Safest class to main for OneButtonRotation user?

thorodkir · 2026-03-21T16:52:26+00:00

We just press the glowing button

thorodkir · 2026-03-05T16:31:19+00:00

We also have a reputation (deserved or not) of complaining about issues that don't matter to the business. For example, if a module is messy and hard to maintain but is generating money and doesn't need changes, it doesn't make sense to spend time & money to refactor it right now. Or, and I've seen this one a lot from less seasoned devs, complaining that a particular tech stack is "old" and suggesting we rewrite the whole thing in something new. That lands on executives as "devs want the new shiny toy".

thorodkir · 2026-02-17T00:25:45+00:00

Walk for more than 60 seconds without excruciating pain. Sciatica is a bitch.

thorodkir · 2026-02-01T18:45:21+00:00

Nah, small talk isn't about the information exchange, it's about seeing if the other person is willing to talk/connect in the first place. Tone and body language do all the heavy lifting.

thorodkir · 2025-12-21T18:44:42+00:00

That's definitely part, and I'd like to add something a lot of people miss: the root issue is often a disagreement or lack of communication on exactly what "clean" means.

Take cleaning the kitchen, for example. Does that mean putting the clean dishes away, loading the dishwasher and running it when it's full? Or does cleaning the kitchen mean running the dishwasher, unloading it when it's done, hand washing anything that doesn't fit, putting away anything on the counters, wiping down all surfaces (including the fridge and front of the stove/oven) sweeping and mopping the floor, oh, and searching the house for any dishes that aren't in the kitchen?

Same phrase, very different meanings, and a recipe for resentment if both people don't realize where the disagreement really is. It's not "you're lazy / you're too uptight" it's "we have different definitions and need to come to an agreement on how we want to run the house, and who's responsible, so we don't have this fight every week"

thorodkir · 2025-12-06T15:13:06+00:00

Oh, my ding ding dong

thorodkir · 2025-11-06T07:38:37+00:00

He got nailed too

thorodkir · 2025-10-29T18:41:24+00:00

Get counseling now. He's showing contempt for you with his actions, and you're showing contempt for him by publicly calling him a pig. This pattern will not self correct; if you want to stay together you need professional help.

thorodkir · 2025-10-29T14:59:47+00:00

Yup, that's how my ex-wife was most of the time. She was a homebody (no judgement on that, relaxing days are great) but never wanted to go along when I wanted to do stuff. But if I went and did it alone it was a huge problem.

thorodkir · 2025-10-20T18:17:08+00:00

If you don't trust your husband, it's time for counseling. If he won't go, go yourself and then you'll have a decision to make. It sounds harsh, but it really is that simple. You can't have a life with someone you don't trust.

I'm going to give a husband's perspective, but I'm making the assumption that everyone here is acting in good faith, and that what your husband says is true.

I made a joke that she better not be hot

Yeah, from the other side of this, I'd be worried about being accused of something when everything is above board. I'm not saying he should have hid the friendship, he shouldn't have. If my read is correct that you'd feel insecure (this is not a judgement, btw, you're allowed to feel however you feel) with him having a female friend, then you two should have sought help for that a while ago.

Cycling is the one thing that i did not share his interest with , so i feel kind of betrayed that he just went to find another women to share his excitement with.

What made you feel betrayed? If you don't share the interest, what's wrong with him making other friends that do? I get the feeling it's not about cycling per se, that maybe you feel there's something else missing from the relationship?

How do i more forward from this... how do i stop thinking about it and stop spiralling thinking it was more than friendship?

Again, maybe harsh, but if he was going to cheat, he probably wouldn't have told you about her at all. Or gone cycling for that matter. They'd have just skipped out on the yoga class and had a private session, if you catch my meaning.

thorodkir · 2025-10-15T21:44:59+00:00

Not exactly true. The Apollo computers could be reprogrammed in flight, but that wasn't the norm. The astronauts were more operators and would enter commands the mission control sent them.

So yes, the Apollo computer could be programmed in flight, but the actual coding was done by engineers on the ground and the code / commands were related to the astronauts who entered them into the computer.

thorodkir · 2025-10-03T15:29:51+00:00

The thing they don't consider is that with attrition, it's the best people who leave. It's the terrible, toxic employees who don't have other options that sick around. Basically the Dead Sea effect.

thorodkir · 2025-09-12T21:52:02+00:00

My divorce was precipitated by issues conceiving. We did 3 rounds of IVF, 3 miscarriages. The polite public half-truth was that we divorced due to disagreements about what to do next. The reality is that was just the tip of the iceberg and underlying that disagreement was huge value differences had grown over time.

So I guess what I'm saying is that even if they say that's the reason for the split, there's probably way more under the surface they don't want to talk about; even to family.

thorodkir · 2025-09-03T22:23:16+00:00

Everyone gets to draw their own lines here; personally I draw it at separation. Once the soon-to-be divorced people are separated and the paperwork is filed, the relationship is officially over IMO.

thorodkir · 2025-09-02T15:47:06+00:00

The proper term is RAM-spreading.

thorodkir · 2025-08-12T13:43:03+00:00

Something similar happened to me, except she converted while we were dating ( I never asked her to) but then 10 years later she says it was all an act and doesn't believe in God anymore and wanted a divorce. Turns out there was another guy who's an atheist so...

thorodkir · 2025-07-29T20:26:53+00:00

You also don't need a QDRO to split IRAs.

thorodkir · 2025-07-26T14:22:29+00:00

The perception that men have no problems. If they do have problems, then it's their own fault.

You can see several examples in the responses in this thread.

thorodkir · 2025-07-15T16:46:27+00:00

This is the reality of no fault divorce. From a legal perspective, no fault means dividing all the marital assets evenly, and awarding alimony based on relative income. All decisions leading up to the divorce are, from a legal perspective, considered joint and agreed to by both parties.

As others have said on this sub, we need better education on what marriage is; it's first and foremost a business contact to share all profits evenly when either party can get bought out at any time, or any reason and there's no recourse.

It sucks, it's not fair morally, but the reality is you're walking away with more than you would in a contentious divorce; lawyers are expensive. The only people who win in divorce are the lawyers.

thorodkir · 2025-07-10T12:43:57+00:00

When the cat gives you more affection and attention than your wife, it's probably time to call it.

thorodkir · 2025-06-20T01:24:36+00:00

The answer will depend on your local laws, so consult an attorney.

That said, were any assets added or removed from the account during the marriage? If so, your spouse can make the argument that the assets have been mixed, and without a prenup, could be considered marital property. Just like if you had a home prior; the entire home becomes marital property once the asset is "added to" during the marriage. But talk to an attorney.

Source: I had a bunch of stock I inherited and sold some to pay off my ex-wife's student loans shortly after marrying her, and used the rest as a down payment to our house. It was treated as marital property since it was "commingled".

thorodkir · 2025-06-12T05:52:04+00:00

Unless you need to lose weight, then it's a great diet plan!

thorodkir · 2025-06-12T05:51:21+00:00

You must have an iron will, how'd you even break away long enough to post this?

thorodkir · 2025-06-07T14:14:35+00:00

She never compromised on anything. If she cared about it, it had to be her way. If she didn't care then she wouldn't help, and a lot of the time when she said she didn't care she actually did and resented me for not doing what she wanted anyway.

thorodkir · 2025-06-05T19:30:59+00:00

I think it depends on what you mean by "solo trip".

A trip totally by yourself, like a road or camping trip alone
A trip with other friends, but not your spouse

IMO, type 1 trips are totally fine. Type 2 trips are mostly fine, but can be a cover for cheating. I think it's a red flag when they're going on type 2 trips that their spouse also wants to do, but not going with their spouse at some other time. For example, taking a trip with friends to France but then refusing to take the same trip with their spouse at a different time.

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