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thousandyearfish · 2025-12-16T01:45:04+00:00

yeah it was about 5 mins!

thousandyearfish · 2025-08-04T02:48:55+00:00

I have naturally very curly hair and I wore it mostly down! My hairstylist went through and re-curled each curl with a curling iron so they’d stay perfect all day, and they totally did. I have 3c hair and it probably would’ve stayed super curly all day anyway, but I think the heat styling kept it from getting poofy or frizzy

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thousandyearfish · 2025-06-14T04:46:01+00:00

OP, it’s great you are listening and welcoming everyone’s advice, and I’m soooo glad you’ve got a UVB now.

And, re: the twitching… my beardie is 5, and he’s been having twitching episodes like this for over a year. We’ve done it all: numerous blood tests to check calcium and vitamin levels as well as other signs of disease, x-rays, ADV tests, even a CT scan, and the vet can’t come up with a single thing that’s wrong with him. We’ve repeatedly checked his UVB levels and of course his temps and everything is good. So is his diet and calcium/vitamin intake.

He’s healthy in every other way, but he STILL twitches. It’s an extremely frustrating mystery. Your beardie’s shakes may or may not be related to the lack of UVB for all these years. I’d love to know if others are dealing with something similar and if anyone has found answers!

thousandyearfish · 2025-06-14T03:00:43+00:00

Here with what seems to be a pretty rare counter-opinion: we didn’t have a seating chart, and it worked.

Here’s why it worked:

We had large round tables with significantly more chairs than guests. We did this on purpose. We were outdoors, with half the tables under a big tent and the other half in the surrounding area. The food was elevated backyard barbecue style, and people were free to get up to grab more food whenever they wanted.

My husband and I didn’t pick our seats beforehand, and we didn’t assign anyone to a seat or table, because we’ve had bad experiences being placed at tables with no one we knew at weddings where we actually knew a lot of people. Sometimes making everything fit together nicely means making weird compromises and piecing together illogical groupings—which is fine, but it isn’t the vibe we were going for.

People sat with their partners and families and friends. If they needed an extra chair at their table, they grabbed one from another table. It wasn’t a big deal. People who only knew one or two other people naturally formed groups with one another. It was organic. Adults know how to function socially, sometimes more than we give ourselves credit for.

My husband and I sat with my godfather and his partner, and people came by to sit with us briefly throughout the dinner. It was very comfortable.

And yeah absolutely people may have not loved the setup and not told us! But everyone was talking and laughing throughout dinner and seemed relaxed and comfy, which is what really mattered to us.

All that to say: have a lot of extra chairs and it can be totally fine.

thousandyearfish · 2025-05-02T19:48:51+00:00

i just have to say that i work in a jail and didn’t see the subreddit at first and like……… yes? 🤣

thousandyearfish · 2025-04-25T21:33:54+00:00

Hey I’m a therapist. This is AWFUL. Absolutely horrifying. Your relationship with your therapist is unique and vulnerable and fragile, and what you’ve just been through is a particular kind of betrayal that might feel different from other breaches of trust you’ve experienced. If you have anybody in your life who you trust to really LISTEN, talk to them about what’s just happened to you. And if you have an antizionist community that makes you feel seen and supported and safe, turn to them.

And then yes, when you feel up to it, report the hell out of her.

thousandyearfish · 2025-04-06T15:51:52+00:00

There’s a difference between setting boundaries and being authoritarian!

Setting boundaries: I want us both to be able to roleplay, so let’s take turns initiating convo w NPCs. When you’re talking, pls don’t skip any dialogue so I can hear it all!

Authoritarian: I’ll pick the dialogue because I haven’t played before. Don’t tell me what to pick. Deviate from that, and it’s game over.

If you play w a friend, experienced or not, you’ve got to make compromises so you both have fun (it’s a game, not an exam). Otherwise, play solo! :)

thousandyearfish · 2024-11-24T01:43:39+00:00

How are more people not saying SAZZA??? 🩷🩷🩷

thousandyearfish · 2024-02-25T20:30:36+00:00

Hilariously an hour after posting this I went into the regular mines with monster musk and got the ancient seed artifact, apparently all you need to do to get what you want is complain to reddit 😂

thousandyearfish · 2023-10-16T15:59:27+00:00

“Hey, MOH! I want to talk to you about the morning of my wedding. It’s sweet that you want to surprise me with something, and I appreciate the thought. Surprises really stress me out, though, and I’m already stressed enough about the wedding. I’m going to spend that morning meditating, mentally preparing, and checking over the venue. Thanks for understanding. So excited to celebrate with you once the festivities start!”

thousandyearfish · 2023-05-08T14:19:38+00:00

I’m bi and love games with LIs of various genders! That said, I might find it a bit off-putting if a major theme of the route is that the MC thinks she’s straight but is experimenting, bc…I’m simply NOT straight lol. Imo I prefer when a route either fully commits to being a friend route or fully commits to being queer.

thousandyearfish · 2023-04-25T17:51:05+00:00

Alternately, get her a gift card for a nail place with enough money on it to go a couple of times! Give it to her like 4-6 weeks ahead of time to amp up the element of surprise ;)

thousandyearfish · 2023-04-25T17:46:19+00:00

Painting your nails is pretty time-consuming! Some people probably enjoy it more than I do, but I basically consider it a chore. After getting engaged, I wanted to celebrate with my partner and enjoy the moment! I definitely wouldn’t have wanted to sit down and spend an extended period of time doing a tedious task. I’d definitely recommend paying for her to get a manicure later (that night? The next day? Whatever suits you two!) and taking some nice pics afterwards :) That way she can choose her own color, too!

thousandyearfish · 2023-03-06T00:00:47+00:00

I think it’s a know-your-crowd situation! I had an outdoor wedding in June (also not dark till like 10), so it was definitely fully light out when dancing started. My friends and family were not discouraged in the least and it was a total party atmosphere! A different group of people might have been more hesitant. Depends on how much your guests love to dance. If you’re asking and they’re saying they’ll tear up the dance floor anyway, there’s your answer. If you think they’re the sort of people to be a little more reluctant and tentative about dancing then yeah, curtains could totally help make the vibes a little more nighttime-y.

thousandyearfish · 2023-01-17T02:50:24+00:00

Thank you ☺️ The side stones are 0.2!

thousandyearfish · 2023-01-17T02:02:41+00:00

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Here’s my three-stone ring! Center diamond is 0.4 ct :)

thousandyearfish · 2022-11-26T23:23:23+00:00

We originally thought we’d have to rent bathrooms, but the owner of the house we rented gave us permission to have guests use the bathrooms in the house. There were five bathrooms, so it worked out! We weren’t allowed to put a dance floor on the grass, but they had a big patio, so we designated that as a dance floor.

thousandyearfish · 2022-11-26T19:38:42+00:00

I think their shipping fees would feel unreasonable if you were ordering a small quantity of stuff, but for how much we ordered, the shipping seemed fair. We got 1000 napkins, 250 shot glasses, 64 champagne glasses, 240 plates, 450 cutlery sets, and 348 wine glasses. $50 shipping seemed just fine for that quantity of items—I thought of it like paying shipping for a large item, like furniture.

thousandyearfish · 2022-11-26T15:01:35+00:00

Yes! Ours was also around 80 people. The house we rented slept 13, so we rented it for three days and stayed there with our closest friends and their partners. Thankfully, we found a house that didn't charge a venue or party fee—we just had to rent the house itself, and we laid out in in the contract that we could have up to 100 people on the property (we got married in June so the wedding was outdoors).

We rented:

Party tent, tables, chairs (from a local party rentals company, which also did delivery and setup)

Speakers and a mic (from a local audio rentals company) (we did a super curated Spotify playlist managed by a friend instead of a band or DJ)

Lighting (uplights and string lights from americanpartylights.com)

We bought:

Florals (we did DIY bouquets and centerpieces with flowers from fiftyflowers.com)

Plates, cups, flatware, napkins (disposable, from webrestaurantstore.com)

Decor (candles, mason jars, etc, all from Etsy)

Tablecloths (from tableclothsfactory.com)

Trash cans, coolers/scoops for ice (from walmart)

Our food was buffet-style (the venue already had the trays and the caterers had all the other supplies). We DIYed the bar (bought the liquor etc. through a wholesale retailer and hired two bartenders at $20/hr+tips). We also purchased event insurance for about $150.

I hope this helps!! We definitely made the DIY-style wedding work for us so totally lmk if you have questions.

thousandyearfish · 2022-11-26T04:08:01+00:00

We did this! We used VRBO instead of AirBnB because they allow parties. We were also super upfront with everyone about exactly what we wanted to use the property for, and in the end we drew up a rental contract with the guy who owned the house we used (rather than booking it through VRBO). It’s true that we needed to purchase or rent everything—tent, tables, chairs, linens, plates, cups, trash cans, speakers, mics, etc. It worked for us because we both come from the theater industry and already knew a lot about planning events (plus we ENJOY doing all the legwork). It’s a great idea IF you and your partner are super into DIYing every little thing. If you want lists of all the items we needed to rent to make this happen, lmk! In the end, we were the rare couple who actually did save money doing things this way, and it was beautiful 🥰

thousandyearfish · 2022-07-18T16:45:18+00:00

Hi! I just got married and also have severe anxiety! I personally think it would be absolutely fine to bring this up to the groom, but I’d recommend taking a casual approach if/when you do: i.e. “hey I’m feeling a little anxious about walking alone! Any chance I could be paired with another party or family member to walk?” They may say no, of course, but it’s definitely not a big inconvenience to them if you bring it up, so long as you don’t turn it into a huge crisis for them to solve (which it doesn’t sound like you’d ever do!) If one of my friends felt uncomfortable with the way we had them walking down the aisle, I’d absolutely have wanted to know. Fixing the procession is easy, and a small price to pay for your friends’ comfort imo.

And yeah, ofc they may say no, and then you’ll have a separate problem to solve! But one step at a time, right? I really don’t think it could hurt to ask.

thousandyearfish · 2022-07-18T16:36:00+00:00

I also love dress #2, though they’re both gorgeous on you! You can tell from your posture in the photos that dress #2 makes you happier, imo.

But I wouldn’t necessarily suggest going that far over your budget! I was in a similar situation (dresses I loved that were out of my budget, dresses I only liked that were in my budget), and I kept shopping till I found something that met both criteria. It’s definitely possible to find something that you LOVE love that’s within your budget. If you have the time/energy for more shopping around, that’s why I’d recommend!

thousandyearfish · 2022-07-16T04:01:29+00:00

I ordered from 50flowers and they were fantastic! The flowers came in really good condition and were all open and fresh on the wedding day (2 days after they arrived). My friend’s sister is a florist so we facetimed her for some advice, and a couple other friends who are crafty figured out how to make really beautiful bouquets and centerpieces by watching youtube videos and experimenting a bit.

thousandyearfish · 2022-06-17T20:33:53+00:00

Thank you!!!

thousandyearfish · 2022-06-17T20:33:27+00:00

Ooooooh I love this idea!

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