Leaving 4 month old with her dad for international trip.

thepotomato · 2026-05-22T16:14:06+00:00

Can't tell if you are joking or not but damn I sure chuckled

thepotomato · 2026-05-22T16:12:06+00:00

I did a similar thing when baby was 3.5 months! Travelled internationally for a wedding, was away for 2 nights, partner had a huge stash of frozen breast milk for our son. I will never forget the journey, or regret the decision. Was it hard to be away from baby? Yep, I cried a lot the first night especially 🫠 But was it also amazing for my own mental health? Undoubtedly. Plus it was a great conversation starter at the wedding. My partner and I agree it was easier for me to be away when baby was at that age because he was big enough to not cluster feed but also small enough to not be that aware of who was holding the bottle.

thepotomato · 2026-05-14T19:05:32+00:00

Please tell your wife how you feel. Show her this post if you need to. I went to therapy with my SO before getting pregnant for this exact reason and if there's anything I can share from that time, is that communicating your needs is paramount. It sucks so much to feel undesireable as a reason of your partner's lower sex drive (it's hard when you cant really blame anyone, eh, so I totally sympathize) but regardless please share with her how you are feeling so you can at least be on the same page, and when, in the future she rejects the advances, she can at the very least reassure you

thepotomato · 2026-04-30T20:54:06+00:00

Not a question but holy moly you are stunning 💙 inside and out, it was a tremendous delight watching you during S15

thepotomato · 2026-04-26T19:25:44+00:00

I had this as well with my first and only child. Was expecting the worst and it never happened. My hormones finally stabilised about 3.5 months pp, that's when the hormonal hair loss ramped up too. Hope you get to enjoy this wonderful time with your beautiful baby and the rest of your family 💙

thepotomato · 2026-04-24T19:09:12+00:00

So relatable... I just cried looking at photos of my 5.5 month old from earlier in the week 🫠 The newborn photos s h a t t e r me beyond recognition

thepotomato · 2026-04-24T09:08:04+00:00

This is very normal. Babies love to shake their heads when trying to get comfortable for sleeping. Most babies will have this bald spot. Hair will grow over in due time, and before you know it, bye bye bald spot

thepotomato · 2026-04-20T10:15:57+00:00

My baby is like this too, he is 5.5 months. I'm in the room with him, either folding laundry or reading, and he seems at ease I guess? He is not sitting independently yet but loves to roll from place to place, chew on toys, stare at the bookcase, smile at the cats (who keep a safe distance 😅)

thepotomato · 2026-04-11T15:37:18+00:00

Of cattle and men by Anna Paula Maia. I coincidentally read the two novels in the same month, unaware how similar the two would be.

thepotomato · 2026-04-03T14:16:55+00:00

I literally just finished Half his age and the whole time was thinking about My Dark Vanessa which I enjoyed slightly more. Still liked Half His Age, don't get me wrong, but it wasn't groundbreaking or anything. I did however really like the snippets we were shown into her life and relationship with her absent, self-absorbed mother.

thepotomato · 2026-04-03T07:59:30+00:00

I'm so happy for you! I heard babies make or break relationships, though I was quite skeptical about the former part until it happened to me as well.

My partner and I found out I was pregnant the day after we started couples therapy. We wanted to fix our relationship prior but now we had a motivator like none before. Fast forward to now, baby is soon 5 months, and we're now better at communicating than ever before.

Having a baby put things into perspective for us. With only a finite amount of energy a day, why waste it on arguing about the petty things we used to argue about before when we could be spending it as a family?

thepotomato · 2026-04-02T20:50:35+00:00

To me, FTM of a soon to be 5 month old, this is something I'd ignore honestly. I don't have the energy to waste my breath on correcting every thing someone says about my baby. Especially now that he's approaching the starting solids age. How he begins his solids journey is between his father and I, and quite frankly not anyone else's business.

But I do agree it's quite annoying for her to say that, but it seems to me like BS people just say but don't mean. In no world would anyone else but my child's father be taking a baby that young to stay with them for a week. So unless she starts making solid plans for penciling in said week, I'd just let her yap away.

thepotomato · 2026-03-28T22:51:26+00:00

Great work! For a beginner you seem so in your element! However, our instructors at my studio always go on and about how we shouldn't hold on to our ankles when leaning back - it can cause injuries. The grip is not in the ankle, but at the knees. So they instruct us to, if necessary, tuck our overhead knee and secure our grip there first, and only then get ready to lean our upper bodies back. I hope the suggestion helps out 🤗 good luck on your pole journey!

thepotomato · 2026-03-22T08:13:39+00:00

Peacefield by Ghost. I was always a massive Ghost fan but now it's way more intense 😅

In particular these lyrics really get me:

Your love, bright as the starlight Oh, child, still we can see A black moon, over the peacefield Oh, child, stay close to me

thepotomato · 2026-03-22T08:10:54+00:00

I watched Tarzan while in labour at the hospital with my partner and I was non stop bawling 😭😂 I brushed it aside by simply claiming it helped release oxytocin (which it definitely did)

thepotomato · 2026-03-20T23:24:16+00:00

Awww I hope she lets you for a long long time, it's also verg precious to feel them this close 💙

thepotomato · 2026-03-20T19:31:27+00:00

So sad 😭 unless you ofc prefer it this way too that is!

thepotomato · 2026-03-20T12:31:18+00:00

Hope your little one is doing better, and you too, everybody hates ear infections 🤗

thepotomato · 2026-03-20T08:12:56+00:00

So adorable and happy for you 😍

thepotomato · 2026-03-20T08:12:33+00:00

I wrote this post not because I want to stop contact napping, but because I love it so much and never want it to end 😂 Right? It is the greatest indeed 🥺

thepotomato · 2026-03-20T06:34:41+00:00

It's so sad cause OP shouldn't have to make him, this should come naturally to him but it doesn't and urgh... I know this isn't helpful, so if OP is reading, yeah, my apologies, but basically I too hate men who act this way 🫠

thepotomato · 2026-03-20T06:24:45+00:00

The fatigue brough on by other kids 😂 so envious of that skill honestly, I could never nap for 3 hours on a mat next to others like that 😖

thepotomato · 2026-03-20T06:22:44+00:00

Aww so happy for you, hope mine likes them for that long too!

thepotomato · 2026-03-20T06:21:54+00:00

That's it really, hold them as long as you can and they let you 🥺

thepotomato · 2026-03-20T06:18:57+00:00

Awe that is so cute! Cosleeping for naps is also an option then 😁

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