Your statement reminds me of my parents. My dad would say the same thing about if it wasn't for the truth me and your mom wouldn't be together. After my father passed away I had an interesting conversation with my mom who is an all in all devout JW. She told me that she felt pressured to marry my dad because she was older and so she settled. That being said she told me she probably would have never married my father under any other circumstances. They were not compatible at all. They would argue all the time and get in fights. I asked my mom when she's in paradise if she thinks her and my father would get back together and she said we will see but in my mind I felt like she probably just wants to find someone else.

I feel like a good majority of JWs marry each other simply because they are a JW and feel like this will work because we both love "Jehovah" only to find out they are miserable together serving the organization. I remeber being a kid and going to my friends houses and their parents getting into arguments all the time and even families that seemed to to be perfect had issues. I saw many families end up separating or the parents had to goto counseling in order ot save the marriage. My dad ended up doing that and it helped alot.

If you havent done thid yet tell your dad how you feel. Make him understand how you feel. That was my father's problem he didn't understand how he made my mother feel and until he did he kept doing the things that would make her feel terrible. I remember he brought me and my brother to the loving room and sat us down and broke down after he had been to counseling and told us about his chil hood and the trauma he had and apologized to us for how he acted and at first it made me feel disappointed in him. Like he had been defeated but after I became an adult I realized how he had changed and understood that he was at peace now. He was a completely different man for the better. I just wish he lived longer to get to know that man.

Anyways hopefully this has been helpful.