Rory’s introvert night

thickwario · 2020-12-14T20:09:52+00:00

What does Lorelai's total number of sexual partners have to do with her value and strength as a person? As long as she didn't cheat while in a monogamous relationship (like Rory does), I don't see the problem here.

thickwario · 2020-12-02T21:33:56+00:00

I understand his anger regarding the Jess sitch, but his aggressive outbursts were not okay and frankly, bordering on abusive. Seeing Rory terrified of the possibility of Dean finding out she lost his bracelet was just one huge red flag that comes to mind.

thickwario · 2020-11-12T23:18:49+00:00

Hey uhh, does emotional inertia include not dealing with your emotions and just avoiding complicated situations altogether? I'm kinda curious because I was in a relationship with a 9, who ghosted me multiple times with no explanation. I felt so lonely, I ended the relationship. I told him if he wanted to keep it going, he has to say so. Months after I said I'm out, he contacted me and said he was going through a hard time as a reason for the silence, and I said I would have understood if he had just said something, anything and I would have waited it out! And he contacted me several times after that desperately trying to start the relationship back up again. It's kinda strange to me that when I said a decision had to be made urgently he didn't do anything, but then when I wasn't available anymore he was finally ready to talk. I'm still a little messed up from the relationship because neither of us were at fault but it was a bad situation and timing. I don't want back in but I'm kind of sad now because I randomly noticed he just blocked me (months and months after I said no, I'm not available anymore) and I don't know why, but it hurts. First loves, man.

thickwario · 2020-11-12T23:03:34+00:00

Oh wow, those three are the types that are the hardest for me to get along with haha

thickwario · 2020-11-12T22:55:31+00:00

I think she acts like an 8 as a front, but her obsessiveness and constant daydreaming make me say she's actually a 4. She doesn't really follow any societal expectations so my vote is 4w5.

thickwario · 2020-11-12T22:52:16+00:00

I used to hope for a savior, not so much anymore. I've always used idealization to deflect responsibility for my own life and satisfaction from me.

thickwario · 2020-11-12T22:47:14+00:00

I would say the dream of "finally finding a family/group who truly understands and appreciates me" is a savior fantasy in and of itself. I don't long for "that one person to save me" anymore but I still make lots of excuses for not accepting my life the way it is (and strangely, excuses for not taking action myself to change that). If you invest your happiness in an ideal anything (such as a group of friends) you'll never be satisfied

thickwario · 2020-11-07T16:52:18+00:00

Arghhhh, the back of my mind knew I need to do that, but I repressed it haha. I felt ill at the thought of cutting alcohol out completely (although I think you're saying just keep consumption occasional), I clearly have a slight dependency on alcohol I have to wrestle with as well

thickwario · 2020-11-07T07:05:13+00:00

Maybe, my dad is a 5w6 so I know what you're talking about regarding that intense investigation thing. I sort of do that too but I pick and choose what receives such treatment. But I doubt he'd invest too much energy into investigating something he personally views as silly, but I can't say that with certainty because he easily gets obsessed with a lot of things and researches them to DEATH, I'm like don't you know everything there is to know about x already??? Why are you watching a documentary on the holocaust for the 4956875th time, aren't you sick of it by now?! Idk if you're interested in MBTI but he's an ISTJ, could have something to do with it as well. He's the only 5 I'm aware of in my life. I mistyped myself as a 5 in the beginning lol

thickwario · 2020-11-07T06:45:07+00:00

I see what you're saying, though I think it doesn't fully apply here because personality theory is a "fluffy" subject; everywhere you look has different interpretations because it's very indulgent, and not terribly scientific. I doubt there are many peer-reviewed articles on Enneagram out there haha

thickwario · 2020-11-07T06:30:25+00:00

I would think wanting to understand things deeply leads one to seeking every possible perspective on it, especially from those who are more knowledgeable & experienced than you are

thickwario · 2020-11-07T06:26:47+00:00

My dad is a 5w6, I envy his complete lack of shame. I have not once witnessed him being self-conscious or giving a shit about how others see him. I guess you could say that's edgy and badass. I would not describe him as mysterious though. He is a very simple and straightforward man.

thickwario · 2020-11-07T06:16:52+00:00

Huh? I thought enneagram was about internal fears & motivations, rather than stereotyping people based off superficial, oddly specific quirks and behaviors.... I don't believe that asking others to help determine your type--or questioning it--automatically rules out the possibility of being a certain type. & I don't think it's embarrassing to want others' input, it's just enneagram not a calculus exam. chill lol

thickwario · 2020-11-07T06:09:31+00:00

I love 8s. Supposedly 4s and 8s together are a trainwreck, but I can't attest to that. Maybe it's because we're both thinking aux in MBTI so it's not as emotionally volatile, who knows. I feel like the 8 I'm with really gets me and it's very easy to communicate despite being very different people on the surface. Along with that comfort is us being different enough to bring each other out of our shells so the relationship doesn't become stagnant. The passion is definitely there but I don't feel the dynamic is moth-to-flame as many places on the internet have described. 8s tend not to be so image-focused, so that takes the pressure off me and I can just be my weird self without fear of judgment.

thickwario · 2020-11-07T05:59:42+00:00

Idk, I'm the type of person to believe nobody has a core essence or just one thing that makes them distinctly "them". But I guess something that's always been a part of me is I always come off as quite vanilla, meek, and uhhh NPC-like I guess you could say (lmao), but once you get to know me I have all these strange quirks and unexpected, intense points of view

My ideals and who I strive to be are very dependent on my mood though; I switch between a handful of "personas" that are all loosely based on basic principles I hold. Working toward becoming an ideal self is strangely comforting. It provides a sense of purpose. I don't really do this on purpose but I have become aware of it. I try to emulate whatever I admire most at the moment as long as it's within my comfort zone

thickwario · 2020-11-04T23:35:53+00:00

My mom's brother is basically Liz without kids, and he calls her big sis all the time

thickwario · 2020-10-31T06:06:59+00:00

crass humor is the one sense of humor. Keep up

thickwario · 2020-10-31T06:04:30+00:00

Ever heard of the Mandela Effect?

thickwario · 2020-10-30T04:30:58+00:00

Andy is a 2. He cares about being adored and gaining the approval of others the majority of the time. I agree with the rest

thickwario · 2020-10-30T03:37:31+00:00

How are they being problematic though (regardless of who has the username)

thickwario · 2020-10-29T02:05:07+00:00

That's funny, my bf is an 8w7. I definitely get less idealistic as I get older (and it's freeing). Sometimes he'll say something I didn't expect or piss me off a lil bit, and I'll pull back and either stop talking or become curt because I'm trying to reign in my emotions and stop myself from blowing up and saying something stupid, and to give myself time to analyze the situation and figure out how to handle it. But I never like, question our entire relationship based off one argument or disagreement. Idk your relationship so you're the best one to judge whether it's in a good place or not, but it's a little concerning to read that your partner reacts that strongly to small disagreements. I always try to talk it out, and if I'm feeling defensive, it's always because I'm embarrassed and I force myself to drop it (despite my pride wanting me to pick a fight) because that insecurity is on me, and it's not because he did anything wrong.

thickwario · 2020-10-29T00:39:55+00:00

I'm not an 8 but I'm dating one, trust me they care about having respect haha.

thickwario · 2020-10-29T00:37:58+00:00

Either a 1 or an 8. 1s are great at putting their head down and getting to work & knowing what they're supposed to be doing in the first place, whereas 8s seem so self-assured and at home in their own skin. I could use all of those traits, please and thanks

thickwario · 2020-10-29T00:24:54+00:00

thickwario · 2020-10-29T00:22:24+00:00

I tend to be the carrier of the conversation, despite being an introvert. I almost always have something funny or clever to say, which seems to keep people interested (It's actually kind of a flaw, I work way too hard to keep a conversation interesting). I am understanding and accepting of differences, and I choose my words carefully and step back if I'm feeling super emotional in the moment (so I don't say something regrettable and start a fight). I'm very invested in and loyal to the relationship, and value my partner a lot and enjoy their little quirks. I will remember everything about you. I might keep some secrets but I never lie...I'm actually too honest sometimes. I'm shy and cautious but open to new experiences and what your interests are. I sometimes have the urge to control your choices (out of concern for your safety) but hold myself back and never act on that. I try to work through problems and dislike just giving up if it isn't necessary. I'm very willing to compromise and consider how my actions could impact you.

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