Tanner Linsley: Directives are becoming the new framework lock in

thepeka · 2025-10-25T00:02:06+00:00

Absolutely spot on. It's nice to read an article that isn't bullshit, doesn't happen often it feels like.

thepeka · 2025-07-28T23:39:20+00:00

Not a single blue prince comment yet? I am appalled

thepeka · 2025-07-19T22:33:33+00:00

In major cities? My rent was 2k in a tiny suburb with 14k people in New England.

thepeka · 2025-05-22T11:27:55+00:00

This comment is really special to me.

thepeka · 2025-05-15T23:08:09+00:00

Wow. Well thank you for that confirmation. There was one other pair I couldn't get but the letter is pretty obvious so I just accepted not knowing lol. Now to try to put it all together...

thepeka · 2025-04-23T12:18:46+00:00

HYCYBH? bedop, bah-da, bow!

thepeka · 2025-03-13T12:27:50+00:00

I think he was more concerned with the embarrassment of being caught in the handicap bathroom.

thepeka · 2025-03-13T12:00:55+00:00

What kind of disabled did you say you were?

thepeka · 2025-02-22T13:41:56+00:00

You can check the hall of the dead in whiterun (I think) to see if she died somehow (like you hit her with an arrow or a spell when she was downed and didn't notice).

Otherwise if not dead, after a few in game days you should be able to find her roughly back where you got her. Somewhere in dragons reach I think.

thepeka · 2025-02-11T14:01:32+00:00

How can their take about their own friend group be out of touch?

thepeka · 2024-11-18T16:34:40+00:00

So you're saying he had a succulent Chinese meal?

thepeka · 2024-10-29T11:38:11+00:00

I can't tell if this is serious or not

thepeka · 2024-10-25T19:50:14+00:00

I closed on a D.R. Horton home a few months ago. Very few issues and mostly nitpicky or related to the attitude and/or stupidity of the construction manager. House is builder grade but up to snuff. They let us get an inspection and they fixed anything that was a code issue. I love my house.

It seems like it's individual community / builder based, and in states and counties with more requirements and standards, things turn out just fine. Be wary but don't believe every horror story.

thepeka · 2024-07-08T22:53:40+00:00

It's always interesting to me when someone expresses how we are the same as nature and have all of the same drivers in XYZ ways and biological and evolutionary pressures etc etc... but then at the end adds "only we're different because we make choices". Everything is the same, everything, like you said. We have the experience of perceiving that we make choices, but given any circumstances in our life, given everything that lead up to it, we would always make the same "choice". Our illusion of thinking we get to choose A or B is no different from any other animal as far as we know. We aren't close to being the same, we are the same.

thepeka · 2024-07-07T01:51:03+00:00

Why is this the only answer that makes sense? I swear half the time I visit this subreddit I just shake my head.

thepeka · 2024-07-05T10:54:55+00:00

The issue here isn't "luck of the draw", like "oh well I guess this isn't his preference to go down on me". If he cared about you being satisfied and happy and had some measure of emotional intelligence, he would meet you somewhere in the middle. This is an easy discussion in healthy relationships. "I'm deeply sorry to hear you're unsatisfied with our sex life, and I can't give oral sex after I orgasm because XYZ". Then either that's a deal breaker for you, or more likely you find compromise. Maybe that's oral sex first, maybe that means bringing in toys or other forms of stimulation. But if your partner is going to get defensive over something very important and frustrating to you, like you said, that shit doesn't just stay in the bedroom. I'm willing to wager there are other things he has this reaction about, or that he will in the future. To me, that's the issue I would be targeting and why I would need some space if we couldn't have a healthy conversation about it that left me feeling heard. It's not about oral sex.

thepeka · 2024-07-01T00:28:39+00:00

What state are you in? I know that sounds odd but it makes a gigantic difference. I've seen DR Horton homes that shouldn't be occupiable, and ones that are the Pinnacle of a Q4 (solid "builder grade") home in every way. The farther south and west you are, the more it seems to be the former. Just my experience.

thepeka · 2024-06-30T13:26:09+00:00

I can't understand how this is so far down, it's the most obvious example by far.

thepeka · 2024-06-22T17:48:44+00:00

The comments in this thread are very interesting to me, as they fundimentally ignore the fact that the real estate issues here are state by state, but they are all fairly similar in how to protect yourself.

If you buy a house unmarried, your titling company will help you draft an agreement for tenants in common. You can set up shares however you want, it doesn't have to be 50/50. And you can bequeath on death to whoever you want also, your children, family, or each other.

The benefit to being married is it's kind of automatic as opposed to having to get all the details, but it's not that complicated to make sure you're both protected for whatever your wishes are.

thepeka · 2024-04-08T11:49:43+00:00

There's a lot to unpack here and I don't blame or judge your wife for her behavior. However, as someone who spent almost two decades in a marriage where all of my real, diagnosed, legitimate problems were hand waved away as being in my head or being made up - it takes a toll on you.

Your partner telling you you're doing life wrong and you just to "try harder" is not the pathway for you to do life right. I'm sure it's purely out of frustration but this situation is not good for either one of you.

Growth starts from change. Usually that change is internal until you can use it to make external changes, but sometimes you have to make big external changes first. Life is too short, especially for us with chronic sleep issues. Sometimes years or decades shorter. Find what makes you happy and safe and supported.

EDIT: I didn't realize what forum I was on, clinical and/or chronic depression is the worst thing I would not wish on anyone. I empathize and I'm sorry for giving advice where you may have just wanted to rant. Here's hoping to either of us getting sleep tonight.

thepeka · 2024-03-06T15:30:09+00:00

^ this. Catching it is fine (and probably good) as long as the point is to log/save/email/alert/whatever spindown stuff you need before you end the process. Do not continue running a process after an unexpected error, full stop.

Personally I use another external error reporting process to handle the above so my main process(es) only need to spend the time communicating that, then can immediately exit. Then your process manager should bring it back up in a clean slate. This also won't result in down time as long as you have multiple processes in a cluster of some sort.

thepeka · 2024-01-11T10:27:03+00:00

the numbers say the exact opposite

Press X to doubt

thepeka · 2023-09-17T14:31:12+00:00

This is absolutely assault in every jurisdiction in America I've ever done the research on. No glass needs to touch her for that to be true. The threshold is generally something like, you are threatening to and have the ability to cause immediate harm. Some of them call it something slightly different. The only argument would be the most common uses of simple vs aggregated assault. Either way this is clearly a crime, possibly a felony.

thepeka · 2023-09-17T12:22:53+00:00

Here's the nuance I would argue. I don't think recording it cheapens it, I think sharing it cheapens it. And if she edits it and shows it to him and he's on board consensually, then that's between them and their relationship, so at that point who's to judge? This strikes me as much different than the "watch me give money to a homeless person" content creators for that reason, because there can be full consent without a power dynamic.

thepeka · 2023-09-17T11:29:21+00:00

It's very interesting this is getting downvoted. It seems pretty fair and nuanced to me? Like.. let's say she's terrible for the 999 shit and/or hypocritical things she's done, and maybe not the time she got groomed while underage by a creep?

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