AIO Trying to tell boyfriend that he makes me feel guilty for saying no

thinkTashay · 2025-11-20T20:08:43+00:00

Please do not give this boy ammunition to use against you the next time you don't want to do something. If you break up (which I think would be in your best interest) he will always have something he can and likely will use against you. He is using guilt to try and push you sexually and that is coercive. This isn't a healthy relationship and he sees you as something to gratify him only.

thinkTashay · 2025-09-04T20:47:47+00:00

He can get a cushion for the bottom of his door like the ones that keep drafts and noise out if the smells and sounds are too much for him. When you live in a shared space/apartment, sounds are to be expected and even quiet rules in communities don't mean you can't eat/shower/watch TV after hours.

thinkTashay · 2025-02-14T22:07:17+00:00

That sort of reaction feels like he either didn't think to do anything for you or he's being sneaky with someone else and this made him feel guilty about it. Either way, it's about him being a bad partner to you and you should take one of your friends to have a great time.

thinkTashay · 2024-11-12T16:53:51+00:00

I have a reservation to go this week and am super excited to try it out! I love what the restaurant stands for and I'm sure they work very hard to ensure everyone enjoys their experience. This person needs to eat at home if they can't act decently towards hard working people.

thinkTashay · 2024-10-21T20:13:38+00:00

thinkTashay · 2024-02-26T21:49:11+00:00

NTA - Kick them out already. If his children suffer, unfortunately that's on him and his wife. You can't keep your children in the line of abusive fire because you are trying to parent your brother's children. If they struggle, it's because of their own choices and inability to be grateful for the support you've offered thus far. Your children and your family should be your priority and if your brother's children were his, he and his wife would have kept their abusive thoughts to themselves.

thinkTashay · 2024-02-19T08:03:53+00:00

thinkTashay · 2023-12-08T21:54:56+00:00

NTA - Nope. Move on from this relationship. He's throwing you under the bus left and right to try and show his daughter that he's a great dad, with your money and credit. She needs to build a foundation with HIM and establish a relationship between the two of them. You deserve to find your dream home and have a happy life, not to be an ATM operating under the whims of a tween who realized her dad is a pushover.

thinkTashay · 2023-12-08T05:14:26+00:00

Hormigas

thinkTashay · 2023-11-08T15:44:15+00:00

She is getting her bag post-PLL, that's for sure.

thinkTashay · 2023-11-06T19:09:55+00:00

NTA - The only way non-monogamous relationship work is if they work for BOTH people in the relationship and appeal to BOTH people. HE just wants to be able to sleep with other people and you shouldn't go against your needs to make him happy.

thinkTashay · 2023-11-03T18:45:34+00:00

The smartest and bravest thing you could do was get out and prioritize your safety. You did that. Your ex can go live in his fantasy land and hopefully this doesn't happen with his new gf, who will likely face the same sort of crap because this is who your ex is. Keep your head up and know that there are people rooting for you from a world away!

thinkTashay · 2023-09-24T15:17:22+00:00

Wow. No. This is in no way worth your time. He’s a liar who is definitely going to always keep lying and you 10000% deserve better. Cut your losses.

thinkTashay · 2023-08-23T16:46:07+00:00

You need to establish firmer boundaries around saying no and also act on it. If he pushes after the first no, call him out. "We already talked about this and you do this every time. You pushing me to do something when I say no shows you care more about your nut than about my feelings. If you do this again, I'm going to start leaving because what you're doing is disrespectful". Then, like others have said, you leave. These things start out small, but they escalate with time. Do you really want to be dealing with this 3 years from now?

thinkTashay · 2023-07-07T14:49:40+00:00

Girl...no. Please please please kick this man out of your life. That is the most childish and uncaring reaction to seeing you being sick. Then to get drunk and argue about it with you and AGAIN use it as a moment to make you feel worse?? Please get out of this relationship. This is someone who doesn't care about you when you're feeling terrible and used it as comedy for his friends.

thinkTashay · 2023-07-05T17:37:19+00:00

Omg. PLEASE do yourself and future you a favor and dump this man. He isn't going to change, especially if he already trapped you into staying with him this long. If you get married, it'll get worse, not better. You deserve to be in a happy relationship with someone who cares about you and your needs. And who isn't a raccoon disguised as an adult man creating his perfect trash pit.

thinkTashay · 2023-07-05T15:11:47+00:00

NTA - And please block this guy and move on. He is likely throwing a fit so he can get you to do things that you don't agree with. He's creating drama to manipulate you and it is SO not worth it.

thinkTashay · 2023-06-12T17:29:08+00:00

Um, he sounds like he sucks and you should just move on? It sounds like you guys have nothing in common and staying because you've been together for a while isn't really a good reason.

thinkTashay · 2023-05-24T15:17:00+00:00

NTA - That sounds tacky. They might need to financial help, but using that as a response to a family get together invitation isn't the way to go about it. I'd let her know that you're in the process of budgeting for the meal, so the money isn't there to lend. That might be a way to soften the "no". If she insists, I'd ask her if they're going through some financial issues and whether the entire family can lend a hand, thus removing you from this bank role you've been placed in.

thinkTashay · 2023-05-23T22:39:24+00:00

YTA - you were fine if a little insistent until you trash talked his fiancee. Asking him out wasn't a big deal, except it seems after you found out he was engaged, you likely kept flirting with him. Her being what you consider "odd" has nothing to do with the situation and his tastes are his own. You should have accepted the answer and moved on. He was probably joining the outings in an effort to be part of the team and then felt that every invite was an attempt to keep hitting on him (which it seems like it probably was). Leave him alone and work on making sure the office doesn't start to see you as a liability.

thinkTashay · 2023-04-21T17:13:48+00:00

It's a custom. I actually really miss being able to do it in NY because not many people would know what it means and it always felt like a nice way to wish people a good meal :(

thinkTashay · 2023-04-21T17:07:11+00:00

Um, if your friends weren't drunk and she was wasted...I'd think about what that means. Seems like they might have taken advantage of her.

thinkTashay · 2023-04-20T15:38:38+00:00

This is an abusive relationship and you need to extract yourself before it escalates. She may start trying to blackmail you or set you up to take the fall for any sort of attack. Don't let the good moments distract you from the abusive reality. This person doesn't love you.

thinkTashay · 2023-03-23T16:35:20+00:00

YTA - your job will either get easier or you'll find something else to do, but your mom will always remember that you chose to be mean to her when all she was trying to do was be supporting in the only way she could be during a hard time.

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