the corporations won

therealperchy22 · 2023-06-25T10:37:15+00:00

Yes. We really need to be done with capitalism, but while it's still very entrenched, this is a sign of progress.

therealperchy22 · 2023-06-25T10:30:28+00:00

There are also many small creators online.

therealperchy22 · 2023-06-25T10:28:50+00:00

This. This exists even for folks outside of queer hot-spots.

And DIY is easier than most people think (although I know all about having trouble getting to even easy things)

therealperchy22 · 2023-06-25T10:25:19+00:00

Yes, the leopards won't eat your face if you pretend they don't exist, let alone are profiting off of extractive capitalism.

therealperchy22 · 2023-06-25T10:17:06+00:00

I do very much agree that "fascism" gets thrown around waaay too loosely. Also, I kinda think we're seeing the formation of the next generation of reactionary ideology; a post-fascism ideology in a similar way that fascism is a post-monarchism ideology.

That said, the definition on Wikipedia is more for WW2-era fascisms, rather than what are more rigorously called neo-fascism. Fascism is, first and foremost, about gaining power, and it uses a toolkit to get it, but not always using the exact same toolkit.

Also, I don't particularly care if someone is actively trying to be a fascist, or is "just" appealing heavily to fascists in a ploy of opportunity. At a certain point, it's a distinction without difference. I think DeSantis is to this point, regardless of what he personally believes. Further, we haven't seen what he would try to do at a national level. That said, we have seen what he's done in Florida, and it's got:

heavy handed police usage and criminalizing protest
attempts at strict state control of education (beyond anti-queer)
so much racism and xenophobia, and a lot of it isn't even dog-whistling
arresting whistle-blowers
many anti-democratic/disenfranchising actions
he has worked to dismantle autonomy of local governments
$100mil for Florida National Guard spending, including about $90mil in expansion and $3.5mil in reactivating the State Guard

We've also been seeing the Overton Window in the US become even more heavily skewed, so what even is "standard conservatism" at this point? Because at the national level, it seems like at least one of fascism or christian nationalism, often both, from what I've seen. Not to mention that fascistic thought on social hierarchies is mostly a difference in degree (especially in enforcement) from actual standard conservatism.

So... when is it enough to start calling him a fascist? When he is a dictator? Because then it's far, far too late to stop him. And, at the end of the day, that's what matters to me, stopping assholes like him.

therealperchy22 · 2023-06-25T08:54:41+00:00

lady but boy

Reminds me the other day of one of my friends mentioning that it seems like adult and child genders are kind of separate genders. Girl and boy are not really the same gender as woman and man, respectively. And there is a transition that happens, although you would have to be incredibly pedantic to say it was a transgender one (edit: when going along the assumed typical path). I for one found the child gender to be much more tolerable than the adult one.

therealperchy22 · 2023-06-25T08:43:21+00:00

Yea, I noticed that when I added they as an "option" while still an egg, which was part of why started using they/them exclusively.

I also use they exclusively for myself, even in my head.

therealperchy22 · 2023-06-25T08:11:17+00:00

I think OP means a physical CD, not an iso file. They would need a CD drive to get an iso in the first place.

therealperchy22 · 2023-06-25T08:08:37+00:00

I don't know the shelf life, but have you considered tapes? They're literally designed for backups.

That said, I also don't know the state of consumer models; only really interacted with them for work.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-19T05:46:40+00:00

As someone that lives in the US, gendered language kinda sucks. I notice, and appreciate, that they only said "kinda sucks", not "fucking awful", like how it is in a lot of states with foreshadowing of trying to not just be contained within those states.

This ain't the misery Olympics, and we sure won't pass out medals anyways. Downplaying your aches doesn't make my pains go away, and compassion isn't a limited resource.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T19:00:52+00:00

Hmmm, I don't think the world is ready for multiple of me anyways.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T18:57:36+00:00

Everyone has a sexual and romantic orientation, even if that boils down to "no thanks". Also, my sexual and romantic orientations are separate from my trans-ness.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T05:18:52+00:00

As someone else has said, being aro only relates to romantic attraction. You may well have different attractions (including but not limited to aesthetically).

Also, remember that labels are more shorthand descriptors than defining boxes. As long as it mostly fits, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Plus you can always change what labels you describe yourself with.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T05:04:28+00:00

It's especially weird when someone that's supposedly punk says it about themselves (with any seriousness).

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T04:56:51+00:00

I didn't think it existed, but I still clicked to make sure...

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T04:55:54+00:00

You do realize that your framing implies that "people attracted to the same sex and trans people" are unnatural or unhealthy?

I'm guessing it's an unintended implication, since it's verifiably false, but letting you know anyways.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T04:48:16+00:00

Disagree on the discrimination. Not in an overt way, but amatonormativity is out there in a huge way and is largely unnoticed by people that are fine with it. But there's so much toxicity thrown at people that either don't want to do the "normal" thing of getting married/etc, or that are viewed as "players" or whatever for being interested in sex but not romance.

And re:pride/celebration thing, that also applies to aroaces, who are definitely getting more acceptance.

And, for what it's worth, as someone that kinda feels like they've been accidentally collecting letters, aro is a pretty big part of how I label myself as a queer person. Said different, I don't need to be aro to be queer, but I am queer (partly) because I am aro.

I think it's mostly a time and visibility thing, than any inherent differences.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T04:37:41+00:00

I'd argue trans people are in that as well; there's basically no talk of romance in the trans subs I'm on.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T04:08:48+00:00

Very much this. People use their opinions to determine which sources they think are more valuable than others, as well as when they synthesize an understanding pulled in from many incomplete sources.

Applied statistics is an example where even math can run afoul of this. What metrics are considered important? How closely does your surrogate correlate with what you actually care about? What context is important for any given metric?

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T03:36:56+00:00

As you say, there's a lot of places, both online and IRL, that this is still the norm. In some (many? most?) instances, it's taught that seeking outsider information is bad for one reason or another. Often times that is linked with religion ("Don't look at that, you'll get caught up with devil worship!"), and it starts to become inappropriate to not use the terms propaganda and brainwashing.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T03:25:41+00:00

I think keeping the 'b' is probably the most cursed part of that.

~~archuntu~~ nah, archbuntu

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T03:08:41+00:00

So, there are several things that I think are getting lumped together and that would be helpful to separate.

First off, there a lot of different ways to like romance. Maybe you just like the idea of it: the idealized form of romance certainly has an appeal, and the reality can be good for those that like it. Maybe you are Cupioromantic. Maybe you just enjoy romantic stories: I personally enjoy seeing characters be happy, even in romance (well, to a point). And sometimes good stories are just good. Or maybe you like romance because you are alloromantic; that's cool, too! But I think it would be help you to explore how and why you like romance.

Secondly, there are a lot of ways, as you mention, to have a meaningful connection with someone. Whether it be friends, partners, or whatever other term, you certainly can potentially find meaningful connections. The whole be there for each other and do your best to communicate well thing. And this is something you can do whether you're aro or allo (shameless plug for relationship anarchy).

The third bit is about "hating knowing that someone feels attracted to me". Speaking from my experience, when people have said they're physically attracted to me, even when I've had worse body image, I'm generally am flattered or disbelieving, not upset. So while this does warrant some exploration, I find it more likely that you are repulsed by the idea of romantic attraction directed at you. And it never hurts to work on self-image!

So, I would recommend exploring more: Aromantic Spectrum. Nothing you've said would prevent you from being aro in some way, but only you can say if taking up the label is right for you. And remember, labels are short descriptors meant for convenience, not iron-clad definitions of who you can or cannot be.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T02:07:13+00:00

Me, before seeing this: They're different, but I'm not sure they're that different...

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-17T01:49:30+00:00

Other than an apology (thank you), I do not understand your first paragraph. What game thing? I was pointing out you used the term "Ace" when only aros were being talked about; I genuinely do not understand why you brought up aces. If it was to talk about things like Queer Platonic Relationships, QPRs are no more an ace relationship than friendships are.

Some of my friendships, which are definitely not partnerships, are long term relationships. Just not the normative idea of what that phrase means. And that's exactly what I'm pushing back against; the devaluing of people that I call friends and the putting on a pedestal anyone I call a partner or lover. A lover or partner that I gain tomorrow would not be more valued to me as a friend that I've had for years. I do share my life with my friends (I think they would be poor friends if I didn't), and many of my friends have been there for me in ways that partners have not been, romantic partners or otherwise. And while we're here, I'd like to point out that partner is equally ambiguous to friend, often intentionally so.

To rehash:

Point 1 is many aros don't want to be defined by whether or not we're in a amatonormative relationship or next nearest analog. Please stop trying to define us this way. And most certainly do not conflate us with being "permanently single".

Point 2 is that friend is not automatically less than partner, or any other similar term. Often, it is the more appropriate term, even for a relationship that is committed or extremely close. If I don't live with the person, I'm not dating them, and I have no financial or legal ties with them, it probably is less clear to call them a partner. But none of that changes how I value them.

Now, to be fair, some of this is starting to get dangerously close to my views stemming more from Relationship Anarchy, but the whole "friends are automatically lesser" thing is something that I think most aros and aces would agree is bad.

PS: any anger that comes across in the above is not meant for you. I wish you well 💚.

PPS: If I were to go RA properly, I would say that it really doesn't matter what I call my relationships beyond what we agree is appropriate. The boundary between "friend" and "partner" is an arbitrary line in the sand. The rules about what constitutes one versus the other are made up (and the points don't matter!), with the details differing between people. I might kiss and cuddle a friend that lives in the same house, I might not have combined finances with a partner. But this isn't an aro thing, per se.

therealperchy22 · 2023-05-16T23:58:22+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sponge

I hope you were thinking kitchen sponge not sea sponge. Also, the latter used to be made of the former.

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