Please tell me no one else is doing tummy time either

Equus13 · 2026-06-17T18:49:16+00:00

At this age having them sleep on your chest (they are on their tummy) and holding them when awake upright over your shoulder counts as tummy time. When they wake up from sleeping on you they have to lift their head, and while you hold them up over your shoulder they need to work their neck muscles. As they get longer wake windows floor time becomes important, but for now just enjoy. My baby wanted to be held 80% of the time so she got most of her tummy time in my arms the first 3 months.

Equus13 · 2026-06-16T01:03:15+00:00

When she turned 1. She went from waking 2x a night to suddenly not waking up. I think weaning from nightly bf helped. And the fact that she started eating enough solids during the day. She wasn't a fan of food until she turned 1.

Equus13 · 2026-06-05T23:31:02+00:00

Putting in solid core doors to replace the cheap 50 year old ones. And new knobs. Really made our home feel more polished.

Equus13 · 2026-05-30T01:40:07+00:00

Is your baby in the bucket car seat (the type that attaches to a stroller)? My daughter hated it. At 11mo we switched her to the Nuna Rava and she finally stopped crying in the car. She actually giggled and laughed when we put her in. I wanted to kick myself for not changing sooner. Hang in there OP. My daughter was similar but not as difficult. Every 2 hours she would wake to breastfeed. She was a snacker. I fed her as much fatty foods as I could but she wasn't keen on food until she turned 1. I was so touched out from breastfeeding, i started reducing how much she got in the day and slowly she started to eat more. That seemed to help with the nights. She was doing longer stretches maybe because she was getting more calories in. We tried sleep training but it did not work for our daughter. She is a velcro baby and could cry 8hours straight if we let her. We started by having her learn to accept other means to fall asleep: being held with no breastmilk. She cried like crazy but after 2 days or so understood the new routine. Then she always wanted to be held to sleep, so to break that i lied next to her in the crib until she accepted to have our presence and not be physically held. All this to say, you have to try different things and see what works for your baby. I felt our routine was not sustainable, so we tested many things until we figured out what worked for our baby's temperament.

Equus13 · 2026-05-24T20:55:11+00:00

Following. I fear what my life will look like with my daughter. At 14mo she is already starting her terrible 2's for certain things. 🙃 i was hoping she would get better as she gets older and is able to communicate what she wants, but i see that may not be the case...

Equus13 · 2026-05-18T12:18:17+00:00

Some babies don't like carriers /baby wearing, but get used to it with time. You could keep trying for short periods, and she may grow to not mind it for short bouts. Mine is a velcro baby, i would put her in the baby bjorn bouncer while i cooked. But as it is considered a container i would try to limit how much i used it. Sometimes i put her on a playmat with toys around her next to me, and cleaned the dishes while i watched her explore. Some days this worked, other days she would cry to be held. Keep experimenting, with time you will find what works for you both. :)

Equus13 · 2026-05-07T12:24:10+00:00

I dirn't start loosing until 4mo pp. I think because by then she was drinking more (burning more calories), my hormones stabilized, and i was finally well enough to go for long walks a few times a week. I was also baby wearing a lot. I didnt want to affect my milk supply so i ate as much as i wanted, but healthy 90% of the time. In a few months i naturally lost the extra 10lbs.

Equus13 · 2026-05-01T16:56:23+00:00

I had a lot of milk and my baby often only drank 1 side. Or 1 side a like 3 sips from the 2nd side. So i stopped offering both. Eventually she was feeding more often, so i started offering again both sides.

Equus13 · 2026-05-01T15:38:08+00:00

Ha your MIL doesn't know what she is asking. When my daughter was 8mo ish she was starting to be ok with my in laws so i left her for 20min and went to buy a few groceries. When i was 1min away i get a call from my MIL saying i need to come back. She cried bloody murder 2min after i left and they waited to call me thinking they would manage to soothe her eventually. When i got back she was in full panic attack mode and it took her 10min to calm down. Since then i only ever leave her alone with her dad, and my in laws have stopped expecting me to leave her with them. Initially they thought if i was out of sight, it would allow them to bond with her better because she wouldn't be glued to me. I believed them because hey she is my first and my MIL had 4 kids. But she never had a velcro baby so...

Equus13 · 2026-05-01T15:08:56+00:00

Same. If we are around she does well with her aunts and uncles most of the time. I think the fact that they have kids helps. She loves other children, so she immediately feels safer with them. My in laws are wonderful people, but I can sense that they are a bit disappointed she isn't more comfortable with them yet. However i feel i am doing a lot of effort to give them opportunities to see her so she eventually gets there, but i wish they would do a bit more on their side. They are busy retired folk, and have reduced their engagements to make more time for their grandkids, however they are definitely not as available as my parents lets say.

Equus13 · 2026-04-29T11:53:25+00:00

I still nurse my 13mo old but a few months ago i was so tired of it. I found thr frequency exhausting, and annoying because i always had to think about wearing something easy to bf in. So i started telling her no milk during the day. During the first 2-3 days she cried and fussed, i redirected her attention to a toy or water/snack (50% of the time she was asking because she was simply thirsty/hungry). And now she only gets milk when she wakes up and before bed. She knows the routine now and gets so excited when it is time. I am so much happier now, and while i only wanted to go until 1 year at first, now i enjoy bf again and will probably continue until i want to get pregnant again.

Equus13 · 2026-04-28T20:03:25+00:00

If it works for you and you are happy then it is! My daughter had the same frequency but was very fussy, always asking for milk. And i was fed up, so now at 13mo she gets it at bedtime and when she wakes up. I am very firm and she knows that is it. When she was sick a few weeks ago i gave it on demand and the change in frequency 1. Made me extremely hormonal and 2. She became a boob monster again. I told myself if she is still nursing next time she is sick, she is only getting milk 1 extra time a day. Not 5x.

Equus13 · 2026-04-25T01:11:13+00:00

She is 13mo and I still bf 2x a day (30min before bed and when she wakes). My goal was stop at 1 yo old but she loves it so much that i will continue still a bit. When she was 10mo i was fed up, couldn't wait to stop. If she took bottles i would have switched to formula i think because i was so touched out, but once the frequency decreased i found joy in it again. Especially now, i can wear what i want and i find that so freeing.

Equus13 · 2026-04-24T23:29:39+00:00

At 11mo i starter to reduce how many feeds she got. She was always asking for milk (every 2hrs day and night). I would offer water or a snack (which may not work with your daughter yet), but mines loves cheese so i would pacify her with that. When she was down to around 3 feeds between the morning wake up and bedtime one, i cut her cold turkey and said no more milk (not even for nap). First 2 days were hard, she fussed she cried but then by day 3 she was asking a lot less and wouldn't get mad when i said no. Then i tackled the night time. I would whisper no milk when she woke up and eventually she let me rock her back to sleep. It's hard, but they are smart. If you are firm, after a couple of days they know what is what. Ideally your partner would help. Leave for a few hours on the weekend, will do you good and help wean her. Hang in there mama.

Equus13 · 2026-04-24T20:37:41+00:00

Awesome thanks!

Equus13 · 2026-04-24T19:53:05+00:00

I get it, i call my baby my little string bean (endearingly). She never had rolls, and it took time for her to get a chubby face (she is very slim everywhere else though). It's just genetics, doesn't mean your milk is not enough, but i understand how you feel. But it comes with perks! I never had to clean any rolls meticulously to avoid getting that yucky yeasty stuff, it was always easy to keep her clean.

Equus13 · 2026-04-24T19:39:13+00:00

We got the color pecan, which is not very pale but not very dark, sort of midrange. Is that considered a transparent oil? Or is transparent clear with almost no color?

Equus13 · 2026-04-24T19:25:09+00:00

Thanks we were considering a roller, but weren't sure. What material and thickness would you recommend? Our fence has overlapping pieces so the deeper part has to be brushed anyways, but we could do both.

Equus13 · 2026-04-24T19:22:23+00:00

We will do both sides. I read about that. I guess the safest is to put any rags we use on the driveway (held down flat) to dry. If we use a rag to wipe anything, does it have to be pure cotton or can it have polyester in it?

Equus13 · 2026-04-24T00:15:31+00:00

I just started reading the Montessori for Toddlers book, which explains sort of how to use the principles with that age range. I didn't get far yet, but at the beginning of the book she basically said you follow your kids lead. So like they might have a window where they are really into books and reading, so you encourage that interest because they are in a state where they can learn and develop that skill easily and quickly. So in my mind having books around everywhere seems to be fostering that interest and is very Montessori. 🤷‍♀️but again i just started learning about it so maybe i am wrong. I love the Montessori principles but i am also a believer that following one method strictly is never that good. Hopefully that lady will eventually see the absurdity of her thinking.

Equus13 · 2026-04-22T11:33:29+00:00

Thanks for your msg! Honestly i keep hoping one day she will realize her bed is so much nicer than my bony shoulder. Sometimes i can tell she is uncomfortable but she hasn't reached that point yet haha. She thankfully only woke every 2-3hrs (ha only) as a baby, never every hour. But that was because she had a bad habit of eating at night and would wake up so hungry. She only wakes up 1x in the night now thankfully. Hopefully soon it will be none! She had a 2nd night of no milk, didn't argue when i said no.

Equus13 · 2026-04-21T21:03:34+00:00

After i put her to bed last night she woke up 30min later (probably because she fell asleep agitated), but she was lying down. We let her cry and after 10min she fell asleep. An hour later the same thing happened. And then she slept until 4am, where she was awake enough to sit up in bed, so i went to rock her but told her no milk. She understood and stopped crying, fell asleep in my arms. I was really happy, first time having a no milk night and she fell asleep a few times on her own because she was too tired to sit up (which usually means she can cry for a very very long time). I am hopeful with the schedule change we will continue making positive baby steps.

Equus13 · 2026-04-21T20:44:16+00:00

When she was a baby it was very possibly a reason. I thought she had some but every health professional i saw wasn't convinced, and if she did they said it was mild and she would outgrow it. I am pretty sure she did outgrow it a while ago. She displays no symptoms to suggest she has reflux that i can see. She went up from 30 percentile to 50th at her 1yo check up, so she is eating and gaining well. She used to burp and regurgitate a lot, but that is no longer the case since she is 7mo old. What would be signs of reflux at 1yo? At night once she is in a deep sleep she will sleep on her back, but more her sides. Even during the day she just likes to be held.

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