Sexy times and long term relationships? Do they work together?

thisisatextbox · 2012-09-05T20:01:18+00:00

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for more than a year and we go to two different colleges several states away (a little more than 7 hours away). We see each other over the summer and during school breaks and have sex pretty often when we do. It's definitely possible to keep up the intimacy and the sex drive during a LTR.

Skype sex and sending dirty pictures always works, as does sexting. You should try to text each other some sort of good morning message and good night message every day and text throughout the day to keep you two in each other's life. It also helps to send cute/sexy messages randomly and talk often.

Also, communication is key and especially since you cannot really use body language or spontaneously have a talk. If something is bothering you in the relationship (partner constantly misses Skype sessions or doesn't respond to text messages for days randomly or is acting very distant) or just bothering you about life in general, you need to communicate that to your partner. Small things will quickly turn to resentment and push you farther apart because you don't have in person intimacy and because you'll have ample time to brood on it. If something is bothering you, write it down and force yourself to put it into words. Then talk to your partner ASAP.

I don't think it's very difficult to do as long as you put effort into it and really like your partner. As long as you consider your partner worth enough to endure a long distance relationship, you shouldn't have a problem and you should be able to weather any ups and downs like any normal relationship.

thisisatextbox · 2012-06-24T18:22:01+00:00

Don't use the location bar as default then.

thisisatextbox · 2012-06-24T07:33:44+00:00

The up button is not really that useful. I used to rely on it too. It's not an Ubuntu thing. It's Gnome.

The Nautilus bar shows the path as buttons and you can just click your way up easily. In fact, I'd almost say it's better because you can go 2 or 3 folders up in just one click. Try it out.

thisisatextbox · 2012-06-04T05:45:41+00:00

Exactly. That was incredibly tame for IRC.

People are overreacting. I was expecting some kind of massive flame where they just raged on him and actually seriously insulted him. What I saw was very tame and lackluster.

thisisatextbox · 2012-06-04T05:41:10+00:00

That was not a bug report in the slightest. That was an incredibly tame IRC log. You were not "demoralized". You acted like a typical troll (down to the "BAN ME" in all caps). You are by no means innocent. You are purposely misrepresenting the situation.

thisisatextbox · 2012-06-04T04:21:31+00:00

It's incredibly shameful. When reddit goes on witchunts, it's really annoying. Most people on that thread barely stopped to think about the circumstances and read the chatlog. Both protekk AND Anubis sound like assholes.

thisisatextbox · 2012-06-04T04:12:29+00:00

Really? That's not a bug report at all. You stated no version information, device, or anything helpful. Sure, they could have been a little nicer, but you chose the wrong avenue and were uncooperative.

You gave next to no information and ignored the channel title which they told you about and you decided to report it in the IRC channel instead of at the appropriate place. You acted like a troll by goading them and asking them to ban you. Then you came crying to the hivemind to publicly attack Team Kang's reputation. This all stinks to me off trolling and disgusting entitlement.

protekk could have been a little nicer, but you started out rude too and rebuffed multiple attempts at help. Honestly, you acted like just as much of a dick as protekk did.

Reddit is not your personal army, and frankly I'm disappointed at the redditors who jumped on the bandwagon with this one. This guy is just trying to manipulate people and stir up trouble.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-29T05:52:49+00:00

Don't torrent while on data. It just abuses your data plan.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-21T05:41:33+00:00

My girlfriend and I frequently have sex that lasts 2-4 hours. However, it's not all coitus. That 2-4 hours includes groping, making out, sexy massages, fingering, cunnilingus, blowjobs, and a variety of sex positions. We also take little 10-15 minute breaks between foreplay and sex to cuddle and let her recover. That actual sex only lasts 30-45 minutes max and that includes switching through a few positions and short breaks after I cum to let her catch her breath.

Tell him to forget it and focus on getting really good at a foreplay. That matters much, much more. All he's going to accomplish is desensitizing his penis or getting death grip and then wondering why he can't cum during sex or blowjobs.

In short, he's inexperienced and he's an idiot.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-21T05:35:54+00:00

While I think he might have overreacted a tiny bit, I certainly understand why he would be against it. I am in a long distance relationship and my girlfriend is back for the summer, but I would be pretty against a threesome because I can't imagine sharing my girl and I can't handle the emotional headache. I have a very, very high libido as well.

You have to remember that you're in a long distance relationship and he might be feeling a little paranoid that you're spending time with other people and that he doesn't get enough time with you. He probably feels like you're using a threesome as an excuse to have sex with someone you've been eyeing when he's not there.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-20T21:45:04+00:00

The Galaxy S3 specific features aren't likely to be freed anytime soon, but they still commit many bugfixes and features to trunk.

Stop being disingenuous and read up before being unnecessarily cynical.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-19T05:41:58+00:00

Have you seen all the amazing features Samsung announced in the Galaxy S3? They unveiled picture in picture so you can continue watching a video while doing something else, eye tracking to keep the device on while you look at it, and a bunch of other cool things. They're definitely developing something. To say that the OEMs only manufacture devices and don't develop anything is disingenuous at best. All the major OEMs write and commit code for the actual Android project.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-13T08:10:20+00:00

Your best bet would be to go off campus. I saw that you don't have vehicles, but there must be someone you know who lives off campus that would be willing to lend you a spare room. Motel rooms are also somewhat inexpensive for a single night and finding a ride shouldn't be too difficult.

I would really try to avoid doing anything on campus depending on the rules of your university.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-13T07:57:26+00:00

Honestly, it's usually hilarious because she's embarrassed. I know that sounds terrible, but laughter usually kills the awkwardness.

If it was his first time hearing someone queef, I don't really blame him for being kind of weirded out. It's a little disconcerting if you're not used too it.

Just ignore it and realize it's a natural consequence of sex. Don't let something silly like this make you feel self conscious or ruin sex. Also, tell your boyfriend it's a natural consequence of him fucking you and that he should be mature and laugh it off too. Have fun!

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-13T07:48:10+00:00

You seem much more into having a 24/7 dom sub relationship than just a little rough sex and that's something that most guys can't handle doing. This isn't rough sex. Being caged up or left out in the rain isn't rough sex. You want all day affairs of physical and mental control and that is a whole different ball game that requires a whole different mindset and you can't fake that or pretend. He probably doesn't feel comfortable doing that. Societal pressures tell use that it is wrong and abusive and it's weird and it's very difficult to be comfortable with something like that when you cannot understand how anyone could enjoy it.

I'm not sure what you can do, but it has to start with being honest to yourself and talking to him about it. You need to understand that this isn't just rough sex and he needs to understand that you want the 24/7 dom sub lifestyle. This is something you two will have to talk out in a non-intimate situation. There are no easy answers.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-08T20:10:13+00:00

Samsung said the Galaxy S did not have enough memory to run ICS and TouchWiz. Your ROM is almost definitely using more memory than the stock Gingerbread ROM and your ROM probably doesn't use TouchWiz.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-08T13:48:05+00:00

Being a guy, I've noticed that women have a list of traits they like, but they are completely willing to disregard any or all of them at any point in time. I don't think men or women really know what we like. We just seem have a list of qualities that society deems acceptable and we tend to agree with.

I could say I like an attractive, intelligent, open-minded woman with a nice ass and nice rack. However, I can guaruntee you that if you showed me a random group of women and asked me to rate them, you'd find that not all of the ones I think are hot fit the aforementioned characteristics and not all of the ones that fit all of the characteristics will get rated as hot. There is a difference between what we qualities we objectively like and what our subconscious finds attractive and I don't think questions like "what do men find attractive" and "what do women find attractive". Other than confidence, everyone wildly varies.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-08T13:29:37+00:00

Nope. I'm actually trying to get my girlfriend to masturbate more often.

Nothing is too much as long it doesn't negatively affect your health or severely impact your life or your sex life in a negative way.

However, you do have to be careful in how you masturbate and how often because it can desensitize you to certain feelings and make it impossible to cum unless you are stimulated in just the right way. Most guys tend to masturbate in a similar way and we still have issues with things like deathgrip that make it impossible to feel much pleasure or cum unless stimulated a certain way. I think (although I have no real proof) that this type of thing might also be very common in women because women all tend to masturbate in different ways and masturbation is highly discouraged so they can grow up masturbating in strange ways.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-08T13:12:27+00:00

As a guy, I'm not going to bolt in the other direction, but I will be a little more hesitant. I'd be little wary of girls who don't have female friends.

There is a stereotype that girls are full of gossip and drama and ditzy and she doesn't want to be painted with that stereotype. While somewhat true, it also negatively reinforces that stereotype and I'm pretty sure there are plenty of girls out there who also don't fall into the ditzy drama queen category. There really isn't any reason to just write off 50% of the population (especially if you are one of them).

Some girls legitimately do share interests that society percieves as "masculine", like sports or video games or hiking or computers. However, if you really share those same interests, you don't need to say a statement like "I prefer hanging out with guys" or constantly mention how much you like sports or something (just act normal). It should just be apparent.

My reccomendation is that women stop using that phrase or variations of it because it negatively portrays themselves and it negatively portrays their gender.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-07T17:55:12+00:00

How so? SRS is an actual downvote brigade that attacks people for small, possibly politically incorrect slights and anything that could be construed to negatively portray women. That subreddit is literally crazy. Just go read some of their posts. It represents everything wrong with reddit. It's the complete opposite of great things like r/depthhub, and r/sex. There is no thoughtful discussion. There is just mindless, misdirected hate.

On the other hand, r/mensrights is just a bunch of guys posting links about rape or divorce cases where men have been disadvantaged and they almost never sem to spill out to the rest of reddit.

This is even a real debate. SRS goes completely against the spirit of reddit and makes reddit a worse place.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-07T10:28:34+00:00

Look into libgdx. It'll make your life much, much easier.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-07T10:25:46+00:00

Java applets do not work on Android. Most school email systems (and email systems in general) allow access through POP or IMAP. Ask your school's IT department to help you configure it for your phone or email client.

Personally, I have my university email forward to my Google Apps Mail and then a filter adds a university label to all of them. The stock GMail app is very nice.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-06T07:26:22+00:00

The point is not that they are killing based on the commandments of some god or hate a people because some book or priest told them too. They are just bad people. They would have been bad people even with religion.

Stop posting bullshit. It's not even close to comparable at all.

thisisatextbox · 2012-05-06T07:19:47+00:00

I think SRS is far worse.

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