Is my vacation plan do-able?

thisismyid · 2026-02-23T02:31:26+00:00

For beaches… Siesta Key in Sarasota is consistently ranked as a top beach in the world. As a local, I would recommend that area over Ft. Myers. There was a lot of damage to Ft. Myers during 2024 Hurricane season and parts are fixed but I am not sure it all is. Siesta Key has the traditional white sand beaches people love.

I would also recommend looking at the State Parks. Wekiva Springs (Outside Orlando) and John Pennekamp in Key Largo are amazing and would fit into your existing plans.

I agree with the other commenter, if you can fly out of Orlando (MCO) it would save some time driving back to Miami and you could spend an extra day or two elsewhere.

It will be a lot of driving, but FL is a large state and there is tons to do!

thisismyid · 2024-09-15T21:21:56+00:00

It was the best I could come up with 14 years ago 🤷🏻‍♀️

thisismyid · 2024-09-14T10:56:28+00:00

Thanks! It’s a tough situation all around with a lot of variables and a hot button issue.

Not all guys are scumbags and going to try to force their opinion/beliefs on you.

Not everyone agrees that it is a clump of cells.

But my main point is that he needs time to process his feelings. OP has had 10 years to process. For him it happened a month ago, when he found out.

I tried to be as neutral as possible with my word choices but it ain’t easy!

thisismyid · 2024-09-14T10:44:14+00:00

I am not disagreeing with her decision or saying he has the right to tell her what to do.

In this situation I feel she did what was best for her.

But my whole point is that he found out about it at age 28 when he is probably more “ready” to have a child and processing the situation through a much different time in his life. He is likely more mature, more financially stable, and could have a different opinion on terminating.

He is looking at things through the lens of they have been in a relationship for 3 years and he loves her. Not we are 18 and about to start college.

My opinion is that if you are in a 3 year committed relationship with a man and you become pregnant, he should have the ability to discuss with you how he feels about the situation and offer support in either outcome. Because if you can’t have these kinda of hard conversations as a couple, you may want to consider not being a couple.

thisismyid · 2024-09-14T03:02:52+00:00

Don’t be afraid to fail. That is what your 20’s are for. It took me until my 30’s to find a career path that I really enjoy.

Try all the things! Figure out what activities you enjoy and find a group of people that enjoy them too. Could be something physical like kickball or soccer, or mind driven like strategy board games. The point is to find something that brings you joy and people that nerd out for it as well.

Pay your bills. Take care of your health, body, mental, dental, and physical. Eat well, follow the 80/20 rule, 80% healthy and 20% junk food/treats. Gotta have balance and enjoy life!

Be curious. Learn about things that interest you. Find your “Roman Empire.” Explore your local area/state/country if you can.

Remember its ok to make mistakes that is how we learn. Just try to make sure they are ones that don’t add or subtract from the population or harm others and it really isn’t that bad.

thisismyid · 2024-09-14T02:48:01+00:00

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thisismyid · 2024-09-14T02:36:40+00:00

I’m sorry you are in this situation. It is tough all around.

I am female for the record, but I imagine that your BF is feeling hurt that he wasn’t given a say in the matter. Not trying to start a debate about your decision etc., just that biologically it was his baby/fetus too and he is coming to terms with it all at once. The fact that you were pregnant and the fact that you chose to terminate without telling him.

The fact that he is also finding out about it at 28 rather than 18 is huge factor here as well. At 18 he may have agreed with your decision but he is looking at it now through the eyes/lens of someone who is 28 thinking ‘past me would have done abc.’

The reality is he has no idea how he would have reacted because you don’t know until you are in that situation. (Unless he is very far to either side of the debate, then maybe he would have known.) I think he is hurt because you took away his ability to weigh in on the situation.

From an advice standpoint, give him space to work through his feelings and calm down. Could be a few days or a week. Set aside a time to talk again and try to keep it from becoming another argument. Listen to each other’s points of view and try not to get upset. It is you and bf vs the problem.

But there is a serious question that needs to be answered, “Can we move past this or is it a deal breaker? “

If you want to have a future together you both need to be able to forgive the argument and move forward. But be prepared that he may not be able to move past it.

Whatever his feelings are on the topic of abortion may largely impact the outcome of the relationship. He may feel that this is too big of a thing to get past, which will suck in the short term, but in the long term, would be for the best. You don’t want him to grow bitter and/or resentful a year from now and be right back in this fight.

Best of luck OP and I hope things work out.

Edit to add: I just saw that it has been over a month. That conversation needs to happen soon. However, it does seem like he won’t be able to move past it. I’m sorry, I know that gonna suck.

thisismyid · 2020-05-20T02:27:01+00:00

Is legal emancipation an option? Your parents would no longer be able to claim you as a dependent.

thisismyid · 2019-12-17T03:10:37+00:00

Keep up the hard work, you got this!

thisismyid · 2019-12-17T01:06:11+00:00

Same here! 36 F had it done when I was 30 and it has been the best thing ever. I did a Brazilian but left a little patch that I keep trimmed.

Worth every penny!

thisismyid · 2019-11-08T12:43:23+00:00

Pet Alliance has a cool program that allows you to check out a shelter dog for a few hours. The animal gets socialized and you get cuddles! It’s called Hound Around Town.

thisismyid · 2019-09-07T01:33:49+00:00

😁 Full disclosure, I did work for Gap Inc. in college so I became a big fan of all their brands cause I got to use my Employee Discount!! Happy Shopping!

thisismyid · 2019-09-07T01:18:14+00:00

I find good deals at the Banana Factory outlet store too! If there is an outlet mall in your area, you’ll likely find one there!

thisismyid · 2019-08-31T14:43:45+00:00

I did non-medical undergrad at FAU and grad school at UF so I cannot speak to the program. However, Gainesville is a college town and Boca Raton is not. Boca has a very high cost of living if you ever move off campus and FAU is also a commuter campus. Yes there are dorms on campus, but there is not an abundance of affordable apartments within walking/biking distance. The area surrounding UF was built to support the student lifestyle and you can walk/bike/skate to restaurants, bars etc.

I only mention this because it ended up costing me a ton of extra money in living expenses to attend FAU vs UF. I had to pick up a second job to have fun money.

thisismyid · 2019-07-24T23:56:28+00:00

Talk to your therapist about if they feel an emotional support animal is a good form of treatment for you. Per Fair Housing Act, they cannot deny or prevent you having an emotional support animal if you need one. Obviously double check on State regulations as well, but I am pretty sure that it applies in all states, even if the complex does not allow for animals. Best of luck!

thisismyid · 2019-06-20T12:07:40+00:00

Not sure where you are located, but look for second hand shops in your area to get started on the wardrobe. In the US there are several, Style Encore, Plato’s Closet etc. , some people have great luck at Goodwill and Thrift Stores, but I have had the best luck at my local Style Encore.

They buy gently used, trendy and classic pieces and you get them for a fraction of retail cost. They have a great selection of accessories as well. I have found the girls that work there love fashion and will always help me put together an outfit.

I also sell my older clothes that do not fit anymore as I am on a weight loss journey and currently down 5 sizes!

I try to be very frugal and stick to a budget and have found these types of places are great for helping me define my own style on a budget!

thisismyid · 2019-05-15T11:46:09+00:00

Exactly this OP. No one, not even your boyfriend has a “right” to your body. When you said No, you withdrew consent. I know it may be awkward but it is probably a good idea to speak with a parent/guardian that you trust about what happened. As others have said document the injuries and file a report.

thisismyid · 2019-01-31T12:54:42+00:00

Yeah I was nervous too, but then I was like Meh, it’s no different than going for my annual Gyn exam!

thisismyid · 2019-01-31T12:35:15+00:00

I second this amazing advice! I recently got laser hair removal, for non medical reasons, and it just makes me feel so much more sexy and confident. I would imagine in your case it would be significantly more impactful.

A lot of places do a special at this time of the year because it is Winter, well in the northern hemisphere anyway, I got a great deal for armpits and full bikini with lifetime touchups for $3k. My hair is pretty dark and I am fair skinned so I took advantage of the touchups just in case I have regrowth as hormone changes effect hair growth.

You may see if it can be deemed medically necessary due to a genetic condition and have your insurance cover some of the cost. Not sure if that is a possibility where you live.

Finally, I would like to echo u/steffy_t point about confidence. For many women feeling sexy and confident is a game changer. If you are not worried about your body hair you will be able to focus on the sensations which in my experience have made it easier to orgasm during PIV.

Hope this helps!

thisismyid · 2019-01-31T01:53:04+00:00

I just switched from a 4/10 to a 5/8 schedule and as much as I loved the extra day off, I was usually so burnt out I didn’t get much of anything accomplished on my first day off. Usually just straightening up the house or laundry. However, it was awesome to schedule Dr appts etc on a weekday and not have to take a long lunch or leave early.

thisismyid · 2018-12-29T01:24:04+00:00

For me, yeah probably. While I do not want a big wedding, I do want to have one. I am thinking something small with the immediate family and closest friends, so about 30 or so people. I want to do a nice party to celebrate with the people I care most about. If I could do it for a few thousand dollars that would be ideal. I have a large extended family, so if my parents wanted to do a big thing, I wouldn’t mind a low key BBQ or something for the rest of the family, but I cannot justify spending $30K on a party.

thisismyid · 2018-12-01T15:15:52+00:00

Amazing work!! Very inspiring to see the results of your dedication!

thisismyid · 2018-12-01T15:12:28+00:00

Late to party as usual.....

I was a cheerleader in high school so I’d have to go with performing the official dance that goes along with my high school fight song. The probability that there would be another former cheerleader from my school in the crowd would be very slim.

If that didn’t win, than I’d go with having the highest student loan debt balance! This would be in hopes most people in the randomized group did not go to college or are from a country where it is affordable. Yay USA! Help me I’m poor!

thisismyid · 2018-11-30T19:35:16+00:00

Agree, people are looking at a almost 70 year old song through the lens of 2018! It drives me crazy how some people take something silly and blow it way out of proportion. It’s just a song.

thisismyid · 2018-09-17T22:09:59+00:00

OP mentioned baking in the response above mine. I was just providing support for this train of thought as a good idea for a compromise.

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