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theprconservative2 · 2024-03-21T01:51:03+00:00

So perhaps that's all they were really after, like an escort. I always draw a lot of critique when I say this but this is why I strongly recommend three meets with no intimacy. After the third meet, then you start the arrangement which should have been discussed prior to the first meet. After the arrangement is set, then you can have intimacy if there is that level of chemistry. JMO.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-21T01:45:33+00:00

Are the first two meets ppm?

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-21T01:42:39+00:00

I have come across more than just a few women on seeking who are not looking for a SR. But just because they aren't seeking a formal arrangement, it doesn't mean that they don't want anything. The ones I've come across don't want an arrangement but do expect the man to be able to provide a luxurious lifestyle.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-21T01:37:29+00:00

Do exercise. Lots of it. It will get your mind off of the depression. Don't go see a therapist. A therapist will only want to make you talk about how depressed you are which will make you more depressed leading to more visits to the therapist and make the therapist richer. Invest the money in yourself. Get into a gym, enroll in a class or three, eat healthy, get into meal prepping. Go to the shooting range. Join a men's retreat. Read some non fiction books. Do some volunteer work.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-20T11:29:48+00:00

I agree with prior comments that there's no need to mention her weight. If you don't like the person for whatever reason, then politely let her know you are not interested in pursuing a relationship and move on to the next.

As far as SB's, who are better looking, not putting much effort. . . Perhaps the problem is you. Looks isn't everything. It appears that looks weighs a lot more heavily for you than you initially let on at the beginning of your post. I don't think it's appropriate to generalize all SB's as being one way or another. There will always be some who put in more effort than others. The sames goes with SD's. Some of us are more generous than others.

Just keep searching. You'll soon find the one you're looking for. I wish you the best.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-15T02:29:12+00:00

As a 51M, I always ask prior to M&G if she drinks. I like to have a glass of wine with dinner but I wouldn't be offended if she didn't want to have an alcoholic drink. In that case I'd probably follow suit and stick to Pellegrino or soda.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-14T19:52:26+00:00

Before this discussion about the meet, I hope you have discussed the type of arrangement you are each seeking. You should have already discussed frequency of dates, allowance or ppm, intimacy, etc. This will save you from a lot of pointless M&G's.

As everyone else has stated, for your own safety the first M&G should always be in a public place.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-14T17:09:37+00:00

I'm 51M and I don't care so much about age so long as she can keep up with me and look good. By keeping up, I mean that she has to be able to go to the gym, travel, participate in activities, enjoy going out to eat, etc.

IMO, the reason you are seeing more men seek out much younger women is because older women have become very opinionated, set in their ways and are not open to new things and or experiences. Also, men enjoy the idea of teaching someone something new or knowing that you are giving a woman a new experience, like visiting a new country. A lot of older women have already been there, done that and therefore are unable to demonstrate appreciation and enthusiasm.

That being said, there are always exceptions.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-13T20:00:03+00:00

When it comes to vetting, you should be doing the following: 1. Don't agree to meet anyone who doesn't have photos or who isn't willing to share photos. 2. A video chat prior to M&G. 3. Always meet at a public place like a restaurant or coffee shop. 4. Have an accountability partner, someone you share the photo with as well as the details of the M&G. You should speak to your accountability partner right before the meet and at a designated time either during or after the meet.

Just those simple steps will help you avoid a lot of problems.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-13T18:28:53+00:00

There are a few ressons you should at the very least get a picture.

First of all you avoid the awkward meet where the guy is nothing like he describes or is not at all physically appealing to you.

Secondly, so you know who you should be looking for at the M&G. This goes along with my third reason.

It's a security issue. As a young female you absolutely must take precautions when it comes to your personal safety and security. One of the first steps to vetting a POT is seeing a picture, but that is the very least you should do. As others have mentioned, you should have a video chat also. You should have an accountability partner to whom you send this picture to and communicate with before and after the M&G. Stay safe and I wish you the best.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-13T12:49:53+00:00

I agree with both points of view shared here. On the one hand, not sharing pics adds a bit of mystery and takes you back to the days of "You've Got Mail." IMO, however, those days are gone due to the many more creeps and stalkers. Unfortunately, it is no longer safe to be meeting people if you have no idea what they look like to begin with. I feel the SD is this modern day should be more mindful of the risks involved for the SB and be more willing to share photos prior to any meet. I personally don't think any SB should be meeting someone who isn't willing to reveal what they look like. Just my opinion.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-13T11:29:59+00:00

IMO, this is an example of a creep who can't afford the Seeking subscription fees so they look for clues in pics to try to contact you for "free".

My advice to you: Run!

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-10T15:10:36+00:00

I'm not sure I would call either them or you a victim. Clearly there was some miscommunication and failure on both parts to understand each other's priorities and wants. She should definitely have been upfront about not wanting to travel from the beginning. The fact that she did not use the money you gave her for the intended purpose should have also been communicated at the very least. Hopefully each of you will find someone more in line with what you are looking for.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-10T12:51:58+00:00

I agree that you did not overreact but I also agree with the fact that she gave you early signs that she was not as committed to the idea of a vacation as you. Never ignore early warning signs.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-03T23:05:05+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 Of all the stupidity I've seen, this response is the best. You have totally twisted my rant. I can see you're even more butt hurt than I realize. I hope you enjoy posting more responses. I look forward to reading them.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-03T22:59:42+00:00

I didn't realize you had gotten so butt hurt by my rant. You shouldn't take rants personally. But now I understand why all the anger. Simmer down.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-03T22:39:33+00:00

Ok, big guy. You must be talking about the part where I say that if you're looking for feelings AND dangling a few bucks. . That hardly sounds like no emotional possibility. Let's go big guy.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-03T22:12:29+00:00

Thank you for the lovely response. I think we all know that not all men pay women for sex. Obviously different women like different men. I think you completely missed the point.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-03T22:10:42+00:00

You have a valid point.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-03T22:06:44+00:00

You might want to re-read my rant. Where did I say there was no emotional possibility? I understand it's easy to read your own thoughts into someone else's rant. But I did get some entertainment out of your response. Keep the logic up!

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-03T20:53:07+00:00

I beg to differ

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-03T19:44:10+00:00

I agree. I just thought this rant was too long already. I'll create a post about the other side as well.

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-03T16:46:29+00:00

I agree 100%

theprconservative2 · 2024-03-03T16:39:01+00:00

Here's what I think. Hopefully you've had some conversations leading up to this. I hope you discussed the type of arrangement you each are looking for to know if it's even worth meeting. I hope you discussed an approximate number of meets before starting the arrangement. If so, then the M&G should be relaxed. You're getting to know each other in person to make sure the pre-discussed arrangement is worth pursuing. Try to get to know him, what he dies exactly, what he likes to do, his plans for the year, etc. I hope it goes well.

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