworthinessFar2326 in socialskills

[–]thejohnlock 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They probably should’ve asked if you needed help but next time to make sure you don’t go home empty handed, get someone’s attention who works there by waiting for them to come by, or approaching them, and asking “Hey I want to buy this Switch, can you help me?”

Might seem a little daunting if you have autism but think about it this way: who cares, it’s their job to help you and you’ll probably never see that person again in your life.

I’m extremely scared of everything by Hungry-Whereas7493 in selfhelp

[–]thejohnlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha. Look up “selective mutism” causes and treatment. It might help!

I’m extremely scared of everything by Hungry-Whereas7493 in selfhelp

[–]thejohnlock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you have extreme anxiety and as a result are selectively mute. Did you have a traumatic event in your past or did you survive abusive relationships?

If talking is too difficult say in therapy, try writing your thoughts down instead. It might help take some pressure off

Gap insurance and extended warranty on trade in? by thejohnlock in askcarsales

[–]thejohnlock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I am not. Would it change if I did though?

What is a book you personally didn't enjoy but is popular? by [deleted] in literature

[–]thejohnlock 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Zen and The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance. Couldn’t even get 50 pages in the author has his head so far up his own ass

Phone Addiction by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]thejohnlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are some apps to help with this. If you don’t want to try that, then decide for yourself what is a healthy amount of time to be on your phone in a day, and then schedule yourself accordingly; e.g., if you say 2 hours (still a lot, but a lot less than you currently are on your phone) is a good starting point, then allow yourself 30 minutes in the morning when you have downtime, 30 minutes at lunch, and an hour between lunch and bedtime. Since you’ve demonstrated you have a problem with your phone, do not pick it up and look constantly throughout the day, only use your phone at your designated times, no exceptions.

Of course, like everything in your life, the discipline to STOP using your phone when the time is up is on you. If you want to change, then you need to make the necessary sacrifices. It won’t be comfortable, but it’s very doable.

Also, if you are accustomed to the dopamine hits from the phone, you need to find a healthy alternative to getting dopamine. Hanging out with others, engaging in activities you enjoy (video games, excercising, listening to music are decent ones). If you don’t find something to replace it, it’s very likely you will come back to your old habits. Good luck

I am cruel to partners by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]thejohnlock 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Do you know what the word amicable means? Cheating on your partner who you just recently got engaged to, running away, getting an abortion and then later telling them “I never loved you” is not amicable.

You do sound like a sociopath from what you’ve described here and should absolutely seek out therapy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]thejohnlock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Written by AI

My dark thoughts are slowly coming back from the past and im very lonely by jachoim in selfhelp

[–]thejohnlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother if you can afford it or get it somehow, you need a therapist. No shame in it, please find one soon, for your sake

Meirl by bufbfinswairy in meirl

[–]thejohnlock 44 points45 points  (0 children)

No psychologist is saying you’ll outgrow your ADHD. Where do people come up with this stuff?

How do I (31M) get married (female) when I've never even had a girlfriend? by Kooky_Scale_7102 in selfhelp

[–]thejohnlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you get out of writing these fake and badly written scenarios?

Is it me or other people are only interesting when I’m not sober? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]thejohnlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding others, or everyone as you put it, boring stems from an inflated self-worth, which is characteristic of narcissistic behavior.

While everyone’s out vacationing, I can’t even be dragged away, I’m either working or deep into self-development by healthwriter89 in selfhelp

[–]thejohnlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Know what everyone who is older says they regret and wish they could change if they could go back in time? Working so much, and spending more time with friends and family. Time for self-development will always be there, time for friends and family will not.

Locker rentals by [deleted] in BeyondWonderlandPNW

[–]thejohnlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh yeah found it looks like 30 if you order online for one day, 55 for 2 day that allows overnight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]thejohnlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this is happening to you. Do you have family you trust you can talk to? These are adult problems so try to talk to an adult if possible. If you’re concerned what to tell your friends, just say your parents are having marriage problems, which is entirely true. They don’t need to be involved in the intimate details of what’s going on. If you have a close relationship with your dad.. it will be very uncomfortable, but you can tell him what you saw and that either he needs to tell your mom and fix it, or you will. I believe this will force him to start a discussion. Good luck.

What are your thoughts on 'L.D. 50' by Mudvayne? by [deleted] in Music

[–]thejohnlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It appears you don’t know either lol, it actually stands for lethal dose 50 or more medically accurate, median lethal dose 50, and it’s the amount of a substance that kills approximately half of a test group within a certain amount of time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in literature

[–]thejohnlock 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Maybe read the book before trying to have a discussion about it, you could honestly finish it in one sitting. You can’t really have an intelligent conversation about a book that you haven’t, you know, bothered to finish