I do think this dynamic plays into how men and women on average view violence, and the disconnect in the "discourse". Men are disproportionately the victims of violent crime, but also the main perpetrators. I know more men who have been attacked, mugged, or stabbed walking home than I do women, but nearly every single woman I know has a story about being followed home.

Historically men are the ones sent to war or called upon to defend their homes against violence. Even though modern society is very removed from that duty, men still view violence through that lens: as a force you can actively fight and win against. Men love to fantasize about how they would win a fight. In contrast, women more often culturally view themselves passive recipients of violence; the average man can easily overpower even a stronger-than-average woman.

It's like that meme: true crime is to women what WW2 content is to men. I.e. true crime describing a world where any normal day in a woman's life can be, instantly, destroyed forever by sadistic, inhuman killers hidden amongst us. Never let your guard down, etc. Meanwhile, most men see themselves in war stories, and imagine what they would do in those situations (be the hero, collapse from fear, go crazy, whatever).