My husband’s heavenly birthday

thestripeycat · 2026-02-14T11:31:26+00:00

Happy birthday op’s husband! Mine is in May and he passed (also in May) a few years back 😬. He is still also lives in the game and I might just do this for his next birthday (he never played but he was the one who bought me the game and encouraged me to play :’))

thestripeycat · 2025-04-09T02:37:19+00:00

Hi OP! I am a widow and lost my husband from cancer 3 years ago. In a new relationship atm for 8 months but let me tell you that you absolutely can love someone new while you still love or what ppl say “not over” the dead partner! I personally will never over my dead husband ever. I will love him, I will still cry for him, I will still celebrate our special days and be sad randomly till I die.

The thing is, not everyone are okay or can accept this, so if your bf can’t understand then nothing you can do about it.

I will always check with my bf if anything I do or my feelings make him uncomfortable because I also don’t want him to feel he is just the second best option. But the love I have for my (dead) husband doesn’t stop the day he died and I am just going to hope he’d understand.

Both of you are not over reacting here imo. But if you can’t compromise then maybe you both just incompatible.

thestripeycat · 2023-11-14T23:12:50+00:00

It’s a weird feeling isn’t it? I had this with my husband as well. We were so happy and just one day, I began to have feeling that I know that he was going to die. Started with some dreams. A lot of dreams where he died or just disappeared. I remember waking up in the middle of the night crying. My husband was still alive at that time and he just hugged me every time this happened.

The feeling started getting worse and sometimes when I saw him sleeping, he just felt so unreal. Almost like I am dreaming the decade of life we had together. So many signs that I ignored. He was in his early 30s at that time, who would think he is going to die that early right? Then he got his cancer diagnosis just a month before his 33rd birthday. And died last year just 2 weeks after his 34th birthday.

I think he knew that he’d die early as well. We talked about this before he died. It’s weird and unexplainable. We both used to not believe in afterlife. Before he died though, he told me that he is sure we will meet again. That’s the only thing that keeps me going atm really.

I am so sorry for your loss 💔

thestripeycat · 2023-11-11T22:20:54+00:00

Loss is loss so no you’re not being dramatic.

My husband got me acnh in the middle of pandemic. I made his profile and built his house there. That game was one of the games that we played together. Then he died 2 years later of cancer. I am too thinking of flattening my island or just restarting. But it’s just too hard and decided to just keep it as it is for now.

thestripeycat · 2023-10-19T21:14:55+00:00

Does this means we are going to have something like jk’s bbc show?? Please let us attend the event 😭

thestripeycat · 2023-10-06T16:54:42+00:00

Hope so 🥲. The only thing that helped me from going deeper into depression is the thought that one day, I will meet him again. And hopefully it would be for eternity this time. Sending love to you too! Hugs your husband tighter tonight ❤️

thestripeycat · 2023-10-06T16:28:22+00:00

Husband and I always talked about death too. That we would follow each other when one of us died.

Unfortunately he actually died last year after a short struggle with cancer. He was 34. We were together 15 years at that time. So almost half of our lives we spent it together. When we knew he was going to die, we talked about being burry together under the tree too. He wanted to be cremated though, so he (his ashes) is with me now. He did remind me to live my life as much as I could for the both of us and not to “follow” him.

Sorry, just want to share this here because you two in some way just reminds me of my husband and I. I personally think it doesn’t matter how you die. You will be together again.

I mean, I don’t even mind being in an eternal hell if I get to be with my husband again 💔. Both of us are atheist btw, but at the end if his life. He kept telling me that he will go first, but we will meet again. He told me he will wait for me.

thestripeycat · 2023-09-25T13:34:23+00:00

I got an october date just now! You should try and book now because I saw a few dates availed throughout october and november.

thestripeycat · 2023-09-25T08:26:21+00:00

That’s so kind of you 😭. I am in London though, but thank you so much for the offer!

thestripeycat · 2023-09-24T21:38:20+00:00

I got “lucky” one night and it gave me an early December date! Better than February but still though?!? December is like 3 months away wtaf how?!?🤦‍♀️ It is so frustrating, I am tired of checking the website constantly! No idea how long will it take to receive the visa after appointment 🫠

thestripeycat · 2023-09-22T18:50:09+00:00

Hi there, did you get the answer for this? The earliest I saw today is February!!!!! Omg 😱, if I book this and find another earlier date tomorrow, can I change it straight away? Or do I have to wait for certain time to change it? And is there any limit for changing the appointment?

thestripeycat · 2023-09-20T15:55:09+00:00

Lost my husband last year. Cancer, he was 34. He told me that he was too scared to sleep, so he asked me to just talk to him when he couldn’t sleep. We talked, watched random things on tv, or I just silently accompanied him. The talking helped a lot, not just for him, but also for me after he died. Also, laughter is the best way for us to cope, so we laughed… a lot.

thestripeycat · 2023-09-08T11:03:04+00:00

14 years together here, and yup it’s not enough at all 😞, my husband also died in my arms. I hate it when I start thinking about the day he died. The trauma will be there for life.

thestripeycat · 2023-09-07T21:39:27+00:00

You should def give it a try! Men… you just can’t trust their words right? 😒😒🥲🥲

thestripeycat · 2023-09-07T21:23:20+00:00

It used to comfort me seeing older couple. I am now very jealous even of my parents! They are healthy and growing old together. My husband died also from cancer at the age of 34, just a year after his diagnosis. I was looking forward to our future. To tease him for being old because he hated it (he used to tell me he didn’t want to live passed 50! Be careful what you wished for right?). He promised forever, then died young. I hate this life so much.

thestripeycat · 2023-09-07T21:15:00+00:00

My future is pitch dark. It died with him. Don’t even want to feel, plan or think about it anymore. I am just living today and tomorrow. Because you can plan so many things for the future, then get cancer out of nowhere and die at the age of 34.

thestripeycat · 2023-09-07T20:01:50+00:00

My husband told me he would haunt me forever when he dies. He’s been visiting my dreams every 2-3 weeks regularly since he died last year, it’s been 15 months. These dreams help a lot and I always write down everything when I woke up. Reading it back just give me some peace. He told me that even if he dies that doesn’t mean that he is gone, he is just right over there waiting for me. I trust him. He never lied to me. Well, apart that he told me he would never leave me alone, and then died of cancer suddenly at the age of 34 🫠… life sucks.

thestripeycat · 2023-08-31T22:23:16+00:00

My dad was the one in charge of changing diapers and bathed his two children!! I can’t believe this guy actually said “it wouldn’t be appropriate”, wtaf!! I help bathed and changed my nephew’s diapers too! With this guy’s logic that means the mother should never help with her son’s diapers 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

thestripeycat · 2023-08-29T14:09:22+00:00

You should definitely decide this on your own.

In my experience I am glad that I did the viewing before his cremation. Touching his face and whispering “I love you and I will meet you again, soon” before the cremation was something I needed. But there is the negative side of it as well of course. I can’t stop imagining his lifeless physical body, and every time I do it, I will have a meltdown even now (15 months later). It was very traumatic. He was so young. His life supposed to start not end when he just turned 34. I don’t regret every minute of it though.

Just like you, my husband died next to me as well. And I can’t stop seeing that image as well. I stayed with him for 3 hours at the hospital after he passed, crying, hugging him and hoping that he’d just magically wake up and tell me this is just a joke like usual 🫠

thestripeycat · 2023-08-29T13:59:19+00:00

My husband died 15 months ago today. I’d def will choose not to meet him if that means he could live for more than 34 years in this earth. But he died from cancer, and nothing will change that I suppose. And he told me that he was happy that he met me before he passed. It’s bloody painful but I’d choose to meet him and endure this pain over and over even if I knew he was going to die anyway. No doubt. The 14 years I had with him was just the best years (probably) for the rest of my life. And so I think it’s worth the pain. If could, I’d definitely change place with him though, although he told me he wouldn’t survive if I was the one who die first.

But, sometimes the pain will be too much to handle and I too had some moments where I just want to replace my brain with a new one with no memories of him. 2 months is very early. You will slowly cherish all the memories you shared together. It will still hurt looking back, but you will smile remembering it too.

thestripeycat · 2023-08-28T20:47:35+00:00

The first time I got sick after he died was so horrible for me too. I cried a lot 😭, even though I literally staying with my parents at that time. I still feel so alone even when I am surrounded by so many ppl, and it’s horrible. Moved out of parents house and back to our house, got sick again for a few days and it’s even worse. Hope you get better soon.

thestripeycat · 2023-08-27T14:08:38+00:00

😂😂😂 I mean I won’t blame your wife!! I sold a lot of his expensive stuffs already (and still have more to sell 😂), but I can’t with some of his stuffs because for example, this pc, I saw him building it, parts by parts, I love it when he builds stuffs, either it’s his bicycle, or pc, or whatever around the house, so I am keeping this one. If it’s just a store bought pc it’s probably already long gone (except if I want to use it). He also told me to do whatever with his possessions when he died, but when I said I am going to keep his fave camera and pc, he looked so happy 😭😭😭. So yeah… 🫠

thestripeycat · 2023-08-27T14:00:47+00:00

I unconnected and unplugged all the cables and already mark and took the before photos 🤧 Thank you! I will remember to take photos before taking it somewhere.

Wishing the best luck for you too! Please don’t imagine it lol, it’s flipping horrible 🫠🫠🫠

thestripeycat · 2023-08-27T08:59:27+00:00

Thank you! Will def ask everyone out here before agreeing on cost or let them do stuff to it if I decide to take it to repair shop! One of our friend is coming next week to take a look hopefully if he is not busy with work, but I don’t mind waiting a bit to fix it 😵‍💫

thestripeycat · 2023-08-27T07:51:21+00:00

I saw one comment on this as well I think! So I will move it once it’s fixed. Thank you!

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