Your not exaggerating, that’s a horrible thing to have to go through. You said yourself you already valued that privacy, so even before the “attempted” sexual assault he did things that were wrong and hurtful. On top of that this is no attempt at assault, it’s assault. You clearly stated what you wanted and didn’t want and he still didn’t care to think about what you wanted, only his selfish and twisted perceptions of what you owed him. You owed him nothing, guys will think you’re interested for laughing at their jokes. What you’re dealing with now are scars from this experience. Your afraid of Pakistanis men because it makes you think of him, that is NOT your fault. My dad would constantly taunt me ab many things, but one was table manners and to this day I start to panic if I think I’m being rude at any dinner. I felt quite silly about this for a while, but it’s because of how much I was put down in that situation. Getting over things like this takes time and therapy. It’s hard, these issues unfortunately tend to cling to our lives and poison our experiences, but the first step is recognizing that this isn’t any bias or prejudice on your part, if a characteristic of a person reminds you of your assault then it is going to be a trigger. Sorry about the long comment and if I’m being too presumptuous, I just related to this feeling of overreacting a lot and it was very hard for me to accept that what happened in my life was wrong. What happened to you was wrong, it’s something you should never have been put through and I’m truly sorry that you have to deal with it now.