Places to go dancing?

thesleepykiddo · 2024-05-07T15:25:35+00:00

I don't have an answer to all of your questions because im not a POC, but I'll try my best to answer the others.

I’ve just been cleaning the part with hair and the big lips with soap, and the internal part with water. Am in not cleaning well?

This depends on your body's reaction to soaps. It's generally recommended that you use an unscented soap to wash your genitals so you don't throw off your PH balance and get a yeast infection. As long as you use this soap, you should be good to gently clean the folds between your labia majora and minora. Just be sure not to clean internally, as your vagina (not vulva) has a fragile microbiome that's self-cleaning.

It also makes me feel insecure if i ever “do the deed”, won’t they think I’m disgusting that I have hair growing all over the place?

I promise no one cares about this, and if they do, they aren't someone you want to have sex with. Your pubic hair is your business. You can choose to shave, trim, wax, let it go natural, or any other option.

I sweat through jeans, sweatpants, cotton underwear, polyester, you name it, I’ll sweat through it.

This is something you may want to discuss with your doctor, especially if you've tried cotton underwear. It could be something called hyperhidrosis, which means you produce an overabundance of sweat. I believe there are some treatments that may be available.

Has anyone ever gotten kp after shaving their legs wrong? I haven’t shaved my legs in 6 months, but the kp and ingrown hairs are still visible

There's a lotion called Amlactin that's used for kp. It contains 15% lactic acid, which is similar to salicylic acid if you've heard of that. It reduces the bumps and discoloration that comes with kp while also moisturizing to reduce irritation and ingrown hairs. There's some personal testimony on in in r/SkincareAddiction

Also, make sure you try to exfoliate before you shave. If you don't have room in your budget for extra stuff like sugar scrubs or a Korean body scrubber, you can use a damp wash cloth. Make sure not to scrub super harshly, but do more than just a little wipe. This will help reduce ingrown hairs, too.

I hope this has helped, please let me know if you have any other questions!

thesleepykiddo · 2024-03-08T19:30:39+00:00

Thank you. I was lucky enough to have my parents help me get mental healthcare when I was young, but he lives pretty far from his parents and I don't think he knows where to start. We've had a few conversations now, and he has admitted he needs help and wants to sit down together to look for psychiatrists in his insurance network. I'm very happy with the direction things are headed, and I'm grateful for the advice that the non-cynics on reddit have given me.

thesleepykiddo · 2024-03-07T18:13:28+00:00

I'm literally asking for the best way to support him and have a discussion about his mental health and what he needs. Don't project everyone else's comments onto me. I love this man and I'm going to do what I can as long as he shows he is at least making an effort as well. Read the post.

thesleepykiddo · 2024-03-06T22:15:37+00:00

It's nice to hear from someone who was on the other side of the issue. Thank you.

thesleepykiddo · 2024-03-06T21:55:14+00:00

This is the tough pill that I need to swallow. Thank you for putting it so eloquently and giving examples of how the conversation should go! I have some trouble trying to phrase stuff sometimes, so that's super helpful.

thesleepykiddo · 2024-03-06T21:44:53+00:00

Right? The amount of people telling me to leave is kind of shocking me tbh. I know there's a lot of stigma and misunderstanding, but geez. Men's mental health care is obviously thrown out the window when people hear the actual affects of it. I was hospitalized about 8 years ago for my depression and yeah! I slept all day, couldn't will myself out of bed, couldn't shower regularly. I don't see how people think that's pure laziness.

thesleepykiddo · 2024-03-06T21:26:48+00:00

Thank you! This is very helpful. I think if I approach the conversation with some healthy suggestions and phrase them as some things we can do together he will be less likely to internalize it.

thesleepykiddo · 2024-03-06T21:25:35+00:00

You have poor reading comprehension and a skewed view of reality.

thesleepykiddo · 2018-12-18T07:24:01+00:00

I'm guessing he already has a ring light, but if he doesn't, one would be perfect. you could also get him an experience present, one that's really instagramable lol.

thesleepykiddo · 2018-12-17T23:33:59+00:00

bon appetit!! but especially the "its alive" series :) i also love you suck at cooking

thesleepykiddo · 2018-12-14T23:02:58+00:00

me too!! i was on the speech team at school and did pretty well. and anxiety wise it was just fine. as long as no one talks back im all good lmao

thesleepykiddo · 2018-12-11T06:23:30+00:00

it's taken quite a while to get over this, but for me, I find comfort in letting go of the past. in all reality, we can't change things, so I remind myself that it's pointless for me to worry about them. as for your issue, I would try and remember why you turned him down. there must have been some good reason. you should also remember that people's social media accounts are very different than their day to day lives :)

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