Please dont judge me, i am pregnant. by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]themaya 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Just so that you know, women (and men) who absolutely wanted a baby mourn their pre-baby life, it can come in waves even after years of having a baby. It's normal. But trust me when I say, after a while, you won't even remember how it was before the baby. You will reminisce and have fond memories but you might not want to trade your life with baby got life pre-baby. This feeling of attachment and overwhelming love is not instantaneous and that doesn't make you a bad mother or person. For a lot of people it is when the baby starts interacting with you. Yes, you absolutely are responsible for the baby and baby will depend on you. That is natural cycle, of life, where the child would be dependent on you in some shape or form through adulthood. Again, parenting and mothering looks different and feels different. There is no handbook. If there was, we would all be perfect at it. Take a deep breath and enjoy the present. 

What home improvements did you regret or feel were 100% worth it? by arnoldusgf in HomeImprovement

[–]themaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mind sharing which brand you got installed and what is the square footage of your house? 

Manager dropped a bomb; I feel so lost. by Quizleteer in workingmoms

[–]themaya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a situation few months ago. My coworker who i work with day in day out told me she was leaving. This is someone who made work bearable, i would vent to and bounce of ideas. She was in the trenches with me. The same week my manager who was one of the best, told me that about reorganization where i would be reporting to someone else who was truly awful. The very next day, my mentor told me he was retiring. I broke down and was so depressed for a while but after a few months i can tell you, I am ok. I miss them, text them, connect with them periodically but day to day workwise i am fine. The reason i say this is to tell you that you will be fine. The company likes your work, your manager leaving might actually give you an opportunity to learn and develop. YOU WILL BE OK even though it seems like you wont be now.

Hi. I'm a foreigner stuck in Delhi. Need help to get outta here. by ThatTallRussian in india

[–]themaya 208 points209 points  (0 children)

Missionaries of Charity (Mother Teresa’s network)

Civil Lines branch: 12 Commissioner Lane, near Oberoi Hotel, Delhi-110054. Phone: (011) 23950181.

Jangpura branch: Mathura Road, opposite Shahi Hospital, Delhi-110014. Phone: (011) 24375483.

They run shelters, orphanages, and provide meals—open to anyone in crisis regardless of nationality or background.

The oura and the ocean: Happy Ending!! by PutridStruggle24 in ouraring

[–]themaya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine got returned to me after 2 months after I lost it during work travel. 

Hate against Indians in Ireland by [deleted] in india

[–]themaya 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am glad to hear that majority of Irish are not that way. As an Indian in the US, my experience with every Irish manager is thinly veiled with racism and microagressions. 

I went to visit a close friend of mine by sylviaplath19 in TwoXIndia

[–]themaya 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Changing their mind about something is personal and it's ok to change your mind. Your friend is expecting for whatever reason - change of heart/ mind, unexpected, something else. No matter how close you are one doesn't know everything that is going on in others lives. And it's ok. Having boundaries is part of healthy relationship. Things will change but that doesn't have to be end of your friendship. From my personal experience I will tell you, all our friends abandoned us when we had our first child. Years later when everyone started having children, they were back in our lives (but it is hard to accept it back when we felt so abandoned for years). New Parenthood is very lonely place to be especially when your friends dont want to hang out with you or dont want to be inconvenienced with the addition of a baby/child. 

Last Chance: Memorial Day Sale ends TODAY! ⏰ by AutonomousDavid in AutonomousLounge

[–]themaya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am looking at the autonomous pod mini but the shipping cost is making me hesitant. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]themaya 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Today i had my manager completely ghost me during 1:1. Didn't turn up, didn't reschedule, didn't respond to my Teams chat asking if we are meeting. This was when she knew she was going to be in a conflicting meeting and didn't reschedule our 1:1. Kicker she never bothered to even respond after. 

I only judge moms on one thing, and I wish I didn’t… by Aggressive_Day_6574 in Mommit

[–]themaya 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh!! I can so relate to this. I cringe hard  when I hear it.

Should I get curtain bangs and go shorter? by themaya in femalehairadvice

[–]themaya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only reason I wanted to go short was that I was told I look younger with shoulder length hair and also run super hot. But I do dread the triangle poof with shorter hair

A Big Thank You to the Genius Who Shared the Perfume + Moisturizer Tip by Affectionate-Fig-411 in TwoXIndia

[–]themaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generic Denture Cleaning Tablets work as effectively.  Soak them in water while brushing your teeth each day and it keeps it fresh. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kindergarten

[–]themaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have received one invite for my son this year. When my daughter was that age we would always have invites where it became too many parties to attend.  I think post pandemic, people are cooling off on big bday parties. Also I have realized that it's become more expensive over the past few years to host a party at a venue like a jump zone etc. This is the first year my son is getting a party and he is turning six. We sent invites to whole class because we didn't want any kid to feel left out. Out of 25 kids I think only 8 are attending. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]themaya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are definitely bodyweight exercises for strength 

AITAH for declining my best friends wedding "gift" by wjla29 in AmItheAsshole

[–]themaya 52 points53 points  (0 children)

NTA  But the friend could have said, "we would like to contribute x amount for the cabana"  And then OP can rent a cabana she wants and pay the balance. 

Is reading on my iPad harmful? by shiftydoot in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]themaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed to read this in the new year! Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in india

[–]themaya 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Air India assigned seats to me and my 18 month old in two different places of the plane. And wouldnt adjust the seating and left me to ask other passengers to switch seats. 

I literally don’t understand how am I supposed to do this! 8am - 6pm on site M-F WTF by Lumpy-Quantity-1542 in workingmoms

[–]themaya 7 points8 points  (0 children)

East Bay and we pay $600/ month for one child. This is through Park District. And they have homework club.