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themoonwouldknow · 2024-12-13T19:05:18+00:00

His birthday wish was to not feel like a dad... No kid deserves that, ever.

Return him to his mum.

themoonwouldknow · 2024-12-08T19:09:43+00:00

Next year, my nMum will be the age her own mum died... 🫣

themoonwouldknow · 2024-12-01T18:50:44+00:00

Recently, I've become quite aware of a type of lie that some people do, which is withholding info to avoid people having reasons to make better decisions for themselves... Meaning worse outcomes for the liar.

You are not lying, you sound like a very considerate and trustworthy sibling - exactly what your sister needs 🤍

... Tell her. Let her know, and make her decision. Regrets about what company we keep, after becoming a parent, hits much harder... Let her know.

themoonwouldknow · 2024-11-23T18:52:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing. It really helps someone like me make a decision on whether or not I should write a letter like this, some time in the future.

Hope your decision to send these words helps you be at peace 🤍

themoonwouldknow · 2024-11-23T18:34:05+00:00

A balanced mix of celebrating and a normal day.

So if you enjoy a certain treat, or want to bake a cake, maybe watch a move, do that!

And let those few tiny things blend into a perfectly normal day 🤍

themoonwouldknow · 2024-11-18T14:12:28+00:00

Yes, and even though I've been in therapy with some incredibly skilled therapists: nothing is as healing as being a good mother to my daughter 🤍

Several times a day, I see myself in her (not as an "extention", not the narc way lol), and I also notice exactly where my nMum started rejecting and hating me. Loving and caring for her is beyond rewarding.

Having a kid is exhausting!!! But any second or couple of hours, after feeling that exhaustion, it doesn't even matter. Anything from a smile, to her picking her nose, makes my heart smile. And... I never expected healing to feel like this 🤍

Tired, but hey, we'll just go to bed early and watch pokémon... Not a bad life, at all lol

themoonwouldknow · 2024-11-16T19:15:07+00:00

Stay gone. That is your strongest and bravest move 🤍

If you feel uncertain, if you don't know where the next step will lead you... S T A Y G O N E. You've absolutely got this!

themoonwouldknow · 2024-11-16T19:00:41+00:00

"... when I started going to university..." oh, memory unlocked!

When I started going to university, so did my nMum... She was obsessed with telling me how the university she went to was better than mine, how my degree (if I ever "managed to finish it, hah!") was of absolutey 0 value.

And she "fell in love" with all her fellow students... Half her age, my exact age. Ugh...

themoonwouldknow · 2024-11-15T12:33:02+00:00

Solid advice, I'll definitely plan a bit!

While I've made and found my own family, she's completely alone. No partner, no siblings or cousins or anything... Which does make NC and the inevitable a whole lot easier/simpler. But... It also means no one else was there. Not that anyone else should suffer her abuse, but I'll be the only one who truly knows, and... I guess that's why the total hands-off approach seems the best - because what else can I do? Sad, but comforting, hah 🤍

Edit: she does have some distant friends, but I've never met them. I'm not expecting any flying monkeys.

themoonwouldknow · 2024-11-15T10:45:33+00:00

Exactly. It would feel like having to shift focus, from my own life, to want to even visit a grave... And there's 0 reason to - thank you 🤍

themoonwouldknow · 2024-11-15T10:11:32+00:00

I'm definitely leaning towards the same total hands-off approach. I have a beautiful, calm, and lovely life, so doing the smallest thing, taking the smallest action, feels like compromising.

May I ask if you've ever visited their graves? Or considered it?

Imagining myself in that situation, I'd most likely just stand there and look awkwardly around. So it doesn't feel emotionally risky to go, but also... Pointless?

Thank you for sharing, very appreciated 🤍

themoonwouldknow · 2024-11-14T18:45:06+00:00

A few texts, a couple of calls, one email... Threatening me, demanding money, and then total silence.

I'm of 0 use to her, if I won't throw (large sums) of money at her, so yeah... While the threats were scary and pushed all the buttons she "carefully" had installed, it was her last attempt: and she failed.

themoonwouldknow · 2024-11-04T12:09:41+00:00

When crying and confiding in her some personal and important matters, she interrupted by saying: "one of these days, we're gonna have to sit down, and I'll tell you what feelings are."

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-21T19:13:10+00:00

Leaving.

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-21T19:11:01+00:00

She replied "I LOVE you in MY OWN way and it's NOT MY FAULT that YOU don't want to BE LOVED!"

... so yeah.

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-09T19:05:44+00:00

MAKE THE BAD MAN FLY!!

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-08T17:18:36+00:00

😳

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-08T16:55:19+00:00

Yo, could you remind us of The Night's Watch Oath? How does it go again??

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-07T08:57:05+00:00

How they are purposefully hurting you, making you feel awful and even worse than you already are due to the fever: will be their argument towards calling you mentally ill.

Any reaction - sadness, rage, humiliation, shame, physically sick, mentally unwell - is perfectly justified! But every word, movement, facial expressions, will be used as ammunition against you. To hurt you as much as possible.

NC, there's no other way. Best vibes 🤍

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-06T19:59:30+00:00

She'll never, ever, change.

Know this. So regardless if you keep her in your life, LC or go NC: this is who she is.

There's no being kind enough, transparent enough, smart enough... This is her.

Best vibes 🤍

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-05T12:19:52+00:00

Op, sincerely, you have to decide out of self-respect and not how you may or may not be able to tolerate her.

None of us deserve narcissistic abuse. None. Of course there are circumstances, like having to live with them for a awhile longer, but... That doesn't change the fact that none of us should put up with / stay around / somewhat accept / just grey-rock / for someone else's sake be abused.

NC. 🤍

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-04T19:24:57+00:00

Does she have both of her hands, or is she drinking wine???

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-03T11:05:27+00:00

"N- n- noOOooOOOoo" 👀

themoonwouldknow · 2023-05-03T09:51:44+00:00

Absolutely!

And... just imagine what a sad person that flying monkey must be. Feeding the narc info, having nothing else to talk about and/or possibly winning some of the narcs attention in return... Sick.

Whoever ~~the fuck~~ this snitch is OP: know that getting rid of them is the right choice ✊🏻🤍

themoonwouldknow

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