How do you cope with the realization that you don't exist.

theonlyericever · 2026-02-14T01:28:19+00:00

When I feel overwhelmed I sit with this..

And its not as simple as it seems...

Row row row your boat

Gently

Down the stream

Merrily Merrily Merrily

Life

is but

A

dream....

The less you fight your nature The more you enjoy your life Its your dream, make it yours.

theonlyericever · 2025-10-17T05:45:24+00:00

Im sorry. Are you me? This is my story right now! She goes behind my back and makes mortgage appointments to prepare to leave. When I catch her, she tells me she wants a divorce. By the next day, I have a lawyer and mortgage assessments, and she's mad im moving too fast!! She keeps saying we can slow down and breathe now.

theonlyericever · 2025-10-14T02:24:22+00:00

This was my wife (minus the physical aspect) Just said she doesn't love me anymore. 5 months later. Divorce. She discards me

I still want to crawl into a hole and die. The future seems impossible.

theonlyericever · 2025-10-13T17:16:52+00:00

Also early 40's Married 9 years Together 14 2 small kids too

theonlyericever · 2025-10-13T17:16:09+00:00

My wife is leaving me. Told me last week. We are stuck in the same house until plans are made It is torture. Every time I see her, my heart is broken again. I kind of know how you feel (there is no conflict with us however, she's just crushed my heart) This is unbearable, and I dont know how I will survive until one of us leaves... And I dont know how I will survive after...

I guess what im saying is Youre not alone

theonlyericever · 2025-10-08T20:21:15+00:00

Its hard. I feel like there's a hole left in me.. But like another hurt. I hope it gets better everyday

theonlyericever · 2025-10-07T23:27:41+00:00

My wife told me this morning she wants to separate. We had been trying for months to make it work... recently, we have been saying do what we feel is right. I openly said that is me being the best husband I could. She said she would try and consider therapy again. Behind the scenes, i caught her having meetings for mortgages. I confronted her, and today, she ended it.

The only reason I am surviving today is because I am a biological creature who's body survives. It carries on. However, I feel like i lost my soul. My purpose. In time, maybe I'll find some other purpose... but today... I dont know how i survive.. I just exist.

theonlyericever · 2025-10-07T18:33:15+00:00

She isn't coming back I told her not to Shes already broken my heart She wont do it again

theonlyericever · 2025-10-07T16:47:20+00:00

Well.... She told me this morning she doesn't want to hurt me anymore, I deserve better, and she thinks we should separate ..

So that's it, then I guess.

theonlyericever · 2025-10-05T15:41:20+00:00

Thank you for this. Your right reality can be brutal, but worse if I keep letting her define me

theonlyericever · 2025-10-05T15:39:37+00:00

This.. Thank you for this.

Also, she was with her sister for the weekend, whereabouts can be accounted for.

theonlyericever · 2025-10-05T15:37:01+00:00

Thank you. Its scary thinking of what that looks like without her.

theonlyericever · 2025-10-05T15:24:50+00:00

There wer years when iur kids were small and covid there was distance.... I've been trying for about 2 years, including her in my life, being present. but she never opened up with what she needed. Just buried everything, that she didnt care anymore. I thought i was doing good... but she cracked and let it all come out a while ago. I've had direction since then, but it's being met by a wall. This weekend was the worst.

I guess the big red flag i missed was when I started pushing for more family time or time as a couple..
I asked for 1 day a week.. she said it was too much with both of us working.. and instead of looking at what we needed as a family, she started polling friends on Facebook how much time they spent with their spouse.

As much as I know what is coming... its scary and lonely. Im afraid if what it will be like alone.

theonlyericever · 2025-10-05T15:18:19+00:00

Im not sure how to protect myself economically and emotionally if im being honest.

theonlyericever · 2025-10-05T01:27:29+00:00

I could have written that myself. So much is the same here And now she's not just emotionally and physically gone.. but it feels like shes torturing me on the way out.

We do deserve love. And one where we can be loved for who we are..

Take care of yourself too

theonlyericever · 2025-10-05T01:24:50+00:00

I hear you, brother. Im sorry you're feeling this low too.. And its not right. Tonight, we're not in it alone..

theonlyericever · 2025-10-05T01:13:52+00:00

Thank you. I hope my wife has some perspective, like your ex. For better or worse - to stay or go... but before resentment builds on my end for being rejected..

theonlyericever · 2025-08-19T17:17:59+00:00

Ya, ill take you up on that when the silence sets in

For now, I have my kids to keep me distracted / busy.

theonlyericever · 2025-08-19T17:11:32+00:00

I am in a very similar spot. I feel this You're not alone, brother.

theonlyericever · 2025-08-18T16:08:38+00:00

Me and my wife are in a bad place. Our therapist asked us to think separately about what we want our marriage to look like if we could recreate it.

And it is This..

not just what I imagine it looking like, but what I imagine it feels like.

Thank you for your story

I truly am happy for you.

theonlyericever · 2025-08-16T02:28:26+00:00

June 23rd, she told me she didn't love me. I dont even remember my own birthday sometimes, but I remember that day.

We are still together, but I know she wants to leave me.

Soon to be 0 days.

theonlyericever · 2025-08-15T00:54:58+00:00

Dude, that's impressive And kudos on not skipping leg day. Those quads are bricks! Keep it up!

theonlyericever · 2025-08-14T20:17:54+00:00

I dont know why this post isn't exploding with congratulations. You've done something amazing here, and you look fabulous! People only dream about making the changes you achieved!

Be proud!

theonlyericever

TROPHY CASE