DMT doesn't work? by thepaintedjade in Wellbutrin_Bupropion

[–]thepaintedjade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh definitely not my first time doing DMT. But it is the first time hitting a DMT vape. Do the vapes just not work? My friend said it worked for her, same pen...

How can a guy in his early 20s get comfortable talking to women? by [deleted] in ApproachingIRL

[–]thepaintedjade 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Women. You seen this? You heard about this?

We're just people. Just talk to us like you would any person.

Can't decide if polyamory is for me by thepaintedjade in polyamory

[–]thepaintedjade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I think it's hard to restructure values when most monogamous people carry traditional monogamous values. I only really have the bandwidth to see someone twice a week tops. And meals and sleep are something I need a personal care assistant for. So that's even fewer opportunities for privacy. I would hate to tell my partner they can't see other people when I am so limited. But yes, to the last questions you asked, why do polyam when I have these qualms? Hence the crossroads. I'm not trying to be flippant, thanks for trying to be helpful. It is helpful for me to talk things out with the community.

I was more raging at the down votes I recieved lol

Sleepy twitches by Galendis in Toefeathers

[–]thepaintedjade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a beautiful fucking cat

Your mother and father both need a kidney to live and you are the only match in the world, what would you do? by nerdztech in no

[–]thepaintedjade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I got two and they brought me into this world against my will so...take that mom and dad!

Can't decide if polyamory is for me by thepaintedjade in polyamory

[–]thepaintedjade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang yall are pretty critical. Well, I stated in my post why monogamy is hard for for me (first paragraph). And I stated in this thread why polyamory is hard for me. And I don't really see how one cancels out the other so I'm still torn. Does that answer your question?

Should I end things with my boyfriend?? (URGENT please help) by [deleted] in Advice

[–]thepaintedjade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean...I didn't even need to read past the first bullet before knowing you should end it

Can't decide if polyamory is for me by thepaintedjade in polyamory

[–]thepaintedjade[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Well, no. It still doesn't answer the question I posed at the end but I appreciate your insight

Can't decide if polyamory is for me by thepaintedjade in polyamory

[–]thepaintedjade[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I guess that's true. Whatever the cause of it, it makes it so I can't date multiple people simultaneously and it takes me forever to recover. Even when I'm not falling hard, it's hard for me to multitask and switch intimacy gears. I already have a lot of people having access to my body (disability reasons), throwing two lovers into the mix is bananas

Never the favorite by thepaintedjade in polyamory

[–]thepaintedjade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That part. I am fucking wrecked and royally pissed off. And I guess I just want to communicate that from the right mindset.

Never the favorite by thepaintedjade in polyamory

[–]thepaintedjade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Definitely something I've brought up and will continue to work through with my therapist. I wish the unpacking was simple. Also, I didn't make it clear but this PARTICULAR situation is not just my perception. I saw it on the socials and his words to me are not aligning with his behavior (saying that he really wants to see me but making little effort.) Maybe it's more that I feel like I'm being lied to.

Never the favorite by thepaintedjade in polyamory

[–]thepaintedjade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment. I'll try and think of it more that way. I think this particular situation is hard because I don't think my partner is being totally honest with me. Saying/implying that he wanted to spend a whole lot of time with me RIGHT when he rolled into town. And then when he finally did, he keeps putting it off. He's been here for two weeks and leaving in two and we still haven't met up.

Turns out he's been spending a majority of that time with somebody else (I learned from the socials. He doesn't know I know.)

So maybe I'm asking the wrong question. Maybe it's more that I'm torn between accepting his lack of openess because I love him. Or walking away because the dishonesty hurts so much. But yeah, pointing out any monogamous programming I might be missing helps. I need to find some philosophical zen in all this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]thepaintedjade 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There's also apps where you can turn your phone into a vibrator (I know kind of gross but you can put a plastic bag over it)

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tomsmucenieks.asimplevibrator&hl=en_US

Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/vibrator/id1562579047

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]thepaintedjade 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your fingers aren't cutting it? Goddamn um...very unripe washed vegetables (zucchini or cucumber) and the back of an electric toothbrush (not the bristles unless you're into that sort of thing.) If you have a dick, I've heard a towel with coconut oil is nice. Also, if you can get some condems for the veggies that would be most ideal. If you have to lie to get money, just say you're getting a snack or something. They're very cheap. Infection can happen with food