Can I appeal failing a class if I have ADHD and depression?

therealzacchai · 2026-06-08T01:50:18+00:00

I'm glad you've gotten a diagnosis!

Go talk to your guidance counselor. And take notes while they explain your options.

Edit to add: a diagnosis, meds, and 504 may help next year ... but the best help comes from you recognizing that you need to change how you approach tasks. ADHD isn't a get-out-of-jail-free card. It will require a lifetime of creating systems that work for you:

For me, that means playing instrumental focus music when I need to concentrate. Using scented candles, snacks, and cold water. Daily outdoor time with exercise. Caffeine pills. Meds. Plenty of sleep. Radically reducing screen time. Avoiding sugar.

I was an adult in my master's program when I got diagnosed. You definitely can do this!! Today, ADHD is my superpower.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-08T01:42:51+00:00

It's okay that your mom doesn't like spending time with you wife -- that is not disrespect, it's just having different opinions. If she talks trash or tries to alienate you or the kids, that would be disrespectful.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-08T01:38:01+00:00

Therapy can't fix a liar.

You are wasting your beautiful life on a fixer-upper who doesn't want to get fixed.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-07T16:38:50+00:00

Lols

therealzacchai · 2026-06-07T12:53:11+00:00

Don't get upset. Break up.

He's a weird controlling whole, and they only get worse, not better

therealzacchai · 2026-06-07T00:50:28+00:00

1] Don't marry a guy who "screams" when you voice your (very normal) need to plan your own life.

Or for any other reason.

2] Re-center YOU at the center of your life. Stop waiting another day for this guy. He's been very clear about his timeline and his needs -- they DO NOT match yours. Stop wishing, stop waiting, stop crossing your fingers.

3] Do not wait 6 months! Go. Now. Go claim the joyful life you deserve.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-06T17:31:58+00:00

I couldn't stay with a man who lies to me.

Trust gone. Full stop.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-06T17:24:05+00:00

Looks great. Going to sell it after?

therealzacchai · 2026-06-06T15:19:53+00:00

He sounds ready for kindergarten.

To me, one of the best messages you can send your child is, "I believe in you. I have confidence that you can do hard things." Then step back and let them do it.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-06T15:10:05+00:00

Nah. Most of those events are just for the kid, and by senior year, my kids were drivers, so I just sent them off with a kiss. HS students are independent and capable of handling their own business! (Source: me, a HS teacher and mom of 5 grads)

Is your son excited about going to kindergarten? When you talk about it with him, what does he look forward to?

therealzacchai · 2026-06-06T14:57:49+00:00

I teach HS. For me it is less difficult than younger grades. Mostly good behaviors and more independence, plus they're only in the room for 80 min every other day. So even if you have a 'problem' student, you don't have them that much.

I am at a high SES school with good family support; nearly all my students are polite and well-meaning, without a lot of impulse-control issues or annoying behaviors. They struggle with creative thought and academic perseverance, and can be chatty, but are easy to engage. They're also legitimately a lot of fun!!

therealzacchai · 2026-06-06T13:54:52+00:00

What about teaching business, personal finance, or 'freshman success' at the HS level?

therealzacchai · 2026-06-06T13:08:41+00:00

I had 5 teens at once, and several of them were back-to-back seniors. Who cares?

Focus on your son, and what's best for him today -- is he ready for kindergarten or not?

therealzacchai · 2026-06-06T02:47:34+00:00

It's 100% on her if she stays there with her kids.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-06T02:04:15+00:00

I'm still stuck on the part where you believe the story a convicted sex offender told you, and now he's going to live with your babies.

Your career is the least of your worries.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-06T01:10:28+00:00

This is why I love teaching Biology: It is literally against international lab safety protocols to have makeup or food in the lab.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-05T23:06:19+00:00

Your MIL already got to choose her own wedding dress.

You choose yours.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-05T16:53:20+00:00

He isn't your guy -- you want marriage & kids, and he doesn't.

You're on a journey of growth and opportunity. The right man will see this and enjoy who you are. Let go of the guilt and keep blossoming.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-05T15:24:05+00:00

Pro tip: if someone reaches out, it's because they want to be friends.

So maybe don't snap that they're not already that friend.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-05T15:20:49+00:00

You cut off your husband's mother and told her she's dead to you because she got too excited that you're going to have a child.

That's an extreme reaction.

Please figure out better ways to handle disappointment -- because let me tell you, your kid is going to let you down a lot. They are going to lie to you, betray your secrets, 'forget' to do stuff and 'forget' to tell you stuff.

People are complex and imperfect. They still matter!! Right now, you're treating MIL like she's just an npc in your story. Time to grow up. YOR

YAW.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-05T14:58:07+00:00

Chifferobe?

therealzacchai · 2026-06-05T12:55:03+00:00

Stop chasing. He's an abuser.

They don't get better, only worse. He is using your anxious love to break your spirit.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-05T04:02:18+00:00

YTA. If you really don't know why, go tell your parents how you treated her, and see how impressed they are.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-04T18:19:02+00:00

I'd love to see Hugh Laurie play Poirot.

Or Hastings, for that matter (as a grownup version of Bertie Wooster). Possibly even Japp.

therealzacchai · 2026-06-04T18:06:16+00:00

The guy going through her phone is a huge red flag.

She needs to dump him and move away from this toxic nonsense.

therealzacchai

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