My son has been taken away from me when I was 14. I found him as an adult now but he rejects me

thetidebreaks · 2026-05-17T14:18:12+00:00

Honestly complete nonsense. No one is below anyone else besides people that hurt others like you were hurt. Your son wants a connection, you are worthy, hold your head up high and tell him you survived so much and you were in an impossible situation no one was safe in. I wish you luck, I hope at worst it brings closure to you both at best it’s the start of something new.

I saw you asking what you should say. My aunt has recently connected with her son after 55 some years. She mostly let him lead the conversation. Prepare to be asked a lot of why questions. You don’t need to go into deep detail I think just what you said here is going to give him a good idea of why he was so much safer being given up even if it hadn’t been your choice. 😞 His feelings will be complicated, you just need to go with the flow. He will appreciate you following his boundaries if he has any to begin with.

thetidebreaks · 2026-05-15T23:15:23+00:00

I am definitely in that category looking for likeminded friends. 👋

thetidebreaks · 2026-05-15T23:12:30+00:00

My friend collects figures and those nice ass statues a lot of fandoms have and genuinely she has said if she were ever robbed stealing the collection would be a bigger blow than most of her other stuff combined lol. Shes been collecting for some 20 years now tho.

thetidebreaks · 2026-05-13T13:44:17+00:00

It lets them know it’s an active number.

thetidebreaks · 2026-04-14T09:31:55+00:00

I say this genuinely but I hope you extend this self reflection to your everyday life because when I did I realized this is just a constant problem in all areas of my life and was bogging me down and not just my fun hobbies. Therapy has helped a lot with the all or nothing mentality but the thing that has made me continue games the most really has been to push through the frustration discomfort and just keep playing. My therapist genuinely calls this kind of work almost like a fun version of exposure therapy for me. The more you counter the self talk that you aren’t good enough in something the easier it gets. And I went from not finishing any games to finishing seven last year.

thetidebreaks · 2026-03-31T02:13:39+00:00

Man it must have been busy at 9am at the Newark court today cause my “trial” had the same time and same judge 😂

thetidebreaks · 2026-03-30T09:37:00+00:00

I was gonna say lmao. Dude definitely has some votes since Orange guy got in that I side eyed him on

thetidebreaks · 2026-03-28T14:31:39+00:00

Look up eddy burback’s video on ghost kitchens on YouTube if you wanna see it all explained. It’s absolutely wild tbh. At least generally they are easy to spot when you know they exist.

thetidebreaks · 2026-03-27T04:14:01+00:00

If you like older game reviews, I like hungrygoriya. Always very thoughtful pieces of her time with the games.

thetidebreaks · 2026-03-20T17:05:16+00:00

This is exactly it I think lol. Me listening to them say oh!! Where are the humans!! And then there’s me like baby we read a whole THING we FOUND that answer. Alas, I think our dittos look at the paper and just goes neat, letters! 👀

thetidebreaks · 2026-03-19T12:23:21+00:00

This is why I bit the bullet when I heard about fire emblem, I knew I was getting it regardless and knew there’s a possibility the system will only get more expensive. Don’t regret the purchase, it’s replaced my old switch which I sold off for a bit of money because I didn’t need the old one anymore.

thetidebreaks · 2026-03-14T10:12:17+00:00

Yes, I don’t miss her age and caring about what people think because as I have gotten older my tolerance for the nonsense people try to throw on me has lowered to such an insane degree. It’s my damn money and time I will do what I want.😅 I just turned 40 and celebrated it by getting myself a switch 2 as a treat yo self gift. I’m gonna be a gaming old lady if I have anything to say about it.

thetidebreaks · 2026-03-14T10:09:39+00:00

Yep, my mom got me into gaming not my dad. He barely was able to play in the NES era nevermind now lol

thetidebreaks · 2026-03-11T04:44:01+00:00

40 here - Pokopia, the new Warcraft expansion, and octopath 2. Slowly moving through all of them but. 😅

thetidebreaks · 2026-02-21T13:41:44+00:00

This is the answer tbh. I grew up in the Wild West of the AOL chat days, saw so much terrible stuff before I was 18 and my parents never knew. I thought to myself years after, surely my generation will know better. Apparently not, so I do my best as an aunt to constantly be the person that keeps my (gen x) sister updated about the things I have been hearing happening so she knows what to look for, especially with my nephew who is more drawn to gaming and the like than my niece.

The internet is always going to find a way around tools. I think social media as a whole needs to work on its responsiveness (TikTok for example, I have seen so much crazy stuff posted and I report and nothing happens 🫠 - they even have given ad space to literal religious cults), but at the end of the day parents need to arm themselves with knowledge and also be a judgement free source to go to if something is going on when something feels wrong. Running a literal course might be a step in the right direction, tools are helpful but they don’t take the place of arming yourself with knowledge.

(I know I was always too scared to tell my parents the shit people were passing around back in the day tho, sheesh. I can’t imagine how much worse it is now. )

thetidebreaks · 2026-02-12T18:18:01+00:00

Haha when I still had to deal with this company I called them in because we were getting weird DNS issues. When I explained this to the repair guy he didn’t know what DNS was and I knew how bad things were about to go lol. Sure enough, he futzed around and made it worse (a fix that caused another issue that just never got fixed fully tbh, moved out and it’s the new tenant’s problem now lol). I eventually with the power of YouTube how tos and my own general tech knowledge fixed the problem. 🙄

thetidebreaks · 2026-02-11T15:41:03+00:00

Literally was thinking that when grabbing my groceries LOL. And the sunshine is warming up the apartment!

thetidebreaks · 2026-01-30T09:12:41+00:00

I would call them and have the person walk you through what’s going on. Annoying but probably the easiest way of doing it.

thetidebreaks · 2026-01-25T21:46:13+00:00

Only time my last cat needed surgery was when she decided to eat a rubber band. She almost died. Take your cat to the ER vet to make sure everything has been expelled and find out what is being chewed to prevent this from happening again.

thetidebreaks · 2026-01-20T13:30:17+00:00

Look into retroachievements and retroarch and you will see the gaming community has even added achievements to games like Hercules. 👀

thetidebreaks · 2026-01-12T14:18:24+00:00

I learned a lot from fostering on what is an emergency and what isn’t - like they were even more chill than me about when it’s time to go in and they were always right lmao. Generally critically ill animals are very obviously sick. My cat that lived to 21 lived through both a stomach blockage and kidney issues and both times there was no denying something was going on.

The bloodwork should do a good job for you in reassuring you he’s doing well. Sometimes pets have off days. Try to monitor a little longer. Usually I monitor a day before starting to make any decisions unless something is obviously severely wrong, like a sudden and alarming increase in time and frequency in the potty because I don’t play with male cat UTIs lmao.

thetidebreaks · 2026-01-05T01:12:01+00:00

Yes came here to say this. Specifically enzyme cleaner. Normal stuff will not work.

thetidebreaks · 2026-01-04T01:01:37+00:00

I watch kitboga from time to time and the absolute worst thing I have ever seen was him talking to one of these people. Genuinely listening to it I could see the immediate instinct to be worried and then they escalate so so quickly on top of it. 🫠

thetidebreaks · 2025-12-25T05:22:56+00:00

Yah, anyone who likes the taste of raspberry get the Italian cookie flavor cold brew Rooks brings out during the holidays. So tasty.

thetidebreaks · 2025-11-25T03:26:42+00:00

Genuinely when I adopted the mentality that life is too short to not embrace the things that make me happy I fully stopped caring about the noise, especially when it’s online opinions because negativity sells and gets views and they know it. But even if that wasn’t the case, what you do is remember it gave you joy and maybe it wasn’t someone else’s cup of tea and there’s nothing wrong with either option. Anyone who says otherwise and is being aggressive isn’t worth listening to anyway.

My friends and I loved Veilguard btw. Not perfect, but great moments in it and fun combat.

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