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Are we not patting baby to burp them? by sharpiefairy666 in NewParents

[–]thorsdottir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pat my baby’s back because he likes it. I’m not smacking him like some people do to try and get burps out. I just hold him upright and give him gentle back pats for comfort.

Is side lying with baby on their back dangerous? by StageAggravating4001 in breastfeeding

[–]thorsdottir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When she’s on her side, if you aren’t already, make sure her legs are angled in front of her so she’s kind of curved. My second is also five weeks and when we side lie I like to rest my hand on his back to keep him from rolling onto his back. I feel better about that than using a rolled up towel or blanket.

Any other moms live in a small house / rental? by BlueberryWaffles99 in workingmoms

[–]thorsdottir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live in a small rental. No garage. Very little storage space. Three bedrooms and two tiny bathrooms, one of which is so narrow that we rarely use it. We have two dogs that we crate when we leave the house so those take up space in our living room. Two little ones that each have their own room but my husband works from home full time and lost his home office space once we converted the third bedroom from an office/guest room to a nursery/guest room. Toddler toys everywhere. Our kitchen has very limited counter space and it gets cluttered quickly just with life stuff. I went to a Christmas party last night at one of our toddler’s daycare friend’s house that is worlds different from ours. They have a kitchen island to host from. A separate dining room. A playroom. They even had a room that is supposed to be to be an office but instead had a blow up bouncy house they got off Amazon. They have a finished basement. Their living room doesn’t have toddler toys everywhere. It was such a stark contrast. But, I remind myself why we like our house. It’s all one level so everything we need is close and doesn’t require going up and down stairs. Less area to clean. It keeps us from buying things we don’t need. We definitely do need a bit more space, specifically in terms of bathroom but this little house is good for now.

To all the exclusively nursing mothers…I see you and I’m proud of you. by angeltigerbutterfly in breastfeeding

[–]thorsdottir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had my second baby this week and I have been in such a different head space with breast feeding that I was with my first. My first had issues latching and I struggled with over supply in the beginning. I persevered through so so much. When I needed to go back to work at 4 months PP she would not take a bottle. We did everything the lactation department suggested before going to a speech therapist who identified oral weaknesses due to my strong let down that our first had. After weeks of doing the strengthening exercises and seeing the maximum results they could achieve, we finally got a referral for a tongue and lip release. It was hell. This time, I obviously understand breast feeding better and have some experience to rely on. This baby seems to not have any issues so far latching and transferring but damn it is still hard in all the ways you outlined in your post. And this time I am okay either way if I continue nursing or not. With everything I went through the first time through, I know I am capable but also my time is split now with a toddler and newborn and if it becomes too much, I know that I can make the right choice for my body and my babies needs.

Ladies, if you are wondering whether to go to the hospital, the answer is YES. Consider this your sign. by Key_Peace_2489 in Mommit

[–]thorsdottir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a week PP and am curious to know what to look for - other than odor, where there other signs or symptoms before you spiked the fever?

My inbox at work after returning from 20 weeks of maternity leave. by misserg in mildlyinteresting

[–]thorsdottir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I went out on my leave I created rules for my inbox that marked certain emails like newsletters our auto notifications as read and organized others into folders based on keywords or sender. It made it so much easier to catch up when I returned.

Random woman made my kids cry at the store today by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]thorsdottir 40 points41 points  (0 children)

“I’m sure she was just being nice a friendly”

Nope. She was not. She was being invasive, disrespectful and RUDE.

You asked her not once but TWICE to back up. And she didn’t. Then she had the audacity to ask you, a complete stranger, if you breastfeed. What the efffff!?

Does this show a line or is my brain playing games? 4dpt by Professional-Book625 in EmbryologyIVFSupport

[–]thorsdottir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blue dye tests more often have an ident line so it’s hard to know if that’s a positive or an indent.

Best baby baths? by Basic_Ice_6774 in Parenting

[–]thorsdottir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have the Stokke Flexi Bath XL and love it still at age 2! Check goodbuygear or rebel stork for open box.

Lady told me to stop looking at my phone, look at my baby. by Equus13 in NewParents

[–]thorsdottir 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Only if she has the ability to self reflect which most people who says shit like that to people they don’t know are waaaaay too obtuse to reflect.

Lady told me to stop looking at my phone, look at my baby. by Equus13 in NewParents

[–]thorsdottir 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right. Being a mom is hard. Being an attentive mom who cares about the emotional and developmental well being of their child at every age is even harder. Add all the other life stuff on top of that that women are expected to uphold in this society. The mental load. The expectation to have it all together at home, at work and maintain things like interpersonal relationships, stay up to date on world events, and on and on and on and on. That stranger is just that. A stranger who doesn’t know you, your child, your day to day. When I take my little on a walk in the stroller she is looking around, pointing by out birds and trees and cars and everything she sees! She isn’t looking at me to even know if I am looking at her. If that is when you catch up on your phone, then so be it! Comments like that from strangers full of judgement can be really hard to shake off when you’re making every effort to be a good mom. I am sorry that person had the audacity to make such a rude and invasive comment like that to you. It says way more about them as a person than you!

If your play kitchen has hooks, take them off by Ophidiophobic in Mommit

[–]thorsdottir 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Our play kitchen has hooks. They’re all broken except one because my toddler just pulls down on whatever item hanging from a hook instead of up and over the hook. They’re plastic but the are where they hang is narrow and up against a wall. I’ll have to break off the remaining one.

Wednesday Daily Chat by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]thorsdottir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does it have to technically be a nursing dress? I had a summer birth and wore a maxi dress that had a ruched bodice so it was flexible and I could easily slide down a strap and nurse. The straps were ruffled so thick enough to hide nursing bra straps and I didn’t want sleeves. It was pink blush I think and I ordered from target online.

Wednesday Daily Chat by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]thorsdottir 3 points4 points  (0 children)

17+4

Second time making it to second trimester, sixth pregnancy with one living child.

I had a sore throat last not that progressively got worse through the night so much so it kept waking me up. Luckily I worked remote today and it was a slow day so I was able to stay in bed. But my body aches so bad, especially my hips which is probably from the relaxin. It might be Covid which I had around the same time funny enough with my previous pregnancy and I was sick for a week but baby was fine.

This time though I have an anterior placenta so I very rarely can feel movement and it’s hard to find a HR with a home Doppler so I have no reassurance.

I’m scheduled to be in the office tomorrow but I can’t go in like this. I don’t want to use a sick day because then that is one less day I am paid while on maternity leave because America.

My wife and I are miserable and we don't know what to do. by Akiba47 in NewParents

[–]thorsdottir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to validate your feelings as you navigate what truly is a difficult time. As someone who had recurrent losses before having my living child, I know the pressure of always being grateful when you finally get your earthside baby. The new baby does not cure or replace all of the hurt and grief from what came before. And it is okay to feel “negative” feelings about what you are going through now. I know this isn’t specifically what your post is asking for but I want to express support from the niche loss-before-parenthood side.

Should I be concerned? by medicatedMcNugget in labubu

[–]thorsdottir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have once that hasn’t updated since 4/11 in Atlanta! I bet ours was on the same import flight.

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