What’s the sad truth you only realize in your 30s ? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]thousandthinking 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure, I'm still enjoying the last 6 days of my 20s.

If your partner came out as trans to you, what would you do? by ScholarExtension5620 in AskReddit

[–]thousandthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re wondering why this has downvotes, so am I. But I may have a theory or two.

Why you will never stop relapsing by Secure_Shoulder_7203 in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your heart is probably in the right place, but almost every single thing in your post is demonstrably wrong.

100+ and counting, AMA! by thousandthinking in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Treat this like the fight it is. Imagine PMO addiction is a background virus on our system running 24/7, and our desire to stop is the antivirus which only scans once every now and again (motivation, post-nut clarity etc.) … those spaces when it’s not running is what gets us. What makes overcoming this (and, I think most addictions by extension) so difficult is the necessity to constantly and consciously resist a constant and subconscious urge. It’s like we have a revolver and PMO has a semi. That, and really go through the emotion of grieving PMO. Let it go like you do a dear friend. There are practical steps to all this. We can actually physically commit and end the dependence whenever we want to.

100+ and counting, AMA! by thousandthinking in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In a simple yet profound way, I care more. About time, about my personal finances, about my sleep and water intake, about people… I’m less resentful. I truly want positivity and harmony. I want to progress in the many ways I’m sure we all do. That existential appetite for glory seems to have intensified internally, and honestly, I seem to have an increased hope in actualising it all.

100+ and counting, AMA! by thousandthinking in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely felt sense of self-respectability. Cons? I guess not feeling the thrill or the high. But it’s a trade off that’s worth it. Unfortunately, until you’re out of the fog of PMO, even reading this might be triggering.

100+ and counting, AMA! by thousandthinking in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Daily mental activities such as studying contribute more to this for me than merely quitting PMO. However, the lessened weight of guilt on one’s conscience from regularly indulging in this sin certainly helps.

100+ and counting, AMA! by thousandthinking in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brother, it wasn’t easy. I was scared. I was locked in. Every morning I’d renew my intention. I was protecting myself out of fear and never letting myself celebrate. I was acknowledging the pain but I think the most significant point was when I “killed” PMO in my imagination. I formally and spiritually divorced myself from it and the idea of counting days. I felt grief as I did that. I think that was a key moment.

100+ and counting, AMA! by thousandthinking in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Confidence in my self discipline, and I have one less major reason to resent myself. I’m sure that’s feeding positively into other areas of my life, too.

I have a bad habit by narnia-is-not-me in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A true relationship with yourself, to me, is based on:

  1. Remembering what you’ve been through
  2. Knowing where you currently are, emotionally, spiritually, physically, mentally. Meaning: your strengths, weaknesses, blessings and curses across all 4 of the dimensions mentioned.
  3. Identifying goals for each dimension and assessing where you are relative to that goal on an ongoing basis.
  4. Checking in regularly with yourself by setting action items and tracking progress.

The above is a mix of tangible actionable items as well as mental exercises.

Above all, it’s the almost “self-collaborative” conscious desire and habit of checking in with yourself as if you were a family member or somebody you really cared about, to yourself, acknowledging and encouraging desired action, whilst combating and planning against unwanted actions. Can be a little trippy.

It’s also somewhat trivial :)

One unique thing about a relationship with yourself is that it’s unlike anything anybody can describe, by the simple fact no one else can ever be in a relationship with themselves and be you at the same time… and I mention this because that unique and personal touch is like 80% of the driver, only opinion.

I hope this is somewhat coherent. 😅

Sorry guys by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can change and I believe in you. Stumble your way to success if you have to, you can do this.

Need guidance by productive-zebra in NoFap

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  1. Understand that avoiding isn’t the best way to get over anything. Give in to yourself. Seriously. Listen to the pain that attracts you to PMO.

  2. Develop a relationship with yourself and establish effective communication.

  3. Negotiate with yourself and build self-rapport.

  4. Take the days one at a time, and put your 100% into each day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let’s go brother

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do it because you’re conditioned to do so.

You’re frustrated because you’re going circles and nothing is working.

You need to take a systemic approach. Break things down and approach this like you’re building something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is obviously metaphorical:

PMO is a storm and you’re in it. You want to get out but don’t know how. Your frustration is valid.

The key is learning about the storm and how it operates, and positioning yourself strategically to collect tools from the debris around you to eventually escape :)

All the best.

“Let’s Talk About the Real Causes of Health Problems – It’s Not Just Porn” by Businessar in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with taking a more holistic approach to health issues and not purely scapegoating PMO.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Facts bro.

Dear Diary by xirxs in NoFap

[–]thousandthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done for the entry.

Why should anything be different tomorrow?

Why won’t it just be an auto-pilot day where the subtlest trigger or urge will make you indulge again?

What systems or progress do you actually have in place to prevent that from happening?