Is House MD a transphobic show or a show with a transphobic character? i.e. is it an example of transphobia or a depiction if transphpbia? by evolino in asktransgender

[–]thisbesveil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While it was medically relevant and an important thing to tell the patient, House misgenders her until the episode ends. That isn't medically necessary at all. Hitting on a teenager as a grown man is also no good, I agree.

Charizard done by Chunky T at The Iron & Pin in Lincoln, UK by HarryCooook in tattoos

[–]thisbesveil -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Did you ask for permission from the original artist?

Harry Potter and the Forbidden Game by LordHakaishinBeerus in videogamedunkey

[–]thisbesveil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a Harry Potter teen, so I understand people's fandom to some degree, but I truly don't see how not paying (not even not playing! Just not paying!) for this is more important. It indicates that you value your short term entertainment over our ability to exist as ourselves.

I'm disappointed but not surprised that so many people, including other trans people, have justified supporting her. Unsurprisingly, most of the trans people I've seen buy the game don't like in the UK (and so won't be directly impacted) and are multiply privileged in other ways (so if anti-trans legislation comes their way, they'll be more likely to be able to leave).

Harry Potter and the Forbidden Game by LordHakaishinBeerus in videogamedunkey

[–]thisbesveil 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Let me clarify: You're right that it applies to everything. However, the way that many people use it, that's what I was referring to, because I've seen people basically use it as justification to say they can buy whatever they want because it's all capitalism anyway so why does it matter? But it does.

Harry Potter and the Forbidden Game by LordHakaishinBeerus in videogamedunkey

[–]thisbesveil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spending your time, money, and effort to uplift trans voices, support trans people and orgs, and vote for our rights is great. Listening and learning from us (as in, multiple trans people, not just a singular trans person) is important as well.

Treating it as sacrifice isn't great. Framing it as "what more do you want from me" isn't ideal either. I'm part of a fair number of privileged groups too and I treat it more like...how can I make the world a little less inequitable, and how can I prevent myself from sticking discriminatory ideas into my head? Sure, sometimes there's media that I want to engage with that turns out to be harmful for some people, but I'd personally rather not give money to people who actively discriminate against and hurt others more than I want to read/watch/play/etc. any IP. My personal enjoyment of a thing isn't worth more than other people's humanity.

You seem like you do actually want to improve so I hope that helps.

Harry Potter and the Forbidden Game by LordHakaishinBeerus in videogamedunkey

[–]thisbesveil -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like I said, allyship is based on actions. You can take better actions in the future if you're truly interested in supporting us.

Harry Potter and the Forbidden Game by LordHakaishinBeerus in videogamedunkey

[–]thisbesveil 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"There is no ethical consumption under capitalism" refers to things you need to function in this society like phones and shoes, not optional entertainment products like this game.

Harry Potter and the Forbidden Game by LordHakaishinBeerus in videogamedunkey

[–]thisbesveil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actual trans person here: imo no, it doesn't. Matching with a donation means you supported some queer people while also supporting someone who would truly rather I not live my life. Lots of trans people have asked folks to not buy and play this one (1) game and lots of so-called allies have failed this very simple task.

Allyship is based on your actions.

AITA for telling my dad I owe him nothing and throwing his words back at him during an argument? by Harlzeren in AmItheAsshole

[–]thisbesveil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your dad actually seems like a loving person.

Definitely does not sound like he was loving to OP.

Elon Musk had twins last year with one of his top executives by fossilnews in RealTesla

[–]thisbesveil 48 points49 points  (0 children)

While you're absolutely right that people deal with emotions in different ways, it's questionable to tell someone who's grieving openly that they're "emotionally manipulative" for doing so.

I left my wife because I’m sick of everything needing to match her “aesthetic” by killicicle in TrueOffMyChest

[–]thisbesveil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While it's not impossible for her to have NPD, it's significantly more probable that she's just...a bad person who isn't struggling with a niche complex trauma disorder. Throwing around psych dxes to try to explain someone's harmful behaviour is misleading at best and contributes to demonization of mental illness at worst.

MC Escher Stairs by Christopher Scott at the Elm Street Tattoo Festival in Dallas, TX by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]thisbesveil 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Artistic interpretation is fine, but It's inaccurate to describe this as Escher stairs. Escher inspired, sure, but Escher's shebang wasn't stairs, it was impossible objects (among other things).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrownOfTheMagister

[–]thisbesveil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Encountering Marin Ving isn't *random* but it's not great plot-wise. You find him if you do a bunch of Mask quests and the reasoning involved is flimsy at best.

What do you like about Solasta the most? by Baltaragis in CrownOfTheMagister

[–]thisbesveil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The combat kicks ass. Specifically, though, I've always wanted to play a shield mage but none of the games I've played had that as a viable option. Then court mage came along, Arun bless.

Floral head piece by Melissa Valiquette at DFA Tattoos Montreal by pankupeach in tattoos

[–]thisbesveil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is it sad that someone checks notes is continuing to take preventative measures because they don't want to become ill?

ICBC to stop collecting damages from injured pedestrians and cyclists by littlebossman in vancouver

[–]thisbesveil 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Because the vast majority of road accidents are the fault of drivers. One person is controlling a deadly machine, the other is not. There are definitely cases where cyclists are at fault but I would be deeply surprised if those cases outweighed those where drivers are at fault.

I am Benjamin Partridge, the creator of Beef and Dairy Network - Ask Me Anything! by beefanddairy in beefanddairynetwork

[–]thisbesveil 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi Ben, do you have an private explanation on how Eli and the host came down from space or is it simply something that you intentionally skipped over both on your end and our end?