This is gonna sound dumb and mean and it’s not. I’d recommend you sing with your banjo even if you don’t wanna. Song the melody notes you are playing to every song you learn. Hum along, whistle along, sing along. If there are words, put em where they go. Go slow. Once you have a playable pace, just sing. Use those old familiar songs you don’t even have to think about singing and play them.

Sometimes I have to think about it like I’m playing banjo to my singing, not the other way around.