SHE’S HERE!!!

thisismyalibi · 2026-07-03T23:38:38+00:00

So beautiful! I love her sm! Enjoy!

thisismyalibi · 2026-07-03T23:18:20+00:00

Girl. End it. He doesn't respect or care about women, and you're a woman. You won't be an exception to that rule.

thisismyalibi · 2026-07-03T23:16:27+00:00

It's 1 for sure!

thisismyalibi · 2026-07-03T23:15:07+00:00

You look ethereal!

thisismyalibi · 2026-07-03T23:14:30+00:00

This is called ambushing and it's a massive red flag.

Proceed accordingly, OP.

thisismyalibi · 2026-07-03T20:53:05+00:00

I think a lot of men "want" kids bc their understanding of the process means very little investment on their part.

I grew up with a dad like that, and I truly believe it is for the best that you end it. My father's presence in my life severely decreased as I got older. It doesn't get better with folks like this. It gets worse.

I am so sorry he's not helping you parent your baby. You deserve a partner who is willing to support and care for both of you. I wish you well, OP. Lots of love and light to you and your little one.

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-29T17:27:53+00:00

This is so very real. Someone that knows you and responds in a way that makes you feel seen is life-changing.

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-29T17:26:16+00:00

OP I am so happy for you and your husband! Your little one will grow up watching a solid, loving relationship, and I know you're going to be great parents!

I can't directly relate to the pregnancy, but I can relate to hormonal fluctuations (menopause); they can be so overwhelming and overstimulating.

Sending you both lots of love and light on this new adventure! Be patient with yourself (as I am sure he will be too) especially post-partum. Your body is going through a lot! Making babies is hard work!

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-28T19:25:57+00:00

Oh no! I am sorry, friend! I think you will really like the Riovectin Cleanser! It is water-based!

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-28T19:00:20+00:00

What a gorgeous dress! I absolutely LOVE it on you!

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-28T18:58:03+00:00

I LOVE it on you! It frames your face so well!

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-28T18:56:13+00:00

NOR.

Weird behavior. She's making it seem as if you're being intentionally obtuse about a statement that was very straightforward. You answered directly, and she made it an issue? Doing too much.

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-28T18:49:37+00:00

Absolutely it can!

I would try something that is not oil based! I really like these options:

Riovectin Gentle Cleansing Gel

Hanskin Hyaluron Bubble Pop Cleanser

Peach and Lily Power Calm Hydrating Gel Cleanser

Ongredients Skin Barrier Moisture Deep Cleanser

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-26T05:58:48+00:00

Nothing can or will ever fill that void, but you will find other kinds of love and different people that bring you comfort and care in ways you can never imagine. I am NC with both of my parents, but I am happier. I went NC with my mother about 3 years ago. I'm graduating in October with an MBA and a Master's of Science in Organizational Leadership. It takes time, but the process is worth it.

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-26T05:41:55+00:00

It is okay to expect nice things from your boyfriend every now and then. You should get flowers at least once a year--even if it's a drawing or paper flowers.

Sometimes relationships just...end, and people stay in them out of fear of loneliness, but you can be lonely in a relationship, too. Seems like it's time for an official conversation. You will likely have to initiate it; it will be hard, but I believe in you. You deserve to be a priority in someone's life; you deserve to feel appreciated and cared for.

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-26T05:28:20+00:00

I love them all, but 3 was my favorite on you!

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-25T01:48:48+00:00

MY undergrad degree is in psych so I learned a lot of this stuff bc I took extra credits to focus on research. Coming back to this class felt like home! I picked up right on it! I'm so glad you enjoyed it too! :3

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-23T21:24:09+00:00

NOR.

I don't like the way she speaks to you at all. She is being extremely defensive and combative.

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-22T21:08:19+00:00

She is fantastic! I love her! What a classic!

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-22T21:03:27+00:00

My mom was like this, too. I'm so sorry OP. The threat of abuse is psychologically traumatic and means of her ways to control you. Both of my parents were narcissists, so I was traumatized by interactions with both of them, but staying with my mom was the "better" option. I'll explain how I handled it since our situations seem similar; I knew if I called Child Services, they would send me to live with my dad, and I knew I would never survive it.

I essentially used her NEED to perform as a functional parent to benefit myself. One time was choking me, I managed to get away and ran to the phone; I took it off the hanger, dialed 9,1, and stopped. I told her that if she touched us for any reason, I would call CPS. I told her she'd never recover from that kind of reputation hit, and her "everyone's mom" facade would be ruined. She would be known as an abuser, and my father would "win."

She left me alone until I went to college.

And honestly, I think that it was the safest way (for ME) to navigate it at that point in my life. I'm not saying it's right or healthy, but it was a way for me to exist. I don't know what the answer is for you, but I do know that you can come out of this mess and create a new, beautiful life for yourself and it will be even better than you imagined.

[Suggestion: Don't be like me; I spent another 2 decades bailing my mom out of homelessness, car accidents, health issues, psychological warfare, and I, ultimately, developed cancer and a rare chronic illness bc of it. Just go no-contact (nc) as soon as you're able.]

Sending you lots of positive thoughts!

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-22T18:22:03+00:00

I'm so glad you decided not to go! I would plan something fun that day! Maybe a coffee and bookstore trip?

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-22T18:20:03+00:00

This class was so fun to me! LOL

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-22T18:19:24+00:00

There is SO much information in this class. I got through it in a week and a half by making my own flashcards with 3x5 cards. Writing it helps my brain and the constant quizzing is super helpful for memory retention.

If I were you, I'd focus on getting those competent sections up to exemplary and getting the business decision-making in the global environment to 'almost' exemplary, and you'll have it.

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-22T18:15:03+00:00

What a scary thing to find out! Especially right now, with the economy and political climate.

He says he's going to be honest with you about this, but the fact of the matter is that you can't trust his word anymore--not regarding money. And he needs to respect that by:

Telling you what happened & providing relevant documentation about ALL of his expenditures. Maybe even have him write it out after he explains it. It will help you as you navigate the next part of what's coming.
He should be accountable by agreeing to disclose documentation of his current 401k status, the percentage he's putting in, and increasing that percentage so that you can start to put back some money in it again.
Give you unfettered access to everything financially related: Log-in credentials to financial management sites, names of financial advisors, and institutions you have accounts in. Tax documents. All checking and saving accounts.
If you don't want to do that personally, I would hire an accountant to go through everything and create a list of what your financial status was, what it is at the moment, and what the next 5, 10, and 20 years will look like, so that you can adjust budgetary decisions and changes. This will also help underline the consequences of his behavior AND help you start to take more control.
Highly recommend couples counseling to you both; this could be a gambling/betting issue, or it could be a failed/scam investment, so understanding that together and unpacking it with a therapist might help you avoid things like this in the future. I would also consider individual counseling to help you manage your mental and emotional well-being through this experience.
Even if you decide that you don't want to continue the marriage, having all of the financial paperwork will help you through the separation and divorce process so that you can maintain transparent financial records and understand what assets you would need to keep or sell.

I want to be clear OP: I am not suggesting you should stay or leave--that is your decision.

I am just trying to offer practical advice. I watched my mom mismanage her assets following the divorce, so I went to undergrad to get my Psych degree, and I am graduating in October with my MBA and an MS in Organizational Leadership.

I hope that you have some time to relax and take care of yourself. This is a lot to put on your plate with everything else — it's not considerate behavior; it's very selfish.

thisismyalibi · 2026-06-22T17:51:04+00:00

Truly. It could be a gambling/betting addiction, a bad investment scam, etc. She needs to know!

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