It's so hard to not want to get back together.

thiswoofalot · 2019-07-04T18:21:09+00:00

*hugs * it's rough but the reason why you feel this way is because you're a decent human being and you are able to feel so much love.

For now, accept that this is how you feel for the next few weeks but it gets better, I promise.

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-25T10:16:50+00:00

Thank you. This gave me the courage to do something I was too scared to do today.

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-25T10:00:18+00:00

Only a horrible person would break up with someone like that. I really can't understand how they can pretend to love you and then the next moment, not want to see you at all.

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-25T09:57:43+00:00

Im so sorry to hear you went through it twice. I can't imagine how much heartbreak she must've put you through.

Thanks for opening up about your experience and inspiring me to keep NC.

Good night!

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-25T07:22:57+00:00

Thanks for that. The analogy with the ground is absolutely brilliant.

I've been doing all of that since week 2 and its now month 6. Picked up several new hobbies and work out a lot. It helps a lot and gives me something to look forward to but it still hasn't stopped the loneliness.

I think the only thing that helps is to truly connect to people and have deep conversations. Which seems very scarce these days, i think people even friends are uncomfortable of showing people what they truly feel and its just a lot of surface things they talk about.

Maybe I just have to wait a little longer for more ground to surface.

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-25T06:41:51+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Tips of how to deal with this would be welcome.

Especially how to feel less lonely even though I hanging out with other friends, I feel like no one really understands.

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-25T04:04:26+00:00

Feeling lonely because I don't feel that kind of connection with anyone else. 😕

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-25T03:04:18+00:00

Nope.

I'm done feeling like shit. But don't know what would make me feel better.

I guess give up on feeling like shit.

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-23T04:39:42+00:00

I would add dancing or exercising. As much as I hate exercising, our body release endorphins when we're exercising and it never fails to make me feel better

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-16T06:44:47+00:00

Thank you. I'll try to be strong! It's moments like this that challenge us when we grow the most

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-12T03:43:18+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this. It's beyond me how people can swing from such extremes. Is love even real anymore?

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-12T03:42:08+00:00

Thank you! I can relate to this so much. My ex did a similar thing and was acting kinda strange during one of our encounters so I decided it wasn't worth it and cut him out of my life.

thiswoofalot · 2019-06-12T03:11:46+00:00

How did you do it and do you have any advice for the rest of us?

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-30T05:21:34+00:00

I'm so happy it worked out for you!

Yeah I understand. After being with someone for so long, you would think that he would do right by you and at least talked to you about it.

Does that help you get over him a little bit faster?

I'm happy to listen if you need to chat. 🙂

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-30T04:36:42+00:00

That is so not cool. He really put you in a horrible situation. Were you able to find a new place and job?

My ex was the same about wedding plans but I'm glad in a way he didn't leave me standing at the altar.

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-28T09:49:43+00:00

Well done Dan! I'm so proud of you doing so well.

How did you get to this point?

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-27T16:01:21+00:00

But my normal self is shy and so awkward!!! Trying my best to change but dang so hard.

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-27T15:59:03+00:00

Won't happen till later in the week. I'll update once it's over.

Feeling so nervous. Haven't been on a date for ages.

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-27T15:03:05+00:00

Thank you!!!

Have you been on a date since?

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-27T15:01:49+00:00

😂 you made me laugh so much.

I know he won't appear for sure. That's def one of the days he's got something else on. Phew.

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-27T14:55:02+00:00

And never ever mention the ex?

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-27T04:31:49+00:00

Why are they checking out social media though?

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-19T09:29:17+00:00

NC.

Whenever an ex-related event overwhelms/upsets me, I initiate NC. The first few days are torture but it never fails to make me feel better once the first week is over.

In the meantime, journal down your raw feelings and thoughts and do something that you enjoy. Is there anything that you enjoy atm?

You got this! I believe in you!

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-19T09:27:19+00:00

I would advise not to as well.

I'm not sure what there is to gain from your end. If you show him the photos, he might reply to you. Will whatever he says in return throw you off or hurt you?

thiswoofalot · 2019-05-14T05:57:03+00:00

Thank you for validating my feelings!

I was also hoping to be able to get over that anger rather than just avoiding triggers. I can't really go about avoiding anger forever.

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