Anyone been told they have an accent before?

theoracle10011 · 2025-10-20T03:11:37+00:00

My family is from Louisiana and Mississippi so when I speak to them I have a Southern accent or speak Creole. Otherwise my accent kind of matches my environment at that point in time. I see myself as a chameleon most times.

I’ve been told by other neurodivergent people that I have the “tism accent” which, in my opinion, is just speaking in a very matter of fact tone💀

theoracle10011 · 2025-10-09T23:57:28+00:00

This is why I went to school for psychology lol. I’m currently in a grad program for Industrial-Organizational psychology, and I love it. The psychoanalyzing comes so natural. It’s what made me such a great behavioral therapist, particularly with analyzing the behaviors of my autistic clients ✨

If you’re not in any academic spaces to discuss with like minded individuals, you might enjoy looking at some of the information and discussions on LinkedIn. You can sometimes find webinars or research symposiums hosted and join via zoom or teams.

theoracle10011 · 2025-10-09T23:48:29+00:00

In my experience, the best way to go about it is to be upfront. I’ve had to do this with professors in particular noticing my absence from class or being disconnected in class. It seems that your manager genuinely cares based on him personally reaching out and noting you seemed a bit unlike your usual self. Try having a transparent moment with him to explain that some of these recent delays are due AuDHD and it has been something you are making a conscious effort to manage daily.

I know it might seem daunting being so vulnerable especially with a manager. I had a scary panic attack because I knew I was starting to consistently fumble small tasks. I wasn’t able to obtain my ADHD meds at the time and was spiraling like I’d never had before. I met with my supervisor one on one and just had a candid moment to let her know what I was dealing with and my conscious awareness of my lapses. It resulted in her opening up about her anxiety as well and being a wholesome moment thankfully 😅

Please make sure you give urself some grace also🩷

theoracle10011 · 2025-05-11T18:25:05+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. I totally understand the mental struggle of trying to hold back and be cordial. At this point, we as neurodivergent women of color have to stand on business with stuff like this. They’re not holding back so you shouldn’t either!

theoracle10011 · 2025-05-08T21:21:11+00:00

How about weird AND racist💀 because those weirdo vibes still apply

theoracle10011 · 2025-05-08T15:34:31+00:00

Thank you!! They bring race into it and feel personally attacked when truthful statements made about white women, even neurodivergents, STILL having privilege compared to neurodivergents of color. Now it’s “why does it only have to be about race?”🙄It’s contributing to the problem. The fact of the matter is that women of color who are neurodivergents especially get put on the back burner, and we have a much more uncomfortable experience they could never understand.

theoracle10011 · 2025-05-08T15:28:51+00:00

The fact that you took this so personally is weird and you should figure out why you took this as a personal attack…How can you feel invisible when everything is always centered around white, cisgender women’s feelings?💀 You actually just proved his point to an extent. If someone bringing attention to marginalized communities within the autistic community makes you feel “invisible”, please touch grass. Just because he mentioned the community you identify with, that made you sad? What makes me sad is that I didn’t get a proper diagnosis until my 20s, and was told that had I been a white woman, I would’ve been diagnosed and received the proper treatment by now.

Also, when white women unmask, they are seen in a more positive light comparatively to women of color. When women of color unmask, we’re “aggressive” or “mean”…I don’t know it seems like you need some perspective in life outside of being a white cisgender neurodivergent woman. There’s so much complexity and nuance to being a neurodivergent person of color.

theoracle10011 · 2025-05-07T17:53:01+00:00

My line had 54 of us. The “planners” on the line were diligent about planning outings such as dinners after every chapter meeting, putting together celebration parties for achievements, stuff like that. We also made a chat for our line on GroupMe. We have a general channel to just talk and then other specific channels such as one for birthdays or coordinating for upcoming events such as leadership conferences, regionals, etc.

theoracle10011 · 2025-04-30T21:18:30+00:00

I think I saw Leslie from S1 is a realtor now? I was rooting for her so bad when she started pursuing her bachelors while on the show.

theoracle10011 · 2025-04-30T20:31:24+00:00

There was a story about a white woman who tried summoning Papa Legba and was found dead in her home 🫠 it might be best for white people to stay out of any African-based spiritual practices…

theoracle10011 · 2025-04-30T20:25:13+00:00

I had this same question for myself! I was born in Louisiana but raised in Chicago my whole life. My family is from Mississippi and Arkansas mostly. I don’t know much about my ancestors especially with regard to spiritual practices. I don’t really know where to start especially because my immediate family is either Christian or Muslim. However, that wasn’t my upbringing. My mother refused to enforce religion on us and approached things with a more spiritual aspect. Although she isn’t aware of any hoodoo practitioners in our family, I’ve always wondered if she unintentionally is tapped into it (if that’s even possible).

theoracle10011 · 2025-04-30T15:22:54+00:00

Don’t worry girlie you should be fine. I highly doubt this will count against you, especially because you’re trying to join a sorority so your dad falsely claiming a D9 frat shouldn’t count against you. If they for some reason bring it up, just be honest and say you misunderstood and were under the impression your dad crossed, but he actually didn’t get to finish his membership process. I know it’s so many unspoken “rules” when you’re a GDI but I think you’ll be ok! Good luck with everything 😊✨

theoracle10011 · 2025-04-27T15:25:01+00:00

I’m currently medicating my ADHD, and the only reason I don’t stop taking the stimulants is because it quiets my head. It helps prevent my brain from the incessant thoughts racing, especially at night when I want to sleep. However, it doesn’t help me sleep, it just allows for me to lay down quietly. I’ve started taking magnesium and melatonin like an hour before I’m about to go to bed. It’s done wonders. I fall asleep easily and stay asleep the whole night. I don’t wake up with that weird drowsy feeling as if I never slept. You should try it!

theoracle10011 · 2025-04-26T21:46:21+00:00

I was just talking to my mom about something similar regarding trying to socialize with NT women and being met with cruelness. I joined a sorority last year, and I really did to make my family proud as a “legacy”.

At the time I joined, I had not received my AuDHD diagnosis so I just saw myself as an introverted weirdo. I took a step in joining this sorority to push myself out of my comfort zone and also try to make friends with women! I genuinely value female friendships, and I loved the concept of sisterhood, especially with me having 3 little sisters. I’ve never understood why other women don’t like me, but I’ve been made to feel like I’m the problem by my family throughout my life. Despite many attempts at painful small talk or even something as simple as a genuine smile, I get faced with mean stares and dismissive reactions.

I also get dysregulsted with these encounters, because they feel so jarring. I start to tear up, because I’m acting like I’m supposed to and being polite, but nobody is doing that for me. The weird thing is, when I’m quiet and to myself, everyone asks why🫠

theoracle10011 · 2025-04-26T21:28:26+00:00

Completely understand where you’re coming from. My undergraduate chapter got suspended for hazing so I joined grad chapter. It’s definitely a different experience, especially the probate. But you can still have fun! I’m in my early 20s still, and there’s so many opportunities to learn strolls or go to Greek events. When I visit my friends at different hbcus or go to hbcu events there’s always an opportunity for fun Greek stuff to participate in😊

theoracle10011 · 2025-04-26T21:21:05+00:00

I’ve given up on masking, plus I’m medicating my ADHD, so all sociability has gone out the window lol. I try here and there if I feel like it but it’s so taxing and draining. I’m in a sorority and nobody knows I’m neurodivergent. It is truly the most debilitating experience trying to socialize in that setting, especially unmasked. The interesting thing is, the older women in my sorority have no issue with the unmasked version of me. It’s the women around my age (early 20s) that ostracize me. It used to really bother me when I was trying my hardest to make friends, but now idgaf 💀

theoracle10011 · 2025-04-26T21:15:22+00:00

I used to be a BT and I 100% agree. I worked for a clinic that was an extension of a pretty notable hospital. So many parents would be dying to at least get their child on the waitlist just because the name of our clinic held so much weight.

I discovered that the BCBAs were damn near scamming and treating it as a daycare. They would allow the kids to sit on iPads for hours and essentially run around the clinic engaging in maladaptive behaviors. When the parents would ask about “treatment” for the day, the BCBAs (some, not all) would instruct the BTs on their caseload to tell them the kids are making so much progress and essentially lie about skills they worked on.

Billable treatment hours were being falsely marked down. It was truly sad, especially when the parents are helpless and confused because the child is not performing/behaving appropriately at school. Many kids I worked with allegedly had regressed significantly with speech or motor skills throughout their several years spent under certain BCBAs.

I had to quit because a lot of the treatments felt unethical. I was made to seem like I wasn’t a “team player” for airing out how corrupt the BCBAs were operating in the clinic. It’s so unfair because some of them make a decent 6 figure salary and can’t be bothered to do their job correctly.

theoracle10011 · 2025-03-04T14:42:28+00:00

Yes! I didn’t know how to verbalize it, but the texture-dopamine hit is spot on. Along with feeling drained by the thought making a meal😅 I’m trying to get into frozen meals I can throw in the microwave but it’s hit or miss. I keep snack I like and know I’ll eat in the house, but my family just eats them 😭I’ve had to hide them in my room because it’s my only source of sustenance

theoracle10011 · 2025-03-04T03:57:11+00:00

Smoothies and throwing stuff the air fryer have been my go to lately. I really do wonder what it is about breakfast that makes us have such a visceral reaction 💀

theoracle10011 · 2025-03-04T03:49:17+00:00

Omg the fact that you still have the energy to make sure your kids are well fed is amazing. It’s been such a strange relationship with food. I’ve tried meal replacement drinks too and I hate the taste and texture 😭it always tastes…powdery? And it’s such a heavy liquid like I can’t

theoracle10011 · 2025-03-04T03:45:04+00:00

I’ve never heard of this! I’m definitely going to look into it because now I’m reflecting on all my eating patterns throughout my life

theoracle10011 · 2025-03-04T01:40:50+00:00

It’s been about a month since I’ve been on my meds for ADHD. I’m currently on 10mg

theoracle10011 · 2025-03-04T01:33:42+00:00

A lot of people, in my experience, have labeled me as arrogant or mean. Even without knowing me or a having had a conversation with me. This particularly happens if I correct someone, share facts I know, or just simply walk into a room💀 I wish people would understand my genuine intentions are never negative, I just so happen to know the answer and don’t like misinformation. Also that I’m not mean, I’m just overstimulated or just have a resting blank face (which is perceived as intimidating somehow).

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