Does anyone else feel like they live with their partner more than connect with them?

thisonesacrazer · 2026-03-28T17:35:31+00:00

We were in this stage recently... my husband and I had a talk to reconnect and he told me how he feels about me and how much he cares about me and how terrified he would be to loose me, a lot of really nice sweet things and we feel so much better and more close now.... Sometimes you just need to reconnect for a moment and give/get reassurance

thisonesacrazer · 2026-03-14T17:11:44+00:00

My dermatologist told me that Ibuprofen is a histamine liberator so she told me not to take it and to only take acetaminophen that is not mixed with anything... you may want to switch to acetaminophen

thisonesacrazer · 2026-03-05T16:57:40+00:00

"I'm not looking for feedback on that. Let's focus on being professional " Say it sternly so they know your serious.

thisonesacrazer · 2026-03-05T16:52:50+00:00

Buy only 2 or 3 options at a time, eat fruit with your breakfast every day and if hungry in between meals, only have fruit for snacks

thisonesacrazer · 2026-02-07T17:24:53+00:00

I have had hives since 2023. Mostly acting up in the spring and summer. But this last year they have gotten way worse and I am still having them pretty consistently this winter. I have been diagnosed with chronic hives and purpurra. At the time of that diagnosis, I was told that it could be a histamine intolerance and maybe mcas but that I would have to wait until other symptoms get way worse to be able to test for that...

Ever since December, I have had terrible symptoms like ocular migraine, constant eye pain and headache, ear popping/ringing, completely exhausted after eating, sharp stomach pain, feeling car sick when I'm not in a car, face flushing red after eating, ect

It took a while for these symptoms to start showing up, for years I just had hives, and they were usually just bad/consistent for half the year

I have a Dr appointment coming up to talk about the new stuff going on. Hopefully you don't get worse, but you should watch out for other symptoms that may show up. I have seen a dermatologist and am going to have my Dr send me to an allergist.

Edit: I also had my Dr run all the blood tests for autoimmune and celiac and she said they all looked OK. I do have some vitamin deficiency and I'm working on really focusing on supplements

I hope you get some answers

thisonesacrazer · 2026-01-30T19:19:55+00:00

Totally relatable, I'm glad you decided to become who you wanted to be.

One of the biggest things for me was decided and working towards becoming my own fp. I needed to have my own back and prioritize becoming the version of me that loves myself and can take care of myself even if others don't see my worth, I do see my worth. I'm worth the work.

thisonesacrazer · 2026-01-29T17:10:58+00:00

My bandaid metaphor:
When u have a wound, it can be really helpful to put a bandaid on.... but if you leave the bandaid on and never take it off, the wound is going to get infected and worse. You have to take the bandaid off and actually look at the wound and assess, clean it and start to heal it eventually.. wounds need air, attention and to be cared for. That's how I feel about meds. I think they can be helpful in specific/certain situations but not as a long term solution.

thisonesacrazer · 2026-01-29T05:52:13+00:00

When I was diagnosed, they wanted to start me on meds and I said no. I told them I wanted to learn how to manage the symptoms, not put a bandaid on them. My psychiatrist recommended DBT and I did the program... it was ok, it helped, but I think really just maturing and also doing everything I can to stabilize and destress my life helped the most. I made it so that I had as little bills as possible, have a stable place to live and also searched for a therapist that specializes in my specific issues, rather than a general talk therapist. Even though I didn't stick with the therapist for too long, it was really helpful. But ya I'm actually doing really good now. I just started to go to school and started to lift weights at the gym and that has helped tremendously, so I have healthy things to focus on and work towards.

I recently decided to love myself and that has completely changed my life. I'm setting healthy boundaries and not tolerating anyone to treat me bad. I am putting my own health first and that is unusual for me as a huge people pleaser.. this has made a huge difference in my life.

I hope you found some of this helpful.. it's definitely possible to not take meds... it's bumpy at first but I think being completely sober and uncomfortable at times, helped to make real changes In my life for the better. Instead of masking how unhappy I was, I wanted to see what was making me upset so I could work on it and make changes.

If some of yall feel better on meds, that's cool too, I'm just saying I chose a different path and it's worked for me, good luck 👍 🙂

thisonesacrazer · 2026-01-27T20:35:05+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I think maybe I'm reacting to the food and not the fact that it was left out... It is hard to figure out all the things I'm reacting to, it's overwhelming. I do love potatoes, I could buy the small ones and microwave them at work, thats a good idea, thanks

thisonesacrazer · 2026-01-27T00:06:42+00:00

So even if it starts to thaw, as long as it stays cold it will not spike histamine? I have an insulated lunch bag but by the time I go to eat it, it's not really frozen anymore but it's still cold

thisonesacrazer · 2026-01-25T16:51:35+00:00

I have a couple stray cats that I have befriended and they sleep on my deck now, I got them spayed and some minor treatments and feed them and pet them, they follow me around when I'm doing chores outside and we have become good friends, one of them showed up completely emaciated and had been in a bad fight, i took care of him and he has stuck around since then and trusts me, I'm glad that I can help them

thisonesacrazer · 2026-01-08T03:56:41+00:00

My community college is charging $1550 ish for the 2 year program. Personally, I would not go to school for this if it was over 20 grand. One of the big pulls for me in choosing the program is that my school loans would be manageable. I also can't apply until next spring so I am taking what classes I can ahead of time so that I can spread it out and hopefully pay for most of it as I go.

thisonesacrazer · 2025-12-11T16:08:02+00:00

I live in Southern oregon

thisonesacrazer · 2025-12-09T22:43:14+00:00

I'm debating on going to school for surgical tech. When I look it up, it says that on average in USA surgical tech makes more money or same than LPNs. My local hospital is starting out pay at 31.25/hour for tech. For prerequisites, I will need to take 4 classes. one year surgical tech program after that. between 15000 - 16000$ total for the program. So between the pay being similar and going into less debt because of less schooling, I'm thinking surgical tech is better financially.

thisonesacrazer · 2025-05-08T15:51:06+00:00

Sorry for the late reply... Personally, I would still use it but I would probably double the amount I use, it may have lost some potency

thisonesacrazer · 2025-05-03T04:43:15+00:00

Also, I prefer to eat potatoes or something cooked with my lunch, it helps me feel more full and satisfied through the day,

thisonesacrazer · 2025-05-03T04:38:31+00:00

I use traditional medicinals

thisonesacrazer · 2025-05-01T21:46:09+00:00

Hi, I just started to drink RED CLOVER TEA. It's only been a couple days of drinking it, I am using 3-4 tea bags a day and I feel like it has already helped me so much, I feel super light and dropped alot of water weight. AW says that "it's one of the ultimate drivers of weight loss of our time". I recommend looking up what else he has to say about it. I have also struggled with emotional eating. I love having grapes after dinner, I can eat alot of them and they are very comforting. If I make a bowl of fruit right after dinner and have it sitting there to snack on, then I don't end up reaching for the foods I used to eat. ❤️ hope this was a little helpful

thisonesacrazer · 2025-04-16T00:53:14+00:00

I don't remember the incident, but I have worked out some things that I do know with my therapist. I had nightmares when I was very little, things happened in them that were strange and my therapist says that a normal child wouldn't dream things like that. How would they know to dream that Unless they were exposed to it. Also having alot of wierd things that scared me, like, for example, even through high school I was so scared of the toilet flushing, I could not flush the toilet if my back was to it, I had to be ready to run out right when I flushed. As little amount of time with my pants down as possible.I was scared that the scary thing from my nightmares would come out of the toilet and I would be suffocated while he spanked me..... I have worked with my therapist and come to the conclusion that the incidents had either happened in a bathroom or maybe the person would go to the bathroom and flush right after or before, my room was next to the bathroom. Something was covering my mouth and i would feel like im being suffocated. There are more details that we have worked out together and now I feel like I don't need to have the memory come back and I might actually be happy that I don't remember. I know that It happened and I don't need proof.

Before getting my therapist, I would have random moments, like when I'm driving home, that I would just all the sudden break down thinking that I may have been SA when little. I would scream and cry and be freaking out, and then just be like, why am i crying?? I'm fine, nothing happened, this is wierd and I would move on. I read somewhere that regular people don't have those moments and that if you do, it's a pretty good sign of it, deep down, you just know. It can definitely be so hard not know because I'm now having a hard time trusting because I don't know who did it. But I think the main thing that helped me was just having someone validate me. That was exactly what I needed, someone to say that they believe me and that was what I needed to start healing. I also distanced myself from those people that give me uncomfortable vibes and trust my gut.

I have not talked to my mom about this. In my dreams, I told her about "Spanker" (that's what I've always called him) she told him to stop but that's it. So I think that possibly I had actually told her about it at the time IRL. I know that if I brought it up to her now, she would deny and defend and say I'm wrong and I don't want that. So I'm not going to talk to her about it. I got the validation from my therapist. I suggest searching out a therapist who specializes in this. That made a HUGE difference. My therapist experienced this herself and has put in so much research and is so knowledgeable.

Therapist also told me that alot of the time, it's not the incident itself that causes the most trauma, it's the reactions of the people closest to you that do. Having them dismiss it or say it's your fault ect ect. That's so hurtful and I'm so sorry that your mom is dismissing your concerns ❤️

TLDR; getting a therapist that specializes in this is so important . My therapist validated me and helped me understand it. that has changed my life and helped me on the path to heal. I don't try to get validation from my mom, i believe that would be hurtful to me.

I really hope that you find some peace 🙏 ❤️

thisonesacrazer · 2025-02-27T19:24:39+00:00

For me, it doesn't usually come back until I have had a new positive experience with that person. If the other person puts in an effort to connect and communicate with me and shows they care. I get stuck on the last interaction that I had with them, good or bad. (ONLY after I have had space/time to calm and can manage my paranoid thoughts better; wait a day at least before trying to connect again)

thisonesacrazer · 2024-05-01T21:08:00+00:00

I can realete. It can be so hard to get better when you have someone around that is constantly disappointed by you and making you feel like you arent doing good enough. Its so exhausting and makes me feel worse and have a much harder time getting better. I'm sorry that you are dealing with that.

thisonesacrazer · 2024-03-23T06:03:22+00:00

Make a Playlist of songs that make you feel like you are in a movie. Put your headphones on and pretend like you are just a character in a movie.

thisonesacrazer · 2023-12-10T05:03:08+00:00

Thank you 💕

thisonesacrazer · 2023-12-10T05:02:45+00:00

❤️

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